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Girls reactions to being approached by guys

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I don't mind to be honest, for as long as I don't have the 'balls'-for the lack of a better term- to approach guys myself, I can't be too picky. It's not an easy thing to do, he might be a bit awkward in how he does it, but at the end of the day at least he came to approach me and I have the choice on whether to 'act' upon it or not :shrug:

Reply 21

MJ1012

Original post by ILovePancakes

Don't give up hope.. We banged right there, right then.. In the middle of the train station.

Wait I think I saw that rom-com... or porno. Either way, your hair was pretty sexy.

Original post by elpistolero7

Approach girl, pat on shoulder. As she's turning head to face me, whip it out and state "say hello to my little friend".

Either end up in jail or get a blowie.

What's the ratio of those outcomes?

Reply 22

elpistolero7

Original post by MJ1012

Wait I think I saw that rom-com... or porno. Either way, your hair was pretty sexy.

What's the ratio of those outcomes?

Statistics can be very misleading mate, just go for it :tongue:

Reply 23

MJ1012

Original post by elpistolero7

Statistics can be very misleading mate, just go for it :tongue:

That's not filling me with confidence... it's too cold for that anyway :frown:

Reply 24

IFoundWonderland

Original post by MJ1012

Wait I think I saw that rom-com... or porno. Either way, your hair was pretty sexy.

I hope you found it entertaining?
You flatter me :fan:

Reply 25

elpistolero7

Original post by MJ1012

That's not filling me with confidence... it's too cold for that anyway :frown:

No pain no gain, I'm afraid.

Reply 26

Luxray

I think the majority of girls like being approached by attractive nice guys. But when its an below-average/average looking, nice guy then they're like 'ew creep'

Reply 27

JAIYEKO

Original post by toonervoustotalk

Today while i was in college a random nigeran guy approached my female friend who has a boyfriend. The guy was soo persistant to get her number and i personally think he made a fool of himself. How do you liked to be approached by guys.

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Reply 28

awe

Original post by Luxray

I think the majority of girls like being approached by attractive nice guys. But when its an below-average/average looking, nice guy then they're like 'ew creep'

Thank you for that bit. :biggrin:

Reply 29

WhimsicalSloth

My reaction would depend upon how I'm approached. I've been asked out twice by strangers, one was drunk at the time and the other spotted me in a park and followed me (with his friend there) to get my number, so they were both a bit awkward for me. But if someone plucked up a conversation with me and I felt that we got on well and they was funny and interesting then I'd be very flattered. :smile:

Reply 30

Rlove95

Yeah I agree with the other posts, I prefer it when a guy actually makes an effort to strike up a conversation. It makes it seem like they actually care about who I am not just what I look like. I think most girls will clock that you are trying to ask for their number if you just approach them randomly in the street or something so I think if you start talking about the weather it'll be a bit awkward, well for me anyways.

Also don't be dishonest about why you are talking to the person you're approaching, don't ask for directions or for the time and then try change the conversation so that you can get their number because it's just misleading and annoying. I've had some man approach me while I was walking to sixth form asking for directions, actually it's happened quite a few times but in this case I actually believed he wanted to know where this random building was. I stopped, listened to him, gave him detailed directions of how to get there and then when I expected him to walk off, he was still lingering and started asking me questions about where I lived, my age, name etc. This man was like 40 which made it even worse. The fact that he wasted my time making me think that he actually needed my help is what annoyed me the most.

Reply 31

Luxray

Original post by awe

Thank you for that bit. :biggrin:

I was careful with my wording :wink:

Reply 32

Xyloid

Original post by kunoichi

So you think consistently harrassing someone and then following them because they didnt and obviously dont want to give out their number is ok? Because this happens more often than I think people realise.

I personally prefer it if i'm not approached at all, however I do have some respect for guys who can ask politely and accept a 'no thank you' without trying to carry it on further or getting nasty because I've refused them.

There are such things as manners which a lot of guys who approach girl on the street seem to lack and no thats not cool. We shouldn't have to start approaching people just to earn some kind of decency back.

No.

I didn't say or imply it was okay at all and the majority don't do it. I generalised, but then I don't care anymore because i'm fed up of the ridiculously pedantic majority on this forum who think being politically correct 100% of the time gives them some sense of intelligence when in fact it just makes you a pain in neck. Of course harassing people is wrong.

All I implied was that it doesn't make sense for men to be overly concerned about how they approach women providing they aren't doing it with a chainsaw or a non-physical malicious way. Women are very lucky that they get the luxury and shouldn't be picky about how guys approach them providing there's nothing wrong with it - otherwise it's just and indicator of a spoiled person.

Reply 33

AnharM

Original post by toonervoustotalk

Im a guy btw and I aint gay

I didn't know a man suddenly becomes homosexual if they say that another guy is good-looking... :rolleyes:

It's just a description.

Reply 34

cole-slaw

The trick is to just "get talking" rather than to "approach".

If they think you are trying to chat them up, girls will immediately put their defences up.

If they think you're just a normal friendly guy who is chatting to them and their friends, girls will happily chat back to you.

You can't rush things. You have to chat first, flirt second.

Reply 35

kumon

Original post by Luxray

I think the majority of girls like being approached by attractive nice guys. But when its an below-average/average looking, nice guy then they're like 'ew creep'

Repped, spoken like a true boss.

Reply 36

MJ1012

Original post by ILovePancakes

I hope you found it entertaining?
You flatter me :fan:

I was a bit put off by the nipple clamps and gimp suit, but the hair allowed me to finish. :wink:

Reply 37

bumblebee342

I've heard a few too many bad pick up lines/witnessed some awful pick up attempts that have just made me cringe. One particular guy complimented me in a club recently and asked me what the chances were of me taking him home (about 2 minutes after I'd met him) :s-smilie:

I'd much rather a guy be friendly and try and make proper conversation.

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Reply 38

kunoichi

Original post by Xyloid

I'm going to disagree that the majority dont do it.

I very rarely and I know other girls who experience the same, get approached politely. I would say 9/10 guys who approach me get nasty about it as soon as I turn them down. Things like everyday sexism also show a very large selection of experiences that aren't positive with guys approaching women on the street.

I agree that guys shouldnt overthink it, but I think its ok to remind them (when they ask for advice) that manners and taking 'no' for an answer are important, just as when approaching any individual that they dont know.

I felt your post was more of a '**** it, do what you like'. Apologies for misunderstanding.