We're both in our 20's now. I haven't been able to get grad work so I work in whatever jobs I can get and keep searching. I work really hard - I earn little money and can't afford much at all.
On the flip side, my brother refuses to work because he thinks all of the jobs available are 'beneath' him (until he can land a grad job). So he dates different girls and goes on holiday with them at their expense. He lives off the charity of others - like he'll go on a night out but they'll pay for the taxi and he gets drinks paid for him. People feel sorry for him because he tells them he can't find work - so people just give him things for free - clothes, money, holidays (actual holidays abroad!), food (restaurant meals), days out - you name it. He acts like a victim and people genuinely feel bad for him.
I know I should just let him get on with it but it really pisses me off - I work for everything I have and I haven't been on holiday for years, I don't get to go to fancy restaurants/go on spontaneous days out - because I cannot afford it. But he does nothing and gets it all given to him by friends/family/people he's only just met/girlfriends. The most irritating thing is that he feels sorry for himself for not having money - but he makes no effort to get a job and he seems to have a better quality of life than me even with his lack of money.
Obviously I can't change his behavior, so how do I stop caring? It's constantly in my face because he tells me about where he's going etc.
I realize this must happen all over the world - plenty of people manipulate others for their own gain BUT it's incredibly frustrating witnessing it first hand.