Feel threatened by boyfriend's female colleague

I know that she isn't his usual type physically, as he has said this in the past (not about her specifically, but about girls who have her kind of look) but I know at the same time people don't always go for their usual 'type'.
She's been working with him for a few months, and he says that at first he judged her a little on her appearance, which he admits is shallow, but now, he cannot stop gushing about her.
He's gushed about her at least 6 or 7 times, which is what is starting to get to me. The very first time he told me that she was nice and funny, and I thought it was cool. Then he told me that they were always teasing each other at work and that someone had compared them to a married couple.
Then, he started coming home with stories of her most days about how they had teased each other, what was said etc. and told me she was his best friend. I admit I got jealous at that point and a bit upset. He almost found the situation amusing and told me how silly I was being. I realised I was, and felt fine after that, and put it behind me. Thankfully it wasn't awkward, apart from a bit of ribbing from him.
However, I've started to feel funny again, though I haven't mentioned anything. He was talking about her again last week, telling me how unbelievably funny she is and how she has him in stitches all the time. He said now nice she is and how impossible it is not to like her, and how she's always in a good mood, stuff like that.
He talked about her again yesterday, telling me what a hard worker she is, how she's really good at her job, even though she's relatively new, and again how nice and pleasant she is.
I just smiled and went along with it, but I am starting to be worried again. He has other female friends at this job, and he has talked about them, but absolutely nowhere near the extent he has about this girl.
I trust him to not cheat, I know he is not that sort of person. But (maybe I've watched too many films) you hear these stories of people who begin as great friends, then gradually fall in love.
We've been together for 2 years, and we live together, and are planning holidays together and we're moving again later in the year. He has told me I am a very nice person, in the past, and he is always complimentary about my looks etc.
But I have suffered from low confidence and sometimes I can be sensitive and get upset easily. I just wonder how he sees me to her, and I get scared that he will compare me with her and realise that she may be a better match.
I wonder if she also fancies him seeing as half the girls who work there seem to do lol. Should I speak to him again? I really do not want to drive him away, and I dunno what can be achieved from this. I confronted him last time about whether he liked her, and he said of course not. So why does he keep gushing about her? :s Thanks in advance.

Anyone, please?

He probably wouldn't be so vocal about her if there was anything behind it. Stop being so paranoid, if you want to drive him away, you're going the right way about it by being jealous. Why don't you suggest going out socially with this girl and getting to know her yourself?

Reply 3

wikiellie

Have you tried telling him your feelings? Perhaps he speaks about her without realising the effects on you, and if you spoke to him, he might amend his ways?

Reply 4

Mike_ofMars

Communication is paramount, milady. Don't bottle up the feelings you've got. Let him know how insecure you feel. Perhaps, he could put your mind at ease.

Reply 5

crayz

This is the start of every porno ever, you go to his work you confront her and start fighting but then start getting it on. Then your boyfriend walks in and the three way begins.

Reply 6

Old_Simon

A guy who constantly feeds and provokes his own partners insecurities is no good anyway. Dump him.

Reply 7

joker12345

I personally think this 'teasing' sounds a little concerning ... What sort of things did they say?

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

Just joking that the other is rubbish at their job, making fun of the mistakes they made, stuff like that.... and yesterday he was explaining that another guy there made her mad, and he was so surprised to see her mad because of how nice and cheerful she is... but yeah I'm sure I am just over-reacting, I guess if there was something suspicious he'd keep it quiet probably. Thanks for the replies :smile:

Reply 9

GodAtum

Original post by crayz

This is the start of every porno ever, you go to his work you confront her and start fighting but then start getting it on. Then your boyfriend walks in and the three way begins.