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"Were still young" LOL no wonder society is messed up.

I'm kinda sick of the phrase "But, we're still young" or "He's still young"... What?

- If you see a 16 year old boy crying in a corner because he got a scratch on his arm. They'll tell you to let him go because "he's still young"... Nah, a boy at 16 shouldn't cry from a scratch.

- If you see your little brother acting girly, plays girl games and can't socialise with boys, there's definitely a problem. But, society says "He's still young" "He will grow out of if soon"... WHEN!?

- When you see a 13 year old that acts like he's 3, not wanting to participate in sports, doesn't want to study, can't talk without sounding like a complete child and can't even stand still for a second. This isn't normal, but society will say that "he is still young"

- When a girl still acts like a boy at 16, wearing baggy clothes and acting like a generic "dude"... That's not normal but society's response is "she's still young".


No they are not. What's the difference between a 16 and an 18 year old? Two years flies past without notice. At 13 a kid shouldn't act like he's 3, socialise with the wrong group and play with teapots and a teddy.

By saying "he/she's still young" you're delaying his/her development in life. They're growing up late and are late bloomers.

For example:

Theres this guy at school that never played sports, acted like a complete girl, sometimes comes in with foundation on his face etc... Now, the teachers said that he was still young and that he's still "experimenting"... Nah, the other 99% didn't take experimenting that far... Anyway, the guys 20 and has just started thinking about his life, what he wants to do and where he wants to go. He totally hates his childhood because it has affected his adulthood.

In short: BAN THE PHRASE "He or She's too young"
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This is just tremendous.
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Original post by 0xygen

- If you see your little brother acting girly, plays girl games and can't socialise with boys, there's definitely a problem. But, society says "He's still young" "He will grow out of if soon"... WHEN!?

- When a girl still acts like a boy at 16, wearing baggy clothes and acting like a generic "dude"... That's not normal but society's response is "she's still young".


Here we go...

Right my main objection to this are the two above statements- why is the way they act a problem? Are they not allowed to act like that because it doesn't meet your social requirements?

Original post by Eren J
now GTFO
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I think OP kinda has a point. I think people are less mature for their age than they were in past generations, and to some point still act like children. They are more narcissistic, vain, selfish, and happy-go-lucky.


And effeminate men annoy me ngl.
Original post by The_Dragonborn
I think OP kinda has a point. I think people are less mature for their age than they were in past generations, and to some point still act like children. They are more narcissistic, vain, selfish, and happy-go-lucky.


And effeminate men annoy me ngl.


Because people are more accepting now, and have the facilities to actually know what the problem is. A thirteen year old boy who acts like a three year old more than likely has severe developmental delays. If he can't stay still, more than likely he has ADHD, or ADD.

Why can't people just leave people to be who they are? It's not harming you in anyway. Don't be an irk.
Original post by PsychadelicScarf
Because people are more accepting now, and have the facilities to actually know what the problem is. A thirteen year old boy who acts like a three year old more than likely has severe developmental delays. If he can't stay still, more than likely he has ADHD, or ADD.

Why can't people just leave people to be who they are? It's not harming you in anyway. Don't be an irk.


Now, you see, in recent years, that seems to have been a large increase in "severe developmental delays" as you say. It seemed that in the past, people simply had to get on and deal with such problems, and it seems that this approach worked.

Now, any odd behaviour is accepted and/or put down to some obscure mental disorder that no-one has ever heard of.

Sometimes, just getting people to act normal and get on with it is the right approach. Worked fine in the past.
Original post by The_Dragonborn
Now, you see, in recent years, that seems to have been a large increase in "severe developmental delays" as you say. It seemed that in the past, people simply had to get on and deal with such problems, and it seems that this approach worked.

Now, any odd behaviour is accepted and/or put down to some obscure mental disorder that no-one has ever heard of.

Sometimes, just getting people to act normal and get on with it is the right approach. Worked fine in the past.


Because people actually know what severe developmental delays are. In the past, they would more than likely have been locked up.

Again, what difference does it make to you?
Original post by PsychadelicScarf
Because people actually know what severe developmental delays are. In the past, they would more than likely have been locked up.

Again, what difference does it make to you?


Not even locked up. Just left to get on with their own problems and eventually they manage to force themselves out of it. Sometimes a bit of tough love is what you need. Can't be a softie and complain and whine or make excuses about everything, or nothing would get done.

It makes a difference to me cos it pisses me off. In schools I remember people with "learning difficulties" got every resource they needed, despite the fact that they'd inevitably end up as - to put it cruelly, failures - they usually can't work at the end of it, in fact, they can't do anything because they're so used to the mollycoddling. Brighter, harder-working students on the other hand got nothing. Their potential was not taken advantage of and the country is missing out on potentially productive, dynamic, future leaders.
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Original post by The_Dragonborn
I think OP kinda has a point. I think people are less mature for their age than they were in past generations, and to some point still act like children. They are more narcissistic, vain, selfish, and happy-go-lucky.


And effeminate men annoy me ngl.



Do you want everyone to get married before they turn 20 and have 3 kids like before as well? People are not less mature they just have fewer responsibilities and are now capable of enjoying their childhood. Who would've thought it, huh?

The guy that the OP mentioned sounds more mature to me than the OP, probably because of all the prejudice and bullying he had to deal with growing up.

If anyone is narcissistic are people like you that want everyone else to be "normal" which just translates into be like me or you're a weirdo.


What's your issue with effeminate men?
Original post by Eren J
Do you want everyone to get married before they turn 20 and have 3 kids like before as well? People are not less mature they just have fewer responsibilities and are now capable of enjoying their childhood. Who would've thought it, huh?

