What to do about housemates that are trying (but failing somewhat) to bully me?

You're black ffs. Don't try to act like you ain't dealt with issues like this back in da hood.

what uni is this??

Seriously tell them to go **** themselves. They need to be straightened out, crossed the line a long time ago.

And there it is, your answer!

That is literally the likely reason, and/or anything else that she might be jealous of. Unexplained nastiness is often just a result of jealousy and insecurity. Us human things are a lot more simple than we like to think.

Make sure your male housemates are backing you, guys are often better at putting issues like this to rest.

This is why I don't live with students or strangers. Thank God for that.

Only half of them are students, Sarah is a social worker. Who do you live with?

I'm not intentionally being a dick. But when I read your post, it came across to me that you hate your own gender, which is really immature and childish.

I've only ever lived with family, never with strangers, even all through university.

Anyway, I read your opening post, you might want to consider moving out, I know it sounds extreme. It's quite sad, sounds like a really horrible situation to be in. You're being treated very horribly. You have to ask yourself whether it's any good for you to keep living with nasty people who bully you.

Maybe you want to avoid the hassle and inconvenience of having to search for a different place to live. But what's going to happen if you continue to live with these people? They'll probably continue to treat you badly, might even get worse. Sounds like they're uncivilised low social class scum to be honest, no offense.

sorry you're going through this brownbearxo

You know absolutely nothing about her, apart from the short piece she wrote here. How on Earth can you gather that from the few words she wrote? It doesn't at all sound like she's being immature, she's being targeted by bullies.

They will never be your friends. There is nothing you can do about that. All you can aim for is for them to be civil around you (and bitch behind your back - nothing you can do about that).

Basically you need to isolate Ana. She bullies you because she can get away with it and feels it gives her superior social status in the eyes of the others. If you isolate her socially, you remove that incentive for her to bully you.

I know you may not want to "play the race card" as they say, but if you have clear evidence of racism, call the police on Ana and make sure Sarah knows that Ana is a racist and you have evidence that you have given to the police. That will scare Sarah away from supporting Ana (you said Sarah is a social worker - if she got a police record for racism that could kill her career). It will not make Sarah like you, but it will mean that Ana will be isolated and that will make her stop.

I live in a house with 6 other people I have never met before, four guys three girls.

The two other girls I never liked from the start but I was always civil with, as I'm not unnecessarily confrontational.

I get on with the guys a lot better. One of the guys who has since moved out told me that one of the girls, lets call her Ana, had made racist comments about me. I totally believe this as I have heard her say some outlandish things in the past before and just kind of 'd my way out of there. I ignored the racist thing as sadly its not my biggest problem right now, and racism isn't something I feel the need to respond to. Recently however Ana has been trying to intimidate me for some reason. She leaves bins outside my door, claiming that I am leaving them piled downstairs when I'm not. She also accuses me of leaving the kitchen in a mess, which I do not.

She also wrote some nasty anonymous notes around the flat, which were aimed at me. I removed them and told her that there are better ways of expressing concern if the kitchen was being left in a state. She responded by tonight confessing that she has blocked me from using the internet because "no one in the house likes you, and everyone thinks you're dirty". I pay £5 a month to her for it by the way. I just thought my laptop was having problems with the Super Hub, as this has happened in the past. I have been using my phone as a hotspot for ages now, but still paying for the internet as I didn't think it was her fault.

Bear in mind during all of this she has acted like my best friend until fairly recently. I have confronted her many times but she either responds with gibberish or denies it outright.

The other girl, lets call her Sarah, also leaves these rude passive aggressive notes around the house. She is the type to smile in your face but send round scathing emails with things she would never say out loud. She also moves stuff around in the fridge, putting things that she doesn't want on her shelf onto my shelf, you know, petty things like that. I ignored her until I realised that she and Ana were seemingly ganging up on me, so I confronted her too and she denied all involvement with the notes and claimed she had no problems with me. This is clearly a lie, but at least she knows I have no problems addressing her bad attitude, and she has not left any rude notes since. I personally think she took an instant dislike to me because I am black, the first day I met her she was very condescending to me, I can't think of any other reason. She's not from London either, and I have experienced similar from people who aren't as used to London's multiculturalism.

Now, I should probably add that Ana has mental health issues, I'm not sure what they are. She also has a drug problem. Not that it excuses anything but due to that I think people in the house sort of ignore her weirdness. Theres a guy in the house who is always trying to help me out with her, as I think he has lived with her before.

What do I do to sort this? It makes things quite tense in the house and I'm sick of going up to them and asking what their problem is as they won't be straight with me. I have tried talking to them and ignoring them, and while I don't feel particularly intimidated, their attempts are quite upsetting. I mind my own business in this house and I'm actually the cleanest. Everyone else is really lax with cleanliness lets just say. Its a bit pathetic really.

Thanks if you read this, I know its long Also, if a mod thinks this should be moved to another forum fine, I wasn't sure where to put it.

She sounds mental, you don't owe her any help. She's more or less stealing £5 every month from you aswell. Maybe she needs to be educated on multiculturalism. I don't really know what to suggest but props to you for putting up with that crap. Have you complained to an official or anything? She needs to back off, seriously.

Ah, but I never said anything about "confronting them", "standing up to them" or "rallying" the other housemates. Of course that almost never works. It's just PC bull**** that parents, teachers and socially clueless people come out with. Bullies are not nice and reasonable people.

I think that isolating Ana (via police involvement) would have worked. Not because it would have reminded everyone else of their non-existent "better nature", but because it would have scared them into it. But you would have needed hard proof for that.

Just soldier on then, or move out.

Now, I should probably add that Ana has mental health issues, I'm not sure what they are. She also has a drug problem. Not that it excuses anything but due to that I think people in the house sort of ignore her weirdness. Theres a guy in the house who is always trying to help me out with her, as I think he has lived with her before.

What do I do to sort this?

I think you already know what to do. Either plant some drugs in her room and call the police or just call the police on her while she's using drugs. Result: She gets kicked out. And the whole problem goes away save Sarah. Sarah derives her power from Anna so she won't give you trouble when Anna is gone, you could even bully her.

I think you already know what to do. Either plant some drugs in her room and call the police or just call the police on her while she's using drugs. Result: She gets kicked out. And the whole problem goes away save Sarah. Sarah derives her power from Anna so she won't give you trouble when Anna is gone, you could even bully her.

What ethnicity or race are these two girls?

Lol thanks for your input.



Ana is from Luxembourg, Sarah is white.

Lol thanks for your input.