If your partner asked you not to date again if they died, would you?

Can't lie; I would never say this but I'd be hoping it

Edit: If I was the one asking, that is.

I wasn't questioning the rationality of it, I was questioning what people would do in that scenario.

My biggest fear is that something will happen to my boyfriend because I do not want to be with anyone else. Ever.

Having said that, I know that he would want me to be happy, even if that meant being with someone else; the same as I would wish for him. Whether or not I could bring myself to date someone new would depend on how I felt at the time and what the new person was like. I hope and pray that I'll never have to find out.

(As an aside, though, just because you date someone new, it doesn't mean you forget the one who died. My grandmother remarried after my granddad died because she thought her children needed a father figure, but even now, sixty years later, my granddad is the love of her life, her soul mate, the one whose photos she keeps in her flat, etc. Sometimes even death can't separate lovers.)

What you'd do as in you wouldn't date anyone else?

That sounds really sweet - both what you said and about your grandma! Though a bit sad and unfair to her new partner that he's the love of her life etc.

no thats stupid

Doesn't seem very realistic that I'd be in a relationship with someone who's capable of saying that...

Well, I'd probably try and discuss it with them somehow. Maybe I'd try to spin it and ask them what they'd do if I died and try to argue it from that angle. I don't really like the idea of telling them that I wouldn't. I think I'd dodge the question if they don't seem all that serious about it but if they've clearly put lots of thought into it then I'd want to understand why they think that. Then again, if they felt really strongly about it I'd not push that hard. It'd puzzle me anyway and make me start to think about them.

but I do know that, if there's an afterlife, my granddad is the one whose arms she'll be running into when the time comes

As above; no. It is a totally unreasonable and selfish request. If this were the partner I'm with currently, I know that such a request would be said when he is 'not himself' because that isn't who he is, and so wouldn't feel bound by it... though, I probably wouldn't sit there and go 'omg no you are so selfis- RIP' or something aha. But I would not say a genuine yes, and regardless of what I responded to in the moment I would certainly hope to 'move on' eventually.

I'd think it was a pretty selfish thing to say but chances are that's what I would do anyway.

Probably not. Chances are I'd be happy I managed to live out somebody's life with them so I wouldn't really feel like I needed somebody else. I know one of the most inspiring things for me is that, despite my Grandad's passing before I was born, my Grandmother still keeps his photos everywhere - I'd like to show that sort of dedication to my future wife, dead or alive.

From the things you post you seem so together.

Pussy whipped from beyond the grave.