I'm 34, single mother of a just-turning 5 year old and I too am feeling anxious about FW. My uni are plugging wristbands for all the "amazing Fresher events" so I looked them up. They are all raves (hello again 1990s!), massive pub crawls, more night-clubs, more drinking, basically all about getting so lashed, you won't even remember talking to anyone the next day, nevermind their name or which course they're on. I recall the one pub-crawl I did at the age of 20 on my first attempt at uni. I ended up with painful welts on my legs (it was a three-legged one drawn by lottery, my two companion either side where both 6'4 + to my 5'6), I was nearly set alight (we couldn't untie our legs so someone thought it would be clever to burn the ties) and I ended up throwing up in some bushes on the way home feeling like I'd been poisoned. Not again, thank you!
So where are the calmer, more genteel, social activities for us older students who apparently make up 30-40% of my uni's population I find myself asking?? I'll be going to the daytime stuff, definitely looking up the mature students society and hoarding as many freebies as I can carry. But while I actually don't want to go to any of the "main events", I still really feel like I'm missing out here and even twangs of envy for those young, single and childless enough to participate! I did consider at least going to the Fresher's Ball but then I had visions of me sat on my ownsome at a table, having the odd stilted conversation with strangers and leaving early, wishing I hadn't wasted £25 on an event I didn't really enjoy when I could have been at home with my kid watching Disney movies for the price of a packet of popcorn.
I'm not that anti-social, I do spend a lot of time with teenagers through work and volunteering and get on really well with them. I like the occasional night out, I love dancing and music and I don't mind the odd (alcoholic) drink (usually followed by a cup of tea), so I hope to participate occasionally if I find the right venue, company and a babysitter but after 5 years of solo parenting my socialising skills, willingness and energy to participate are pretty wiped out. So I'm apprehensive to say the least and hope its not going to impact too much on the fun element of uni for me.