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I've never been asked out, not even once

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Original post by EatAndRevise
I am not complaining, I am merely stating that your claim that it is a "man's job" to ask out women, is wrong.


yep and i explained why it isn't.
Original post by StevieA
I believe it should be 50/50 and both should meet somewhere in the middle instead of one gender being expected to take all the chances and do all the groundwork. I mean I could understand this 50 or 60 years ago but we're living in 2014.


"im too scared to be a man get out of the comfort zone for once, why dont things go my way :frown:("
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Original post by TheWorldEndsWithMe
Oh don't be stupid. Not all women will like all men but there will be people who think you're good-looking or whatever. You just need to find the women where that attraction is mutual and make a move if it looks like she isn't going to.

And no. Not all girls get heaps of attention. I certainly don't.


I have done plenty of asking despite being quite shy but it didn't go very well.:frown: If gay guys like me so much, why isn't even one woman willing to step forward and take a chance? I've heard that women only approach guys with model looks or immense status/wealth/fame. I used to think that was bull but I don't know anymore. Why do women have such a narrow range of men they find attractive?
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Original post by BullViagra
yep and i explained why it isn't.


It's horribly unattractive when a girl is clearly interested but won't make a move.

I've gone off a few women who were like that. Entitlement is a massive turnoff.
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Original post by EatAndRevise
"that's your job" that is complete nonsense.



I agree, it's nobody's ''job''. It's not 1952.
Original post by BullViagra
"im too scared to be a man get out of the comfort zone for once, why dont things go my way :frown:("



I really don't think you have a leg to stand on mocking OP considering your resent thread whining about women not going for...well you.
Original post by StevieA
I have done plenty of asking despite being quite shy but it didn't go very well.:frown: If gay guys like me so much, why isn't even one woman willing to step forward and take a chance? I've heard that women only approach guys with model looks or immense status/wealth/fame. I used to think that was bull but I don't know anymore. Why do women have such a narrow range of men they find attractive?


That's not true. And the longer you keep believing this nonsense the angrier and more entitled you are going to get. And believe me when I say we can sense this and that will lead us to not ask you out because believe me I hate whiners who complain and feel entitled.
Original post by StevieA
I agree, it's nobody's ''job''. It's not 1952.


no it's 2014 where girls still expect to be approached, ergo it's the mans job if we wants to get some, unlike OP.

can't you get this in your head?
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Original post by redferry
Its overrated.


I guess it is when you're a girl and the whole world is at your feet simply because you are one. Same way rich people say money is overrated.
Original post by StevieA
I guess it is when you're a girl and the whole world is at your feet simply because you are one. Same way rich people say money is overrated.


Jesus christ shut up. At first I was willing to help you out and offer advice, but jesus christ you seem hell bent on feeding the bull**** perceptions you have in your mind. No woman is going to ask an entitled little boy out, there is your answer. You are entitled and I wouldn't touch you with a ten foot poll, You also seem to be ignoring all the people I saying these things to you because they don't fit into your tiny little world in which all women get asked out every day by movies stars and all men who aren't rich and famous live in a gutter and get spat on by supermodels.

****ing ridiculous, grow up and be a man, stop being a cowardly little boy.
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Original post by SophieSmall
That's not true. And the longer you keep believing this nonsense the angrier and more entitled you are going to get. And believe me when I say we can sense this and that will lead us to not ask you out because believe me I hate whiners who complain and feel entitled.


I don't feel entitled to anything , I just don't understand why women are so different and maybe discriminating compared to men. Like I said in the OP, I used to live in Brighton and got hit on by gay guys constantly. My mate's dad owns a gay club there and I went to a few times for free drinks. I had to keep rejecting the guys hitting on me, felt really bad. Why has no woman ever approached me in a ''straight'' club? Or offered to buy me a drink? Or anything, really.
Original post by SophieSmall
Jesus christ shut up. At first I was willing to help you out and offer advice, but jesus christ you seem hell bent on feeding the bull**** perceptions you have in your mind. No woman is going to ask an entitled little boy out, there is your answer. You are entitled and I wouldn't touch you with a ten foot poll, You also seem to be ignoring all the people I saying these things to you because they don't fit into your tiny little world in which all women get asked out every day by movies stars and all men who aren't rich and famous live in a gutter and get spat on by supermodels.

****ing ridiculous, grow up and be a man, stop being a cowardly little boy.


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Original post by StevieA
I don't feel entitled to anything , I just don't understand why women are so different and maybe discriminating compared to men. Like I said in the OP, I used to live in Brighton and got hit on by gay guys constantly. My mate's dad owns a gay club there and I went to a few times for free drinks. I had to keep rejecting the guys hitting on me, felt really bad. Why has no woman ever approached me in a ''straight'' club? Or offered to buy me a drink? Or anything, really.


