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"I'm an introvert." is code for "I'm rude and self-involved."???

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This is annoyingly extroverted of you. I think people who are extroverted, especially online, are unnecessary attention sluts a lot of the time. On the contrary, I find extroversion to be a massive talking mole of bravado. :closedeyes:

Being extroverted doesn't mean competent. Being introverted doesn't mean incompetent. Honestly :rolleyes:

Introverted literally means shy. It does not allude to wanting to hip and edgy, what the hell? Most introverts are subconsciously timid to talk because of extroverts like you, dawg!

I myself am a quiet killer. It's more effective. Wolf in sheep's clothing, that's me!

Funny you should bring this up because it's the introverts that convey themselves as intelligent and ahead of the curve as though gracing people with their presence is some feat.

Do you go out to public places alone?

Reply 21

ApeMob

Original post by Tai Ga

No it doesn't. It just means that you get most of your energy from being alone, and can only handle so much time in big social situations. The socially inept and shy people need to stop hiding behind the label "introverted".

Are we seriously declaring war against a word. I can't, I can't...!

Reply 22

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Original post by Red one

I get that and even I get tired of entertaining people who I'd rather see the back off. I have an issue with people that want to completely cut themselves off from mainstream society because they like their own company too much. :lol:

No one can completely cut themselves off from society, human interactions are essential for healthy development. Most people that go without these things end up becoming very disturbed or in some cases, even insane.

Introverts are NOT people who never socialize and don't have any lives, that's just a theoretical definition made up by Jung. In pretty much every case IRL, people fall somewhere between these two ranges and what we refer to as an introvert is just someone who displays SOME introverted traits.

Don't get me wrong, I do sometimes still go out and socialize with m friends, I would just much rather prefer to be at home most of the time.

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Reply 23

Namige

Original post by Red one

So you guys think that having a constant urge to be alone is normal?

If it's not normal because that's not what you are, then I think you're the abnormal one.

Reply 24

Tai Ga

Original post by ApeMob

Are we seriously declaring war against a word. I can't, I can't...!

I'm just correcting you.

Reply 25

ApeMob

Original post by Red one

Read response below.
I myself am neither intro- nor extroverted. I speak when I want. :closedeyes:

Reply 26

Leftee

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7dU-oXNt_zw&t=8m51s

Red One you're really an introvert, arent'cha. See link for theory.

Reply 27

Red one

Going to watch X-men guys BRB :smile:

Reply 28

BarBaBaBaBarBaBaBa

Original post by Red one

It's not even a generalisation though, if you identify as an introvert you're self-involved by definition.

False

I'm an introvert and I'm the most selfless person I (and my friends) know.

Where are you getting your information from? It's not holding up very well

Reply 29

forsparta

Original post by Red one

Doesn't introversion limit your job opportunities i.e. jobs that involve interacting with people?

Schools teach teamwork from a very young age yet to me it seems this culture of introversion is detracting from that and promulgating self-involvement and to some extent narcissism.

Introversion doesn't stop the ability to work in teams and interact with people on a daily basis, it probably demands less than that but who says being an introvert is a strict code? You can have introverts who are not socially inept, well spoken and work well in teams but still need to ''recharge''. We shouldn't stereotype.

Not at all, I still have values of teamwork learnt from school & during my internship... maybe if you actually talked to introverts (perhaps at sixth form) you'd see they are great contributors (as are extroverts) to team-activities

Reply 30

EastGuava

I don't understand people who say, "I hate people". There might be something wrong with you if you generally just hate people.

I also don't understand why people associate introversion with rudeness. Being rude is a characteristic anyone can have.

Reply 31

Drunk Punx

Original post by Red one

Hey, I'm trying to help you come out of your shell.

I was once introverted but since then I've become a completely different person and I'm not going back into that lonely shell ever again! :biggrin:

This is precisely my point; what if I'm happy being in my shell?

Disregard the above because here's a little tale: last year I was well and truly introverted to the point where I realised that I'd succumbed to my social anxiety and viewed anyone I didn't immediately recognise as a threat (a little paranoid I know, but someone might actually... talk to me. Which is a concept I didn't [and still don't] care for in the slightest. Stranger danger and all that jazz :ahee:

).

So I made the effort to modify myself through sheer mindpower alone. And it worked. The realisation that not everyone is a threat and, because of my appearance, people are probably more frightened of me than I am of them boosted my confidence. I still loathe talking to people I don't know (unless I'm drunk in which case I can make someone my BFF for the night within 10 seconds), but I deal with it a lot more capably now. Not particularly politely, but eye contact is overrated anyway. But verbally I'm a gent.

Despite all of that, I still prefer my own company to that of others. I'll quite happily go out with some friends and have a few drinks, but I'd be doing it for them and not for me (past experience tells me that by the end of the night we always end up in a club, and I'd rather stick my balls in a microwave than go clubbing because the music is ****, the people are tossers, and I can taste the extroversion in the atmosphere).

Given the choice I'd sit in my garden with a few mates over going out any day. I'm still introverted to hell, but I deal with people a lot more comfortably now than I did last year. My head is out of my shell, but my feet will never leave it. It's too damn comfy.

Reply 32

Vian

A lot of introverts are rude. So are a lot of extroverts. Having said that, what you perceive as rudeness may not actually be so.

In my case, I find it difficult to properly think when I'm in a group as I end up in some sort of "listening mode". As a result, I tend not to talk much when it comes to group discussions as I can't think of anything to say! I don't have a problem talking individually, but no doubt you'd label me as rude so... :dontknow:

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Reply 33

Shokz

I never intend to be rude. I am shy, and I suffer from anxiety. I'm not a loud person,and I don't like loud people. I also do not like parties. I feel comfortable only with a limited number of people. I'm trying to improve - doing things to lessen my anxiety - so I can expand my comfort zone.

Reply 34

cole-slaw

Its not that "introverts" are rude, because there is no such thing as a true introvert in real life.

Its that so many rude, selfish, disinterested, self-obsessed people excuse their antisocial behaviour by claiming "its not my fault, I'm an introvert". Of course they then bitch about how they have no friends and no girlfriend and hate university and its all someone else's fault.

Reply 35

yo radical one

A lot of people fail to make the distinction between being introverted and being antisocial; it just seems like they are making excuses for being rude and disrespectful towards others. I think there is also an element of actually wanting to be seen as socially inept, because it makes them feel like Sheldon Cooper, or some other angsty nonsense, they have going on in their minds.

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Reply 36

cole-slaw

Original post by BarBaBaBaBarBaBaBa

False

I'm an introvert and I'm the most selfless person I (and my friends) know.

Where are you getting your information from? It's not holding up very well

The word "introvert" was invented by Carl Jung. he defined it as "the state of or tendency toward being wholly or predominantly concerned with, and interested in, one's own mental life"

So by definition it means to be self-involved as The Red One said.

Reply 37

shiggydiggy

Original post by Red one

So you guys think that having a constant urge to be alone is normal?

No more abnormal than a constant urge to be around people.

Be and let be.

Reply 38

Autistic Merit

Extroverts are usually the attention-seeking class clown type. Not for me.

Reply 39

kate8

I'm an introvert and i am not shy or timid. I love meeting new people and socialising with my friends and am happy to ask questions or participate in group discussions. Yet I NEED TIME ALONE. I can't deal with being constantly around people or i get quite stressed so i need time alone to re-energise!