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Hate being touched by boyfriend

I've had this problem in my last 2 relationships. Whenever someone tries to touch/caress me, I feel intense anger and annoyance and get a strong urge to bat them away. I'm fine with hugging/snuggling and kissing, but as soon as they touch me I feel... Yucky. It's really affecting my sex life with my boyfriend, I don't know what to do!
Do you think you'd get that response with anyone? I'm just wondering if it's something physical or maybe more to do with not being totally comfortable with those people.
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:lolwut: that's very odd. You mean the whole, 'caress the face and push the hair to one side' thing? I've never heard of a girl hating someone they like doing that, let alone a boyfriend.
Touch sexually or touch generally?
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Original post by Anonymous
I've had this problem in my last 2 relationships. Whenever someone tries to touch/caress me, I feel intense anger and annoyance and get a strong urge to bat them away. I'm fine with hugging/snuggling and kissing, but as soon as they touch me I feel... Yucky. It's really affecting my sex life with my boyfriend, I don't know what to do!


Some psychological issue? Maybe some past trauma has affected you?
Reply 5
Original post by Anonymous
I've had this problem in my last 2 relationships. Whenever someone tries to touch/caress me, I feel intense anger and annoyance and get a strong urge to bat them away. I'm fine with hugging/snuggling and kissing, but as soon as they touch me I feel... Yucky. It's really affecting my sex life with my boyfriend, I don't know what to do!


It has to be psychological? That's a really strange response to something that is usually welcomed with affection and warmth/happiness
I'm the same way OP even my mom complains that she can't hug me! Not really sure what to do either
Haha me too! I though I was the only one :s
For me it doesn't really kick in straight away though, don't know why this is or how to cure it but I do try to overcome my urges in order to be considerate.
Have you been through sexual trauma? Alternatively perhaps in your upbringing you were told its wrong to let people touch you? Or maybe you feel like theyre using you for their pleasure but not yours? Either way, it's good to work on this because feeling warmth from another person is great.

Once you work out why you don't like it, you might be able to retrain yourself. In the meantime, take baby steps and each time you get the urge to swot someone away, remind yourself that they're trying to make you feel nice and that it's totally friendly :smile: If you see other people touching on movies, in real life, in porn etc...remind yourself again that it's for pleasure. After a while you'll start to believe it.


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