Stay at home mum

Right I've seen a few threads about this and I need opinions on this particular situation. I will be graduating in July and since November of last year I've been applying for jobs and all I got was rejection after rejection. At this point me and my husband have decided that if I don't get anything by April, we would be trying to start a family. No problem with that except we have agreed a while back that I will stay at home until any children that we have starts school. That's when I'll start my career, whatever that may be. Money is not an issue as he just had a promotion and I won't be claiming any benefits.

My question here is, how bad would it be that I would have a degree but I am choosing to delay starting my career to be a stay at home wife and mum?

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It's your life. Why would you care what random people on the Internet think about you? However, I would give you the advice that you should not give up everything and make your life completely about your partner and children. Maintain some other interests and hobbies. Keep your friends.


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At the moment I prefer impartial advice from strangers. My family and friends are too involved.

I do have interests and hobbies, I made it clear to my husband that I still intend to do them. I am likely to be in bed rest once I'm pregnant so would have some time for my particular hobby.

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I only mention it because it happens to a lot of people (my mum included). You need to maintain some individuality.


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I'd be ashamed of it if I were related to you if it was simply staying at home and raising kids. Run some sort of business around it though and it would be fine. My mother has always been a 'stay at home mum' but has always been making useful amounts of money to contribute to the household finances at the same time.

Right I've seen a few threads about this and I need opinions on this particular situation. I will be graduating in July and since November of last year I've been applying for jobs and all I got was rejection after rejection. At this point me and my husband have decided that if I don't get anything by April, we would be trying to start a family. No problem with that except we have agreed a while back that I will stay at home until any children that we have starts school. That's when I'll start my career, whatever that may be. Money is not an issue as he just had a promotion and I won't be claiming any benefits.

My question here is, how bad would it be that I would have a degree but I am choosing to delay starting my career to be a stay at home wife and mum?

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Go for it. Stay at home mum is the easiest job in the world. It's practically a walk in the park (they have manuals on how to perfect it). I would love to be able to go through life without working but hey I am man. But if i was female i would 100% go for it

I'd say go for it, if you're sure it's the right time for yourself and your husband. The only thing that does need to be considered in terms of starting your career in 4 or so years' time is that you will have a relatively large gap in your CV. You will be able to say you were spending your time raising your children, but in terms of skills and experience you will be competing against uni graduates who have those extra years on you if that makes sense. Just something to think about, although it's not like you haven't tried finding work already, so if you both think it's the right time and you're secure financially I don't see any issue with that

Go for it. Stay at home mum is the easiest job in the world. It's practically a walk in the park (they have manuals on how to perfect it). I would love to be able to go through life without working but hey I am man. But if i was female i would 100% go for it

Don't worry. Gaps in CV's only apply to men. A few months unemployment is the end. But women of course can do what they want.

Right I've seen a few threads about this and I need opinions on this particular situation. I will be graduating in July and since November of last year I've been applying for jobs and all I got was rejection after rejection. At this point me and my husband have decided that if I don't get anything by April, we would be trying to start a family. No problem with that except we have agreed a while back that I will stay at home until any children that we have starts school. That's when I'll start my career, whatever that may be. Money is not an issue as he just had a promotion and I won't be claiming any benefits.

My question here is, how bad would it be that I would have a degree but I am choosing to delay starting my career to be a stay at home wife and mum?

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If you are already in the financial position to have kids I see no reason that you should have to arbitrarily wait a few years while you work before you have them, so I say go for it. Having children is obviously something that is important to you so there is no reason you should feel guilty about delaying work for it, especially since you have a husband to support you. The only reason I had a problem with Red One was because she had no intention of working despite not having a husband or kids, or even the imminent prospect of either, and for some reason still thinks that she is actually contributing to society somehow.

CV gap is part of my worry. If it's hard for me to get a job now, I imagine things will be harder in few years.


Being a stay at home is not easy. I have a hard time being a stay at home wife and I imagine that a baby will only make things harder.



I've seen women struggle to go to work after a long gap and that's a worry.



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