I offended someone and was generally an idiot

Say to her what you have said to us.

I make a point of never underestimating people's intelligence. Sometimes you are disappointed (in which case make better friends / learn to humour them), but with the average person straightforward honesty goes a long way. She knows you think whatever you said - let her know that you also regret it, and that you have analysed your behaviour (whatever that may be), and let her decide what she thinks.

of course you should apologize if what you said was out of order. thats the least you can do you bad girl.

Bad girl? lol

for saying bitchy things.

what did you say exactly?

I referenced it when replying to Octohedral - scroll up.

Well, I said something was suggested being overweight makes you unattractive. I didn't say she was fat, I just suggested that someone we knew wasn't attractive anymore because of it. She is a little on the big side but not actually fat - she could have been offended but I'm not sure.

I am genuinely sorry - as soon as I said it I had that awful sinking feeling in my stomach - I knew I had ****ed up. If I have upset her I will apologise, but the thing is I don't know if she's actually offended! I honestly don't know what to do. If I apologise and she's not offended, it might seem l'm insinuating she's fat!

BTW I think I just generally annoyed my mates that night by being annoying in conversations. Do you reckon they'll let it go?

Cheers for the great advice anyway. Rep 4 you. I'm just freaking out about how annoying I was.

Ah, in that case I wouldn't say anything - you 100% will offend her if you do, girls who are a little overweight tend to know it and pick up on anything that verifies it. Only apologise if she mentions it - otherwise speak in general terms.

Marcus Aurelius: "Before ten days have passed, you shall rank as a god with those who hold you now as a wild beast or an ape, if you only turn back to your precepts and your reverence for reason. "

Step 1: Identify your faults. It's important not to over-apologise as much as it is not to under-apologise, as you put the idea of wrongdoing in their heads.

Step 2: Deliver apology.

Step 3: Change, and don't look back. They will forget.

If it was good weed you would of just said it in your head and continued to have a discussion about it for at least ten minutes, and none of this would of happened.

Why would that make it good weed? I usually find myself spurting out all kinds of stupid things whenever I'm high, so I don't really get your point .

If it was stronger you wouldn't blurt too many stupid things, the words wouldn't even make it out your mouth. You'd be just stuck in a circular internal monologue about whether to get up and make toast for a good hour.