Girls reactions to being approached by guys

At the end of the day it's something you wouldn't have sympathy for because you are the female in this argument. I on the other hand can understand the male psyche a bit more and I can see how it all works. I don't condone the guys that do it, and i'm sorry but it isn't a majority, but I can understand why it happens and none of my friends harass women so you must be incredibly unlucky or it may be something about you that attracts that kind of behaviour. Who knows ?

I'm not quite sure why you're stating the obvious. Of course women don't like approaching guys in general, but neither do guys. Most have to do it otherwise they'll stay alone for the rest of their lives. Society tells us that it's something a man does - not the woman. A female friend of mine recently said once that women don't ask guys out because they don't enjoy it and then firmly believed that men do it because men enjoy doing it ? She left a room in hysterics.

You seem to be missing my point entirely. Neither men nor women particularly enjoy making the effort. Men would love it if women made an effort with them. Of course they would, that's easy. It doesn't happen because society tells women they're desperate if they do so. Society tells men they should do the asking out because it's a masculine act. Both of these are bull****, and over time will be broken down with the rise in equality and feminism. I spent a lot of time in Sweden last year, one of the most equal countries on the planet, if not the most equal society on the planet - over their it's completely normal and harmless for a woman to ask a man out. It's just something that came with equality and the government making massive efforts to eliminate gender stereotyping.

Women don't bat an eyelid for the minute because it's suits them to not do any work and be the ones who were asked out. No anxiety, no fuss you just get to choose and refuse. Simple. It's not the same way for men and a lot of the refusals and stuff subconsciously turn into bitterness over the years without them even knowing about it. Women as a gender never seem to realise that by not making an effort with men equally and forcing yourselves to break the stereotype, that you're continuing this weird notion that you're some sort of weird creatures that should be won over and impressed in a more superior way to the male gender. I don't buy it. It's not the 1950's anymore where this chivalrous behaviour has any place and it's something that people will eventually see has no place in the modern world, albeit we're years behind countries like those in Scandinavia.

could you generalise any more broadly to over 3.5 billion people? i approached my boyfriend and i kissed him first. i drop the boyfriend comment in because i am happy with my boyfriend and so i don't want to waste the guys time and i don't want to waste my time because 100% i'm not interested.

otherwise , i've been approached many times and as long as they're not sleazy i'll talk to them , but women have been brought up to mistrust a man who comes up to them. for me , i always have to look at them and see if i think i'm in danger , and that's why for a lot of women they don't like it. it's like being cornered.

i think it's important men remember that , as wrong as it is , when you're brought up you are taught men want sex , and if you're not up for that kind of thing you'll run away. /life

Until he gets freindzoned haha.....Sure I definitely don't agree with the other guy's tactics, and how are you meant to have a proper conversation in a club where there is loud music?......Missy the club isn't a friendly place, a guy definitely has to give you some sort of hint( well in a sensile manner) not chat away all night.

No and I understand that clubs aren't full of people having in depth, worthwhile conversations/chatting away all night. But as someone else said, some guys make it painfully obvious that they're looking for someone to take home and just make you feel uncomfortable.

I'm not one of the people saying "I don't want to be approached", I don't care about being approached, (I met my boyfriend in a club, we sat by the bar and chatted about the music and stuff) it's the way that a lot of guys about it. All I was saying was there's being friendly and then there's being a creep.

Today while i was in college a random nigeran guy approached my female friend who has a boyfriend. The guy was soo persistant to get her number and i personally think he made a fool of himself. How do you liked to be approached by guys.

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Oh shoot I forgot this forum is full of mental-age 14 year old's on the hunt for rep points to make them feel important.

Over here in mature world, we don't feel the need to be pedants about everything. But if you need the clarity, I'll make sure to put "within reason" in my text the next time I make the same post.

Personally I don't like to be "approached" at all.

The exceptions are:
- When there's something they genuinely want to comment on (e.g. a reference on my t-shirt)
- When they've seen me before or we have mutual friends, so it's just a chat
- When they just innocently need something, like directions

I'm never rude to men who approach unless they're rude to me, but I'd still rather avoid the interraction altogether. Being judged as acceptable on my physical attractiveness alone is not something I enjoy, and not something I like doing to others.

A) I would say I have a mental age well below 14.

B) I get paid an awful lot of money and have trained for years to be a pedant about everything, stopping this would be seriously detrimental to my long term financial security.

C) You don't need an apostrophe in "olds".

I care about none of that.

You replied to me suggesting I was being overly predantic, I gave good reasons as to why that is the case, apologies if you merely wanted to reply setting out your position without actually getting a response from me. You may want to stay away from discussion boards in the future though, as the nature of discussion is going to lead to this happening a lot.

I also guarantee you will, in time, be very glad people like me are around.

Have you ever thought about a guy just been friendly towards you?.... We aren't all looking for sex all the time you know.

I agree, a lot of my friends are male. But if a guy just has friendly intentions he wouldn't just approach me. If I see him around or he's in my lectures or something then fine, that's how I've made male friends and sometimes I approach people like that just with friendly intentions. But there's a way that guys act sometimes when they approach that makes you think they have already judged you as perfect, not even trying to see if I am the kind of person they might like, and are just trying to get you to like them.

Why wouldn't he just approach you?......So what you saying is you can go with the mind of been friends with a guy but not vice versa, and please don't say guys I hate generalization, have been misjudged before by a girl that thought I wanted to approach her before and I wouldn't touch this girl with a pole and not because she isn't attractive,, she is just not my type.

They didn't saying anything about whether he was hot or not, why are you assuming that because she said 'Nigerian' she is insinuating he was bad-looking?!