URGENT: Can I ... ?

You are feeling quite rightly angry right now but give yourself time to calm down. It was a very stupid thing for your flat mate to do but she is allowed to bring people back to her own flat, whether it not you agree with her choice of individuals.

Most likely she will feel stupid, regret it and be incredibly apologetic in the morning. She should also clean up the mess, I know the mess isn't nice however if she cleans it tomorrow it is not the end of the world at all.

You need to have an open and honest discussion with her about your expectations from her. Many people get drunk and do stupid things they regret, in all likelihood she will not do it again. You need to explain that you feel uncomfortable with her bringing guys back, if it hasn't been discussed before then she didn't do anything wrong. However she may agree not to do it again if you explain your concerns.

This is where the sleeping in your bed bit comes in, completely inappropriate obviously. However your flat mate although causing it in a way with her actions may have been totally unaware this was going on. She will probably feel terrible about it in the morning but it was not her that did it. It was her friend, make sure once again you make it clear that this can never happen again.

Although your flat mate is completely in the wrong, it is unlikely that this situation will occur again and was a drunken mistake.

Ok. Well, it depends on what the terms of your lease are.

Some leases are very strict about who can allow into the property if it is Uni Halls.

Unless there is some specific clause or process in the lease, then she cannot be forced to move out.

Having said that, she is going to be liable for any clean up or damage whatever the lease says.

Hi thanks . She's not really the apologetic type so I highly highly doubt that. She's the type of person to not take responsibility for things which she may be responsible. She usually doesn't care.

I wish she were as considerate as that though

Haha sorry I was making lots of assumptions in that! I believe legally it would be very hard to get her to move unless you live in student halls so you may just have to wait it out. However it is worth seeing CAB about or visiting your estate agent if you feel that strongly.

Yes I'll have to check the contract . I live at UNITE btw. I think I might talk to someone about maybe moving her to another flat in the building. If she's willing of course. That way it won't really be an eviction.

It's ok

Yes well I do. I live in Unite Accommodation

Well, I would talk to someone about the issue. The management or even the student union rep should know about what to do.

I should add that I don't think they will move her. If it is a first time offence then they would probably give her a warning.

The only problem is that it is going to lead to friction with your roommate. At the very least, she has to pay to have your dirty linen cleaned properly. So before, you complain, make sure you get everything done by her.

Ok so make sure she cleans up and get her to pay to wash my linen. Got it.

But I think I'm still going to talk to the management team and see what they can do. I'll speak in hypothetical terms first.

I would advise going to see a student advisor, even though it isn't university managed accommodation I would imagine they have advised students on similar issues before, good luck!

Sure. I am just saying just make sure you can get her to clean it beforehand. Otherwise, she will be difficult.

I would report it to the management because if she does something stupid in the future, then she will already have a strike against her in the record.

Hi thanks . She's not really the apologetic type so I highly highly doubt that. She's the type of person to not take responsibility for things which she may be responsible. She usually doesn't care.

I wish she were as considerate as that though