Relationship advice please?
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Is it a good idea to go ahead with this guy?
Hi guys!:-)
Okay, so I met this guy about three years ago at a training camp for our sport and we got on like a house on fire. Our houses are about 3-4 hours apart, but easily accessible by rail. We've been pretty close since we met, and I would really, really like to start a relationship, but due to our distance we only see each other at sporting events every few weeks (at the most!). He doesn't really text anyone, as far as I know, and he uses no social media, and so I don't really have any way of contacting him without calling or the odd text which is pretty rare. I get the feeling that he likes me too but I'm trying not to be too keen so as not to scare him away:-P How can I convince him that he wants a semi-long-distance relationship and that it should be with me? I don't think he's had a girlfriend before but I've dated a few guys over the past year or so.
Thank you! :-)
Okay, so I met this guy about three years ago at a training camp for our sport and we got on like a house on fire. Our houses are about 3-4 hours apart, but easily accessible by rail. We've been pretty close since we met, and I would really, really like to start a relationship, but due to our distance we only see each other at sporting events every few weeks (at the most!). He doesn't really text anyone, as far as I know, and he uses no social media, and so I don't really have any way of contacting him without calling or the odd text which is pretty rare. I get the feeling that he likes me too but I'm trying not to be too keen so as not to scare him away:-P How can I convince him that he wants a semi-long-distance relationship and that it should be with me? I don't think he's had a girlfriend before but I've dated a few guys over the past year or so.
Thank you! :-)
Original post by HannahC-H
Hi guys!:-)
Okay, so I met this guy about three years ago at a training camp for our sport and we got on like a house on fire. Our houses are about 3-4 hours apart, but easily accessible by rail. We've been pretty close since we met, and I would really, really like to start a relationship, but due to our distance we only see each other at sporting events every few weeks (at the most!). He doesn't really text anyone, as far as I know, and he uses no social media, and so I don't really have any way of contacting him without calling or the odd text which is pretty rare. I get the feeling that he likes me too but I'm trying not to be too keen so as not to scare him away:-P How can I convince him that he wants a semi-long-distance relationship and that it should be with me? I don't think he's had a girlfriend before but I've dated a few guys over the past year or so.
Thank you! :-)
Okay, so I met this guy about three years ago at a training camp for our sport and we got on like a house on fire. Our houses are about 3-4 hours apart, but easily accessible by rail. We've been pretty close since we met, and I would really, really like to start a relationship, but due to our distance we only see each other at sporting events every few weeks (at the most!). He doesn't really text anyone, as far as I know, and he uses no social media, and so I don't really have any way of contacting him without calling or the odd text which is pretty rare. I get the feeling that he likes me too but I'm trying not to be too keen so as not to scare him away:-P How can I convince him that he wants a semi-long-distance relationship and that it should be with me? I don't think he's had a girlfriend before but I've dated a few guys over the past year or so.
Thank you! :-)
Personally, I would give it a try. The fact that you set up a thread shows that you must really like this guy, and whilst you are not 100% sure of his feelings, you will never know unless you tried! Even if you are rejected, you won't regret about never trying. Furthermore, the fact he texts you considering he makes little use of social media suggests that he really values you
I was in a similar situation to you (ldr), and I did end up telling the guy my feelings, and whilst it didn't work out after 3 months, I am really glad that I told him and I learnt a lot. Good luck!
Original post by Osu
Personally, I would give it a try. The fact that you set up a thread shows that you must really like this guy, and whilst you are not 100% sure of his feelings, you will never know unless you tried! Even if you are rejected, you won't regret about never trying. Furthermore, the fact he texts you considering he makes little use of social media suggests that he really values you
I was in a similar situation to you (ldr), and I did end up telling the guy my feelings, and whilst it didn't work out after 3 months, I am really glad that I told him and I learnt a lot. Good luck!
I was in a similar situation to you (ldr), and I did end up telling the guy my feelings, and whilst it didn't work out after 3 months, I am really glad that I told him and I learnt a lot. Good luck!
Thank you! Would you suggest waiting until we see each other again to suggest meeting up, or chancing a phone call?
Phone him, ask to meet up etc.
Call or text him and ask! There's only one way to find out, and the worst he can say is no.... good luck x
yeah like others said you'll just have to say something and see what he says - phonecall might be better so you can hear the reaction and not be waiting ages for him to maybe reply maybe not. also , he'll have to pick up his communication else it's even more likely to fail - communication is key , and as long as he has a mobile it can't be that much effort to text someone every day.
Original post by HannahC-H
Thank you! Would you suggest waiting until we see each other again to suggest meeting up, or chancing a phone call?
Personally I would phone him
It shows how much you care, and would encourage him to pick up the phone more in future!
phoning him might take him by surprise...a nice surprise if he likes you as much as you do...so risk it for a biscuit
good luck
good luck
No..my advice to females is dont get too keen. It can only end in tears a lot of the time. Just get on with your life,enjoy meeting other people and socialising. Dont go waving flags at this guy.
Love is like a butterfly. You are wandering in a Summer meadow. All around is beautiful and you see the butterfly. What happens when you chase it? It simply flies away. Stay a while,be still,admire the view and soon it will come and settle close by you.
When you say you think you are close, have you slept with him yet?
Love is like a butterfly. You are wandering in a Summer meadow. All around is beautiful and you see the butterfly. What happens when you chase it? It simply flies away. Stay a while,be still,admire the view and soon it will come and settle close by you.
When you say you think you are close, have you slept with him yet?
Original post by Limpopo
No..my advice to females is dont get too keen. It can only end in tears a lot of the time. Just get on with your life,enjoy meeting other people and socialising. Dont go waving flags at this guy.
Love is like a butterfly. You are wandering in a Summer meadow. All around is beautiful and you see the butterfly. What happens when you chase it? It simply flies away. Stay a while,be still,admire the view and soon it will come and settle close by you.
When you say you think you are close, have you slept with him yet?
Love is like a butterfly. You are wandering in a Summer meadow. All around is beautiful and you see the butterfly. What happens when you chase it? It simply flies away. Stay a while,be still,admire the view and soon it will come and settle close by you.
When you say you think you are close, have you slept with him yet?
Good Lord no! He's never asked though... to be fair ;-)
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