The guy that the OP mentioned sounds more mature to me than the OP, probably because of all the prejudice and bullying he had to deal with growing up.

If anyone is narcissistic are people like you that want everyone else to be "normal" which just translates into be like me or you're a weirdo.


What's your issue with effeminate men?


People in the past managed to enjoy their childhoods, if anything they sound better tbh. And yeah, people are less mature - look at the way some 20 year olds act nowadays.. Like ****ing kids. Youth in itself is even used as an excuse for crime - "oh they were only 18 19 years old, still young". OP is actually right in this regard.

And yeah I think there should be some standard of "normal" in society, or we're gonna have a whole bunch of ****ing hippies who have an overly liberal live and let live attitude and society will just go down the pan.

Effeminate men just annoy me that's all. I'm not saying let's get the pitchforks out.
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Original post by 0xygen

- If you see your little brother acting girly, plays girl games

- When a girl still acts like a boy at 16, wearing baggy clothes and acting like a generic "dude"


And what exactly is wrong with either of these scenarios?
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Original post by The_Dragonborn
People in the past managed to enjoy their childhoods, if anything they sound better tbh. And yeah, people are less mature - look at the way some 20 year olds act nowadays.. Like ****ing kids. Youth in itself is even used as an excuse for crime - "oh they were only 18 19 years old, still young". OP is actually right in this regard.

And yeah I think there should be some standard of "normal" in society, or we're gonna have a whole bunch of ****ing hippies who have an overly liberal live and let live attitude and society will just go down the pan.

Effeminate men just annoy me that's all. I'm not saying let's get the pitchforks out.


Aren't you like 17? You really can't be comparing the youth of today with previous generations. And neither can older people, because they are blinded by nostalgia.
Original post by lucaf
Aren't you like 17? You really can't be comparing the youth of today with previous generations. And neither can older people, because they are blinded by nostalgia.


Well, having talked with a lot of people from older generations, who have shared with me both positive and negative aspects of childhood (it wasn't actually that rosy), I can compare that with today's youth.
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Original post by The_Dragonborn
Well, having talked with a lot of people from older generations, who have shared with me both positive and negative aspects of childhood (it wasn't actually that rosy), I can compare that with today's youth.


As I said, I don't trust older peoples opinion of "kids these days". Every generation has thought the next one was ruining society since forever, as a culture we love to look back wistfully.
Original post by lucaf
As I said, I don't trust older peoples opinion of "kids these days". Every generation has thought the next one was ruining society since forever, as a culture we love to look back wistfully.



It's true, but no I talked to them about their childhoods, not today's youths'.
So you're not allowed to cry now once you reach a certain age. Interesting, I'll note that down
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Starting with these three.

Original post by Doomlar
Here we go...

Right my main objection to this are the two above statements- why is the way they act a problem? Are they not allowed to act like that because it doesn't meet your social requirements?


Nah, a girl is born a girl for a reason and a boy is born a boy for a reason too. We all have different opinions, well that's mine. I wouldn't want my little brother wearing females perfume or turning out to be a guy that can't take a slap from another kid in school. I'd prefer having a brother that's capable of sticking up for himself and is capable of acting like a man. If you don't like what I say then thats your problem...

Original post by PsychadelicScarf
Because people are more accepting now, and have the facilities to actually know what the problem is. A thirteen year old boy who acts like a three year old more than likely has severe developmental delays. If he can't stay still, more than likely he has ADHD, or ADD.

Why can't people just leave people to be who they are? It's not harming you in anyway. Don't be an irk.


What? "Leave people to be who they are"... So you want me to see someone doing something wrong and you want me to just let him be? Why not let druggies or crack heads be who they are? What you said is strictly subjective.

Original post by MoonShadowWolf
What's wrong with society is when people use bad grammar. Check the title. We're, not were.


A clear example of a user that doesn't know how to make an argument, so acts like he's knowledgeable because he knows how to read a book or spot a grammatical error.
Reply 18
Original post by BlackLipBastard
So you're not allowed to cry now once you reach a certain age. Interesting, I'll note that down


There's a difference between crying and being over sensitive. Falling over or tripping, then crying because you "saw abit of blood" isn't normal.

Other examples which aren't normal:

- An adult crying because a girl insulted him.
- A teenager or adult crying after watching a cartoon in which one character dies... What?
- A teenager crying after being told off by the teacher.
- A grown adult crying after breaking up with his girl and making a fool out of himself in public.
- An 18 year-old crying after being approached by boys who got rude to him.

Acceptable moments:

- Crying after a loved one passes away.
- Crying after failing at something you've tried really hard to achieve. E.g. I've seen people cry after trying to get into professional football for years, then failing after being examined or something along those lines.
- Crying after getting a divorce. (Not making a video and putting it on YouTube, or getting drunk and crying in the streets)
Original post by 0xygen
There's a difference between crying and being over sensitive. Falling over or tripping, then crying because you "saw abit of blood" isn't normal.

Other examples which aren't normal:

- An adult crying because a girl insulted him.
- A teenager or adult crying after watching a cartoon in which one character dies... What?
- A teenager crying after being told off by the teacher.
- A grown adult crying after breaking up with his girl and making a fool out of himself in public.
- An 18 year-old crying after being approached by boys who got rude to him.

Acceptable moments:

- Crying after a loved one passes away.
- Crying after failing at something you've tried really hard to achieve. E.g. I've seen people cry after trying to get into professional football for years, then failing after being examined or something along those lines.
- Crying after getting a divorce. (Not making a video and putting it on YouTube, or getting drunk and crying in the streets)


In your opinion does this also apply to girls

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