Gah he sounds like my first ex. So he can **** your mouth but it's wrong to have full sexual intercourse because God didn't intend it? What is so holy about the vagina? It's just another part of the human body, just because he doesn't have one doesn't mean it is more special than your mouth. I'm not a Christian anymore but I'm going to talk with you from the Christian point of view because I respect your beliefs. If you believe that your body is a temple and you don't believe in sex before marriage, then the orifice doesn't matter. Oral is like giving, whereas intercourse is a different kind of equal shared intimacy. He feels guilty for sharing that equal intimacy with you because equal intimacy is like sharing one body, and that is wrong because you only become one when you are married. If you do it when you are not married then it is like he is invading the temple that is your body and displeasing God ect. However, it is the same kind of invasion if he uses your mouth for pleasure, but because he doesn't feel the same intimacy with you during oral, he thinks God is fine with that.
The way a lot of people see it: When the bible was written, it was perfectly normal for girls to get married off at the age of 12. Having sex with a virgin girl under the age of 12 really is invading her body especially if she is promised to marry someone else. And especially because there wasn't contraception so if someone had sex with her, they are being selfish and disregarding the effect they might have on her life. But in the bible it was OK for a man (E.G. Job and Noah did this) to have sex with his daughters because they are his responsibility - in those days they were probably considered his property.
It is your choice to decide how to interpret the bible:
- Protection. Is God's will simply that there should be no risk of children being born outside of marriage, that you should not put that at risk for your own pleasure? If oral is OK, then is sex with protection also OK?
- Body parts. Is the vagina/penis more holy than the mouth? Is it sinful to connect in sexual intercourse but OK for oral simply because only one person's intimate areas are involved?
- Intimacy. Does God disapprove of sexual intimacy before marriage? Or does he just disapprove of people having sex when it is just for physical pleasure and not genuine care and love for one another?
I think that Christians can be very tough on themselves because they want to do exactly the right thing, when maybe their God wouldn't want to restrict good people from sharing intimacy, but just wanted sex to be for the right reasons. As a Christian, you should think about it and decide your morals on this topic because it is relevant to your life at the moment. Don't just choose something because your boyfriend chose it, truly decide what you believe is how you should live. You and your boyfriend share the same God. Whether you believe the same about sex or differently, you should talk to him and explain exactly why you believe it. Get him to say exactly why he believes it. Maybe you together will grow stronger because of your shared faith, or maybe it is not God's will for you and him to be together.