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i don't understand the logic of.self acceptance

I completely understand showing your best qualities and improving yourself. I do not understand being prepared to admit your lesser qualities to people or even being content with the way you are, that you are an imperfect human being and that is actually ok?! Surely you should just improve everything and reach perfection, given a choice between someone 90% perfect and 95% perfect you will always choose the 95% perfect person ofc?!

It is just completely illogical to think that revealing that you are not as superhuman and godly as someone once thought you were is going to do anything except slightly turn them off you and make them look for the more perfect person
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Because having flaws is normal.
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Original post by carlisomes
Because having flaws is normal.


BUt is unattractive, and between flawed and flawlessone will always be attracted to flawless :-S


Original post by majmuh24
No one is perfect, and you can either try hopelessly to achieve perfection or just be OK with who you are.

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But yes you can, if you committed yourself to a lifetime of clean foods, intense workouts, coming top of your class and competition every time in everything by studying and working night and day and reading everything there is to know about success and self improvement in every area of your life be it relationships, socialising, goal based art form or career then you coild effectively become the best person on the planet. Which is not perfect but is the 95% perfect.
Nobody is perfect and we all have flaws, I'm content with who I am and I accept my flaws as a part of me, if people think I'm not good enough for them or whatever, I don't care because I'm happy with the way I am :smile:
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Original post by MidnightDream
Nobody is perfect and we all have flaws, I'm content with who I am and I accept my flaws as a part of me, if people think I'm not good enough for them or whatever, I don't care because I'm happy with the way I am :smile:


But what are your flaws, Midnight Dream?
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You may all think I am extreme but logically it is the truth
I have no flaws. This doesn't apply to me.

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Original post by Abdul-Karim
I have no flaws. This doesn't apply to me.

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Exactly. If you are perfect then you are obviously better than everyone else!
That is not what self acceptance is.
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Original post by nohaynada
That is not what self acceptance is.


Yes it is, you accept that you will try to change that which is a flawed trait but even of you have little success you are still a lovanle worthy himan being.
I'm saying this is bs and you should accept nothing short of self perfection because no one else will accept any less either
You seem to be misunderstanding the purpose of self-acceptance. We don't accept ourselves so that others will love us more or find us attractive. We accept ourselves because we deserve to be loved, regardless of what others think of us. That means looking at the things that make us imperfect and saying 'Yes, that's not perfect. I can make it better, but it's still me, and I am still ok.' Loving yourself is the best way to find happiness, because it's something that isn't influenced by the often superficial attitudes of others, and it's something we all need to learn to do.
Original post by Riku
Yes it is, you accept that you will try to change that which is a flawed trait but even of you have little success you are still a lovanle worthy himan being.
I'm saying this is bs and you should accept nothing short of self perfection because no one else will accept any less either


Wow you must be really insecure. That's not what self-acceptance is.
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Does it matter if people are better than you at something? Life's about how you feel not who you are.

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Original post by Riku
BUt is unattractive, and between flawed and flawlessone will always be attracted to flawless :-S




But yes you can, if you committed yourself to a lifetime of clean foods, intense workouts, coming top of your class and competition every time in everything by studying and working night and day and reading everything there is to know about success and self improvement in every area of your life be it relationships, socialising, goal based art form or career then you coild effectively become the best person on the planet. Which is not perfect but is the 95% perfect.

but perfection is in tiredly subjective your version of perfection described above is absolutely nowhere near my definition of perfect.
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Original post by nohaynada
Wow you must be really insecure. That's not what self-acceptance is.


I'm not really insecure I just sometimes resent my mortal nature.
what is self acceptance then?
I hate myself anyway, and I've accept that..

Step 1) hate self
Step 2) accept self-hatred

Done.
RIku,

With all due respect, your idea of perfect might be my idea of deeply flawed. You can't ever measure perfection ojectively. Someone will love your flaws and find them as endearing as your percieved strengths.

Example
I am horrendously un-coordinated I'm clumsy and always injuring myself.

Someone actually found that endearing and sweet despite me not appreciating it.

Flaws make us human and interesting and quirky. Someone perfect is someone boring in my opinion
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Original post by Asariond
You seem to be misunderstanding the purpose of self-acceptance. We don't accept ourselves so that others will love us more or find us attractive. We accept ourselves because we deserve to be loved, regardless of what others think of us. That means looking at the things that make us imperfect and saying 'Yes, that's not perfect. I can make it better, but it's still me, and I am still ok.' Loving yourself is the best way to find happiness, because it's something that isn't influenced by the often superficial attitudes of others, and it's something we all need to learn to do.


I said this to anotner guy and he just lol'd saying I was living in an idealistic fairyland, not the age of capitalism and the selfie

but it isn't perfect, so how can it be ok? It's all well and good loving yourself for who you are but for the general population there are objective criteria determining levels of attraction and the winner will always be the candidate resembling perfection the closest
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Go ask Transgender people

they can't accept who they really are, yet no one seems to tell them to deal with it.
Original post by Riku
I'm not really insecure I just sometimes resent my mortal nature.
what is self acceptance then?


A previous poster just explained it for you. Self-acceptance is about accepting yourself for you, not for other people. Yes, we should all try to be the best person that we can be or want to be but we cannot change everything about ourselves that we are insecure about. If you go through life trying to change yourself for other people then you need a therapist.

Self-acceptance is about loving yourself and not giving a **** about what other people think.

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