Year almost over and still havent bonded with housemates

Okay so last September I went to uni, thinking I'm going to have an amazing time and meet amazing people. I moved into halls, with 2 guys 6 girls. Freshers week I hadn't received my loan and only went out 4/14 nights, which were great nights because when I'm drunk I feel so comfortable with anyone. Being a naturally awkward person, I found it hard to socialise with the girls as I've never had a platonic relationship with a female and the guy just sits in his room. The conversations with the girls go a little like this
'Hey how are you?'
'Good thanks, you?'
'Great, have uni today?'
'Yeah just finished, you?'
'No not today, loads of work though.' bit more small talk then silence...

Then there was maintenance to be done on my room and the spare room not long after moving in, I had to move out for a few months. I was placed in an international flat, where all students stayed in their rooms. I was living alone for a while, very lonely. I played football and met people through football, which helped a lot and also have 4/5 friends already here. I was excited to move back into the original flat, finally did but the girls bond grew stronger, done everything together, while I was still on my own. Its really affected me this year, because when I'm at uni/football or just away from the flat I'm cool, but when I get back I feel so alone. Everyone in the downstairs kitchen, getting ready to go out, while I'm laying in my room.

Its not like the girls haven't tried to get me out with them, but when I have gone, I just can't have a proper conversation with them. Can't be drunk every time I go downstairs or to dinner with them to feel comfortable.

Dunno if you guys could give me advice or anything, just needed somewhere to get this off my chest lol

Reply 1

jelly1000

Original post by CourseworkKillsMe

Not everyone can be brilliant mates with their flatmates, I wasn't, at least you have made other friends elsewhere.

Reply 2

Origami Bullets

I can't say I've kept in touch with everyone who I lived with in first year either - but you've got friends from football which is good. Have you sorted out your living arrangements for next year yet?

Reply 3

lozzielizzie

Don't very am in similar position where I got friends in other things and not my hall flat mates.

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Reply 4

Miel Purple

Stop relying on getting drunk, it's so stupid and damaging.

People who need to get drunk to be sociable and confident have boring personalities.

No point getting close to them now as the year is over, concentrate on making friends from sports.

Reply 5

Ruffiio

I never really bonded with my flatmates either, we have nothing in common, all they care about is football, typical lad you know, and i don't like football at all. They're also really messy and never clean up their mess and pretend it's not theirs. The only one flatmate I did get on with unfortunately dropped out in November which was a real downer. It's luck of the draw which is absolutely **** but there's nothing you can do about it. Hopefully next year the people you live with will be more to your liking, or it could be utter **** again. :frown:

Reply 6

David B

I'm going to university this September and hopefully have some decent flatmates. Hopefully they're more females than males on our floor.

Reply 7

sr90

Volunteer Team

It's a complete myth that you only make friends within the flat. I lived with 8 people in first year, 1 of them I still live with but of the 7 others, 3 of them i've never seen or spoken to since leaving halls (2 years) and the other 4 i've spoken to very rarely.

Reply 8

morl92

Damn unlucky for being stuck with a load of girls. I'm very much a lad's lad and I got stuck on a college course with a load of girls a few years back and couldn't get on with them at all. All they used to talk about was girly stuff and they were idiots. I hated it and dropped out after about 6 weeks. I'm going to University in September and I hope I live with lads that are into the same sort of stuff I am.