The very fact that you think you are being discriminated against screams entitlement because you believe women should be hitting on you!

Why has no woman hit on you in a club? **** knows, you know not every woman in a club is single right? You know not every woman in a club is necessarily looking to hit on anybody, you know that not every woman will be attracted to you right?

I could equally say why hasn't any man hit on me in a club? Why won't they buy me a drink, why am I being discriminated against wah wah wah, they only go for super models wah wah wah. It's incredibly frustrating talk to a guy like you because you seem to thing just by existing you should get asked out. The world doesn't work like that, chances are you've just been unlucky. Chances are I've just been unlucky.
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Original post by SophieSmall
Although it is kind of nonsense it is unfortunately the societal norm for the men to ask the women out (though yes some girls, including me will approach guys). But from a statistical point of view if you are a guy you are less likely to be approached, though I think it is becoming more common for girls to make a move nowadays so hopefully this silly archaic way of going about approaching the opposite sex will fade soon.



Society? Virtually every male in nature is the initiator and the chaser while the female is the choosy partner who has the final decision whether he gets in or not.
Never mind being "asked out", that **** is so 1950s. What you want is to get laid, then if you're any good the girl will want to keep seeing you.

Getting laid is simple, it has three steps:

1) be incredibly attractive
2) meet loads of single women
3) chat, flirt, escalate, remove clothing
Original post by StevieA
Society? Virtually every male in nature is the initiator and the chaser while the female is the choosy partner who has the final decision whether he gets in or not.


Oh piss off. You are pathetic, I hope you don't get asked out you don't deserve to you are a self entitles little boy. And yes girls get the final say as to whether or not you get to put your dick in her otherwise it's rape you idiot.
Original post by StevieA
I don't think I look that bad , probably average or a little better and I'm almost 6'1'' and , 170 lbs and I dress nice, have good hygiene etc . Plus I've had plenty of gay guys try to chat me up when I lived around the gay area in Brighton (felt flattered in a way but no thanks, not my cup of tea). Why don't girls ever approach me? Is there something wrong with me or anything I can do to change it? I'm shy by nature but I have tried asking girls out quite a few times with little to zero success. :frown:

Is there anything I can do to have girls ask me out or will I die alone?:frown:


Dude - don't let that define you. It doesn't take away your value. Let's just say you did get approach by women all the time - why would that matter? Sure, it's great to have someone be attracted to you, but at the end of the day, what do you gain apart from the possibility of sex?

Btw, girls hate being approached at random (usually it's inappropriate) and probably would never think to randomly approach someone else. It's just something girls usually don't do.
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Original post by SophieSmall
Although it is kind of nonsense it is unfortunately the societal norm for the men to ask the women out (though yes some girls, including me will approach guys). But from a statistical point of view if you are a guy you are less likely to be approached, though I think it is becoming more common for girls to make a move nowadays so hopefully this silly archaic way of going about approaching the opposite sex will fade soon.


Original post by SophieSmall
Jesus christ shut up. At first I was willing to help you out and offer advice, but jesus christ you seem hell bent on feeding the bull**** perceptions you have in your mind. No woman is going to ask an entitled little boy out, there is your answer. You are entitled and I wouldn't touch you with a ten foot poll, You also seem to be ignoring all the people I saying these things to you because they don't fit into your tiny little world in which all women get asked out every day by movies stars and all men who aren't rich and famous live in a gutter and get spat on by supermodels.

****ing ridiculous, grow up and be a man, stop being a cowardly little boy.


Wait, so first you despise society for enforcing gender roles but then you insult me for not ''being a man'' ?
Original post by StevieA
Believe me, most guys don't like doing the asking either, who could possibly enjoy being shut down and humiliated time after time?


For gods sake man, you're 12 years old, get a grip. First rule is: you don't ask unless you already know the answer's yes.

You don't ask the girl trying desperately to ignore you at the bar if she wants to come back to yours, you ask the girl grinding a wet patch into your trouser leg.
Original post by StevieA
Wait, so first you despise society for enforcing gender roles but then you insult me for not ''being a man'' ?


I don't despise society for it, yes it is a pain that it is more common for men to approach women but that is gradually changing and women are starting to do the approaching.

Also me telling you be a man has nothing to do with gender rolls, I wasn't even telling you need to be a man and approach women because it's "your job" because that's nonsense. I'm telling you to be a man in the sense that you need to grow up, stop being such a child and expecting everything to go your way.

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