Came out to my Mum today.... :/

Sorry, what are the last two letters for? Queer and something, maybe? Does "queer" mean something other than just gay now?

Also, very glad to hear that you are happy within yourself now, and hopefully when your mum has had time for what you told her to sink in, and seen that you are happy, she'll be accepting

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So for anyone that knows me, I'm Luke the panny tranny of TSR, (so I like to think lol), and I came out to my mum today via a detailed note by the kettle. After asking if she'd had a cup of tea already, this response ensued, when we walked back home:

"Mum: Yes, I found your note, if that's what you're asking me -_-

Luke, me: Oh, alright ._.

M: Next time, don't skirt around it, just ask me if I found it >-<

L: I wasn't skirting, I only asked one thing, if I skirted I would have randomly said more *thinks to myself "to beat around the bush and all"* :/

M: Well what do you expect? I'm not going to be all like "Yay!" am I? >-<

L: Well sorry, I knew you wouldn't respond all happily and perfectly, hence why I wrote the note o.o

M: Well you don't just go from being bisexual to suddenly wanting to be a boy!

L: Well it's not really sudden is it? And sexuality and gender have nothing to do with each other!

M: Well you don't do you? Now leave it. -_-

L: *mutters to myself inaudibly* Whatever then :/"

I've felt this way for years and planned it really well over the past few weeks, and this is what happens. I feel really down.





Meh. :'( So wtf happens now? :/

Sorry, I'm being a bit pedantic but I'm too geeky to let this go- they do correlate, correlation means with condition a, condition b is more likely. If you identify as male, you're more likely to be sexually attracted to women, that's correlation. What you mean is they don't necessarily conform to the most common standard.

Sorry, what are the last two letters for? Queer and something, maybe? Does "queer" mean something other than just gay now?

Also, very glad to hear that you are happy within yourself now, and hopefully when your mum has had time for what you told her to sink in, and seen that you are happy, she'll be accepting

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The OP shouldn't underestimate how radical news like this can sound. "Sexuality and gender have nothing to do with each other" is not a statement that's widely accepted - especially amongst older generations. You should continue to play this patiently and discreetly.

When people have children they often have a very clear idea of what the family's future is going to involve - you've just told your mother that some of her most fundamental ideas and dreams about her own child are upside down. You've known this all your life, she's known it for about five minutes: give her some time and let her have her own complicated reaction. If you try and force an unrealistically accepting response immediately you risk making a permanent rift.

This isn't meant to discourage the OP but some of the advice that he's been given along the lines of "all mum's love their children unconditionally" is tremendously irresponsible and reckless - this is a situation that has to be handled very delicately, with the knowledge that everyone involved is coming to terms with some very complicated ideas. If the OP can keep calm, answer questions honestly, and be patient then that's much more likely to result in a positive parental relationship in the long-term.

I may be very wrong, but I believe Q refers to gender-queer, and I is possibly intersex. Some people also add an A for asexual.

Luke! Haven't spoke to you in ages . Hope you're okay

Look it aint easy...everyone can see that..even the haters..

but youll get thru it...youve taken the first big step..

shell come through eventually

I support yeh kid..and with the world become more and more liberal and open more and more others will too

I got your back and clearly do many other tsrians out there too

with regard to dealing with the initial trauma why not give music a wee spin

So for anyone that knows me, I'm Luke the panny tranny of TSR, (so I like to think lol), and I came out to my mum today via a detailed note by the kettle. After asking if she'd had a cup of tea already, this response ensued, when we walked back home:

"Mum: Yes, I found your note, if that's what you're asking me -_-

Luke, me: Oh, alright ._.

M: Next time, don't skirt around it, just ask me if I found it >-<

L: I wasn't skirting, I only asked one thing, if I skirted I would have randomly said more *thinks to myself "to beat around the bush and all"* :/

M: Well what do you expect? I'm not going to be all like "Yay!" am I? >-<

L: Well sorry, I knew you wouldn't respond all happily and perfectly, hence why I wrote the note o.o

M: Well you don't just go from being bisexual to suddenly wanting to be a boy!

L: Well it's not really sudden is it? And sexuality and gender have nothing to do with each other!

M: Well you don't do you? Now leave it. -_-

L: *mutters to myself inaudibly* Whatever then :/"

I've felt this way for years and planned it really well over the past few weeks, and this is what happens. I feel really down.





Meh. :'( So wtf happens now? :/

Hey

Firstly, I'm really sorry for your mum's reaction and equally as sorry for the situation you are in. I understand it must be horrible to be something you physically aren't and in the world we are in it is a horrible situation to be in where there are so many people who don't understand it. It isn't a choice, it is just who you are.

I'm sure your mum will come round, you are her child after all, it just might take a while to get used to it. From your perspective it is who you are. From her's it is her "daughter" suddenly not being her daughter...even though you are exactly the same person. I really hope she sees sense.

What you need to remember is that there are always people who will be there for you and see you for who you are and not care if you are a boy or a girl. You are just you and that is all that counts. You just need to stay strong which is hard I know but I'm sure your mum will understand with time.

I hope this helped a little bit. Basically just know that there will always be someone who cares and someone who will listen to you. Letting it all out can really help


P.S. Saw you are a frozen fan... great choice :P

There is nothing wrong with being who you are! I just wish people would finally see that. We are all unique, whether we are straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual or transsexual. It isn't our sexuality what makes us who we are. It's our personalities. Some people are ok (like me) with this sort of thing but, unfortunately, others are not so welcoming to the idea. It may have come as a bit of a shock but, she'll come round. Trust me! x

Don't worry about it. Mothers are often one of the most important people in our lives and a good, decent mother would feel the same about her children. I'm sure your mother loves you and with time, even if she hesitates, she will eventually accept you with her heart.

Mentally a boy, yet you average 5 emoticons a post? I'm skeptical.

I don't know you but I think that took real guts, hope things go ok if you tell others