too much loneliness in uni
Right, I've been reading threads about loads of people being alone, but my story is a bit different.
Basically, I am not antisocial or shy. I speak to absolutely everyone, i try to be as cheerful as possible, I never hardly would say anything bad about anyone. Back home i was the soul of my group.
From day 1 in halls i understood I wasnt going to click with my flatmates. They liked staying in all day; it was my first semester so i wanted to do stuff.
I made friends with exchange students from my halls, it was a pretty brilliant semester, I found a guy too, it was fun.
But when I came back from home I realized that I had to meet more people my age, because all my friends were leaving. But that was hard, since everyone had formed a group.
I even hate the word 'group'. Why is it that people dont see people as individuals? And why dont people give a chance to you? Because they are in their own comfort zone.
AAnyway i moved to another hall because I knew it was more social. That made it even more worse, since there literally people didnt give a ****e about meeting more people, plus it was much more noisier.
Its been so hard waking up and falling asleep alone. I really feel I dont want to come back.
My course; no one really speak to eachother, mainly because its only a few hours a week.
Then I had an offer from 7 people to live with them, I was really happy but at the same time a bit scared, but by the time I said I'd go they'd already signed the lease.
Now there are 2 girls; one I like, one is very, very bossy.
So my point is: I dont want to give up; Ive come from far away for a reason. However, seeing people here work a lot as 'groups' (even societies dont work), I got accepted into halls with another 10 people. I dont know what to do, because if its bad again, I literally dont know what I'll do.
Also, in the end of the day, I think I was the one not giving chances to people. I mean my old flatmates werent anything like me, but they were nice people. Basically saying I might have messed up things, and I dont know whats best now.
Basically, I am not antisocial or shy. I speak to absolutely everyone, i try to be as cheerful as possible, I never hardly would say anything bad about anyone. Back home i was the soul of my group.
From day 1 in halls i understood I wasnt going to click with my flatmates. They liked staying in all day; it was my first semester so i wanted to do stuff.
I made friends with exchange students from my halls, it was a pretty brilliant semester, I found a guy too, it was fun.
But when I came back from home I realized that I had to meet more people my age, because all my friends were leaving. But that was hard, since everyone had formed a group.
I even hate the word 'group'. Why is it that people dont see people as individuals? And why dont people give a chance to you? Because they are in their own comfort zone.
AAnyway i moved to another hall because I knew it was more social. That made it even more worse, since there literally people didnt give a ****e about meeting more people, plus it was much more noisier.
Its been so hard waking up and falling asleep alone. I really feel I dont want to come back.
My course; no one really speak to eachother, mainly because its only a few hours a week.
Then I had an offer from 7 people to live with them, I was really happy but at the same time a bit scared, but by the time I said I'd go they'd already signed the lease.
Now there are 2 girls; one I like, one is very, very bossy.
So my point is: I dont want to give up; Ive come from far away for a reason. However, seeing people here work a lot as 'groups' (even societies dont work), I got accepted into halls with another 10 people. I dont know what to do, because if its bad again, I literally dont know what I'll do.
Also, in the end of the day, I think I was the one not giving chances to people. I mean my old flatmates werent anything like me, but they were nice people. Basically saying I might have messed up things, and I dont know whats best now.
Go in with an open mind that groups ARE flexible and try to make more of an effort. Like you say, give people a chance.
I found joining societies helpful - perhaps you need to try some other societies if those didn't work for you?
Looks like you can make a fresh start in halls again assuming you will be meeting 10 new people who also don't know each other.
I found joining societies helpful - perhaps you need to try some other societies if those didn't work for you?
Looks like you can make a fresh start in halls again assuming you will be meeting 10 new people who also don't know each other.
Original post by elizayu
Right, I've been reading threads about loads of people being alone, but my story is a bit different.
Basically, I am not antisocial or shy. I speak to absolutely everyone, i try to be as cheerful as possible, I never hardly would say anything bad about anyone. Back home i was the soul of my group.
From day 1 in halls i understood I wasnt going to click with my flatmates. They liked staying in all day; it was my first semester so i wanted to do stuff.
I made friends with exchange students from my halls, it was a pretty brilliant semester, I found a guy too, it was fun.
But when I came back from home I realized that I had to meet more people my age, because all my friends were leaving. But that was hard, since everyone had formed a group.
I even hate the word 'group'. Why is it that people dont see people as individuals? And why dont people give a chance to you? Because they are in their own comfort zone.
AAnyway i moved to another hall because I knew it was more social. That made it even more worse, since there literally people didnt give a ****e about meeting more people, plus it was much more noisier.
Its been so hard waking up and falling asleep alone. I really feel I dont want to come back.
My course; no one really speak to eachother, mainly because its only a few hours a week.
Then I had an offer from 7 people to live with them, I was really happy but at the same time a bit scared, but by the time I said I'd go they'd already signed the lease.
Now there are 2 girls; one I like, one is very, very bossy.
So my point is: I dont want to give up; Ive come from far away for a reason. However, seeing people here work a lot as 'groups' (even societies dont work), I got accepted into halls with another 10 people. I dont know what to do, because if its bad again, I literally dont know what I'll do.
Also, in the end of the day, I think I was the one not giving chances to people. I mean my old flatmates werent anything like me, but they were nice people. Basically saying I might have messed up things, and I dont know whats best now.
Basically, I am not antisocial or shy. I speak to absolutely everyone, i try to be as cheerful as possible, I never hardly would say anything bad about anyone. Back home i was the soul of my group.
From day 1 in halls i understood I wasnt going to click with my flatmates. They liked staying in all day; it was my first semester so i wanted to do stuff.
I made friends with exchange students from my halls, it was a pretty brilliant semester, I found a guy too, it was fun.
But when I came back from home I realized that I had to meet more people my age, because all my friends were leaving. But that was hard, since everyone had formed a group.
I even hate the word 'group'. Why is it that people dont see people as individuals? And why dont people give a chance to you? Because they are in their own comfort zone.
AAnyway i moved to another hall because I knew it was more social. That made it even more worse, since there literally people didnt give a ****e about meeting more people, plus it was much more noisier.
Its been so hard waking up and falling asleep alone. I really feel I dont want to come back.
My course; no one really speak to eachother, mainly because its only a few hours a week.
Then I had an offer from 7 people to live with them, I was really happy but at the same time a bit scared, but by the time I said I'd go they'd already signed the lease.
Now there are 2 girls; one I like, one is very, very bossy.
So my point is: I dont want to give up; Ive come from far away for a reason. However, seeing people here work a lot as 'groups' (even societies dont work), I got accepted into halls with another 10 people. I dont know what to do, because if its bad again, I literally dont know what I'll do.
Also, in the end of the day, I think I was the one not giving chances to people. I mean my old flatmates werent anything like me, but they were nice people. Basically saying I might have messed up things, and I dont know whats best now.
What university are you at? And what course are you studying?
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