Is it offensive for a gay bar to say &#x27;gay people only&#x27;?

How is anyone going to know you're not gay?

Reply 2

SecretDuck

No bi people allowed? :s-smilie:

Reply 3

Dez

20

To me this sort of sign just implies that this is a bar where people come to pull, rather than a bar for people who want to drink and socialise. Given that on a night out I'm interested in the latter and not the former, I'd give this place a wide berth.

Reply 4

bittr n swt

3

I wouldn't enter anyways lol

But what about bi people??

Reply 5

Truro_Student

The Girl Guides refuse entry to boys despite the Boy Scouts allowing girls, yet a gay bar gets targeted for not wanting hordes of hen parties (it happens) or straight lads going in 'for a dare'.

the wording could be improved, however.

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Reply 6

At canal street in manchester they practically screen you at the door. If they get a feeling you're not gay, they say they're full or that you simply can't come in. I don't think it's offensive.

Reply 7

tearteto

12

Despite how it's worded, it would be called an advisory notice. They can't kick anyone out - since there's no easy way to tell, but if you're straight and you go in there, you're gonna have an awkward / bad time.

Reply 8

SecretDuck

Original post by ldsbabe

At canal street in manchester they practically screen you at the door. If they get a feeling you're not gay, they say they're full or that you simply can't come in. I don't think it's offensive.

So if they fulfill the gay stereotype, they can come in? I know a lot of LGBT+ people who definitely don't act their stereotypes.

Reply 9

bluebeetle

18

I don't think it's offensive, I think 'gay people and their friends' just clarifies that straight people can enter but they don't want large groups of only straight people acting like tourists (which stag and hen parties sometimes do).

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Reply 10

Truro_Student

Gay bars are a popular destination for hen parties - and groups of girls in general - because they offer a 'safe' environment where they can party without being hit on constantly by guys. I can understand this, and girls are overwhelmingly gay- friendly.

however, the lads have picked up on this, and sadly are too often a problem when they come in after the girls. You will never see violent behaviour at a gay pub or club unless a straight guy is involved, sorry guys, but it's true.

Reply 11

Original post by SecretDuck

So if they fulfill the gay stereotype, they can come in? I know a lot of LGBT+ people who definitely don't act their stereotypes.

Not necessarily. I think for example, GAY in Manchester has the same door people week in week out, they're gay themselves from what I've gathered. They know the regulars, and they know for example, groups of straight lads who aren't gay and who may be a cause of trouble. I'm not gay, and I get in so it's not as if they don't let any straight people in. But they are selective, and rightly so.

Reply 12

Original post by Truro_Student

Gay bars are a popular destination for hen parties - and groups of girls in general - because they offer a 'safe' environment where they can party without being hit on constantly by guys. I can understand this, and girls are overwhelmingly gay- friendly.

however, the lads have picked up on this, and sadly are too often a problem when they come in after the girls. You will never see violent behaviour at a gay pub or club unless a straight guy is involved, sorry guys, but it's true.

So true!!

Reply 13

BKS

There's a club in Edinburgh known to decide it's member's only if they don't want to let you in, which they do if they don't think you're gay or bi or queer. I know a bi guy who has been refused entry for it. I believe it's pretty much the same in a good few clubs/bars in Manchester. I can understand not wanting people playing tourist but there's no reasonable way to enforce it.

Dominant/majority groups complaining that they are being discriminated against pisses me off though.

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Reply 14

SecretDuck

Original post by ldsbabe

Not necessarily. I think for example, GAY in Manchester has the same door people week in week out, they're gay themselves from what I've gathered. They know the regulars, and they know for example, groups of straight lads who aren't gay and who may be a cause of trouble. I'm not gay, and I get in so it's not as if they don't let any straight people in. But they are selective, and rightly so.

A gay friend of mine can't get in that bar because he was touted to be too "laddish" to get in.

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