Girls If your man asked you to dress more conservatively would you do it for him?

I dress conservatively. If I were the kind of person to dress provocatively every day then maybe I wouldn't be the kind of person who had a decent enough relationship in the first place.

Yes, if a woman dresses "provocatively" she must be incapable of a decent relationship, thanks grandma.

I'd never tell a girl what to wear, I'm pretty uninterested, and I don't judge people by their clothes. As long as she doesn't get all superior because she dresses a certain way she's good with me.

I don't know why I'm getting hate for this.

I never said that I don't know how to dress up on a night out. I just think that if someone is dressing in such a way that her own boyfriend thinks she is showing too much skin, it suggests she is getting and responding to lots of male attention and the boyfriend is not happy. I think a girlfriend should be aware of how her actions might be affecting her boyfriend. If the boyfriend is OK with the way she dresses then that is fine - whatever works for them.

I dress conservatively. If I were the kind of person to dress provocatively every day then maybe I wouldn't be the kind of person who had a decent enough relationship in the first place.

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I don't know why I'm getting hate for this. I never said that I don't know how to have fun and dress up on a night out. I just think that if someone is dressing in such a way that her own boyfriend thinks she is showing too much skin, it suggests she is getting and responding to other male attention and the boyfriend is not happy. I think a girlfriend should be aware of how her actions might be affecting her boyfriend.

I'd say it's because that post looked very smug. People respond badly to that.

It's more your statement that women who dress "provocatively" wouldn't be capeable of a decent relationship than your feeling that she should listen to him in this example.

It might, or he might just be controlling. I don't particularly enjoy my girlfriend getting lots of attention, I don't think many guys do, but you have to accept it if you want to date attractive girls. There has to be some trust.

At the start of a relationship your absolutely right that most men probably don't want their girlfriend attracting attention because the trust may not be there. After a few months though i (and i imagine a lot of other men) probably switch in the sense that i trust the girl to say no to any advance and so i actually like to show her off.

I do trust her, but a little bit always feels defensive when I know other guys are sniffing around, I think that's natural, and I know she likes it.

Because you're insinuating that dressing "provocatively," means you don't have decent relationships. First off, I'm sure peoples idea of provocative are different. Second off, most women don't dress to impress men, they dress to impress other women. Third, it's very sad that your appearance is even a factor in your "decent," relationship.

I'd say it's because that post looked very smug. People respond badly to that.

It's more your statement that women who dress "provocatively" wouldn't be capeable of a decent relationship than your feeling that she should listen to him in this example.

It might, or he might just be controlling. I don't particularly enjoy my girlfriend getting lots of attention, I don't think many guys do, but you have to accept it if you want to date attractive girls. There has to be some trust.

OP sounds insecure. Why would you want a woman to cover up? Who gives a crap if other men are looking at her, she's going home with you.....unless of course you try to control her.

Insecure people like this do my head in.

You are correct, yes. I am insinuating that if someone is dressing in a way that their boyfriend is very uncomfortable with - enough to ask her to dress otherwise, then unless the boyfriend is completely overreacting, the girl is making him uncomfortable. This suggests that she doesn't consider how he might feel, which is a large factor in a relationship.


Regardless of why women dress a certain way, showing more skin gets more male attention, and that gives them an ego boost. Why would a guy ask his girlfriend to dress more conservatively unless for that reason? (unless he is overreacting or being silly)

All that I'm getting from this is that you dress like a nun and have a relationship. Perceptions of provocative differ. I'm wearing tiny shorts and a baggy shirt right now, which probably makes me a slut in your "conservative," world. Surprise surprise, I have a healthy relationship based on people, not appearances. If it made him uncomfortable that I get attention, I'd tell him to kiss my ass, for not trusting me.

This, finally, some sense.

No Op, I wouldnt change a thing, unless you could see my butt cheeks or nipples then there isnt a problem. I like the way I dress and thats the end of it.

I would consider dressing more conservatively/formally for a family dinner or something but then I would probably do that anyway without being asked.