Did your parents influence your choice of university or course?

That is the crux of it - we are all at differing stages of being willing to admit that our parents may have a point!

Though some parents do seem to be fairly unreasonable in all sorts of ways. I think that a lot of the temptation to control is simply borne of fear for their children's futures and a dread of them leaving home, i.e. well-intended. Some will be down to financial pressures.
As someone who likes to have a plan and be organised, I have found it quite hard to get used to idea that I don't know what's coming next for my child - it's not his firm choice anyway, track is alive and well!

Reply 81

Lil08

20

Yes, my parents are control freaks.

Reply 82

Carnationlilyrose

18

Original post by albee

That is the crux of it - we are all at differing stages of being willing to admit that our parents may have a point!

Though some parents do seem to be fairly unreasonable in all sorts of ways. I think that a lot of the temptation to control is simply borne of fear for their children's futures and a dread of them leaving home, i.e. well-intended. Some will be down to financial pressures.
As someone who likes to have a plan and be organised, I have found it quite hard to get used to idea that I don't know what's coming next for my child - it's not his firm choice anyway, track is alive and well!

Also, after a career lifetime of parents' evenings, I know very well that there are always two sides to every story.

Reply 83

AmyAintDead

13

My parents had no influence over Unis as they were just pleased I decided to go to Uni as none of my direct kin went any further than O Level. However, my great uncle did help me get a tour round Bristol University's dental hospital, influencing my decision to apply for Bristol, which didn't work out. But it all worked out well in the end because I chose Cardiff and feel I made the right decision!

Reply 84

DCFCfan4eva

18

They were supportive but never pushed me towards anything, it was alwas my choice but they were there if i needed them

Reply 85

Zogian

7

I actually didn't talk to my parents at all about applying for university. I remember asking my mum to write a cheque for UCAS and eventually telling her what I was applying to do.
My Tutor was a pain though with the personal statement - hence I ended up changing what I was applying for.
But in the end I applied for universities which were close to BF and other friends - which I actually regret now. But ah well *shrugs* :smile:

Yeah.

yes

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Reply 88

nulli tertius

21

It was said I could start the following day, the following week or in September. I was 4 and this was for infants' school. I told the lady who brought the news that I wanted to start the following day. My mother said that then she would have to get my coat washed.

From that moment onwards, every decision about my education was always mine alone.