Going out alone

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Anonymous

Hey guys,

I was just wondering, how many of you would go out alone at night? To places such as the following...

1. Movies

2. Restaurant (both casual and more upmarket)

3. Pubs

4. Clubs

If you're gonna post something like 'omgliek onli losers go out alone', please don't bother.

I think its the other way around. Like people feel insecure and need to have people around them at all times and are afraid to go anywhere by themselves.

Reply 21

BeesKnees

I go to the cinema alone alot. I like going to the movies probably more than the average person and it's one of my fave pasttimes. Don't think there's anything wrong with it at all. Quite enjoy my own company from time to time.

Reply 22

Anonymous #1

I think I'll make it a habit to start going to the movies and for a meal on my own as a start. Then slowly work towards the others.

Reply 23

BeesKnees

Have actually been trying to get some people to go down to London to see Wicked the musical with me but most of them are on holiday or too broke to go so I'm considering going by myself as I really want to see it.

Reply 24

kthxbai

#1 = Nope
#2 = Nope
#3 = Nope
#4 = Nope

I prefer being with other people. I went to a bar where I had to wait like an hour for my friends to come and it was very very boring.

Reply 25

Tabris

I don't think I could go to a cinema or restaurant alone.

The pub would be a little weird, and I couldn't imagine that either.

I can go to a club alone though, more often than not I'll know at least a few dozen people at a club when I'm out and if I'm not, I'll just make a few buds for the night or something.

Reply 26

5150

Anonymous

1. Movies

2. Restaurant (both casual and more upmarket)

3. Pubs

4. Clubs

1. no, I don't like the cinema to go there by myself
2. yes, but only if it's a more casual sort of place
3. no
4. yes, for some reason I find it easier to socialize with strangers at a club

Reply 27

AT82

I have never been to a pub alone but I would do it, if I moved to a new area by myself for example the first place I would visit is the local pub. Clubbing alone is a big no no you're just asking for trouble.

Reply 28

LostRiot

I've seen a few films alone, and I've been at a couple of gigs alone, gigs alone is fun because you can talk to everyone, you know you all have at least one thing in common.

Other than that though I'd never go out alone, what's the point?

Reply 29

erk

cinema yeh, because let's be honest, you dont talk, communicate in anyway, so it's the same. as some else said, i love movies, there's nothing better than kicking back and watching a new movie, if i do it on my own it's the same as with others. cinemas aren't designed to talk.

Reply 30

Anonymous #1

The-Lennon

why do you have to? just make an effort with ur mates

My 'mates' usually busy doing their own thing... sucks being a few years older than the rest.

Reply 31

Anonymous #2

anon join some club, do some martial arts or something, anything that takes an interest, maybe u could meet up with some ppl there

Reply 32

mtbab

during the day i've been to a restaurant (mid-market) alone lol wouldnt do it in the eveing lol, the others nah i'd need to eb with someone just for conversations sake even if i could stand them lol

Reply 33

clouddweller

JazzBerry

I go to restaurants on my own quite frequently (both casual and upmarket). I have never been to the cinema on my own but would if there was something I really wanted to see. I have been to the theatre on my own on several occassions. I prefer going shopping without friends so will sometimes find myself in a pub for a drink afterwards.

I love my friends and love socialising, partying and conversation but I also enjoy my own company and the freedom that comes along with it. I find it very relaxing. You don't have to compromise on where you go/what film you see and you don't have to rely on anyone else. It's hassle free!

If you don't have anyone to go out with it shouldn't stop you from enjoying going places like restaurants, cinemas and pubs etc. There is no rule that you can't go on your own and if you will find enjoyment in these places by yourself then you should go for it. I probably wouldn't enjoy a club on my own so I wouldn't go to one. However I do enjoy the other things you mentioned so lack of company will not prevent me from going to them.

Im pretty much the same; Im perfectly happy going out on my own, in fact I find i need alone time to not go crazy:P Its when i think etc etc.
Sure I do more with my friends, and to be honest Im not that hot on going to pubs and clubs on my own (ie thats one i wouldnt do :rolleyes:

) but in the last couple of years Ive gotten alot more self confident and self aware and sometimes i find what i want is to do those things on my own.

If you really have no one to go out with (which is a pity...is there really no one you can call or something?) then seriously, go on your own :biggrin:

The first couple of times can be a bit 'weird'(for want of a better word....) but go a few times and you'll be fine :smile:

Reply 34

Schmokie Dragon

I might go to the movies alone, and maybe a club, but not the other two. They are social things for me and being alone would just make me miserable.

Reply 35

jozza

I've been to restaurants alone only when travelling alone. Would probably go to the cinema alone if it was something none of my friends wanted to see.
I probably wouldn't go to a pub alone, but I know people who do, and if I didn't have anyone to go with, maybe I would consider it. Could be a good way to meet people.

Reply 36

College Guy 1987

This might sound daft, but I've been to places like McDonalds/Pizza Hut on my own. It doesn't matter if people look at you, because you can just pretend you are waiting for someone/ or that you are in a rush to get somewhere.

Reply 37

rubytuesday

i've had ages stuck on my own with nothing much to do this year, with my friends at college and waiting for jobs. during that time i had to go places on my own, beause it was either that or go nowhere. i'm not talking about pubs/clubs etc obviously but the cinema and shopping, days out, just walking and stuff. i think it did help me to realise i don't desperately need to be in a group or with other people, i don't need to be scared of being on my own, and it does make you feel more independent.
BUT
after a while it makes you feel horrible :frown:

it's just lonely and depressing. i've decided recently i can't do it anymore. i mean, i'll still go shopping on my own because i like it, but nothing else. it's much better to be out with anyone even if you don't know them that well or if it's uncomfortable at first.
if you're on your own it makes you concentrate on yourself and what other people must be thinking of you, you start to think too much which is rarely a good thing hehe.