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Why can't I make friends at University?

I've just finished my first year at University, and basically I've only made one 'good' friend who I see outside of lectures. I'm really struggling with this because at college I had a group of friends and it was a fantastic experience.<br><br>I've been putting it down to a few factors, my university has hardly any extra-curricular stuff, I didn't live in halls (I live with my boyfriend) and there really aren't many people on my course that I feel like have anything in common with me.<br><br>I feel really ****ty now because I feel everyone has already 'matched up' and now I've no real hope of making any more friends in my last 2 years. Its only worsened by the fact that I have given up drinking so now its not really fun for me to go out to clubs etc. when the opportunity does arise.<br><br>Before anyone comments, I'm not weird or a social outcast, nor do I consider myself a loner.&nbsp;
and people wonder why we tell freshers:

"don't commute, live in halls"
"don't go home or to your boyfriends every weekend"
"go out and drink and socialise as much as possible in the first month".


because this is what happens if you don't take our advice.
Reply 2
1) I couldn't afford to live in London by myself, even in halls. Hence why I split the rent.
2) I've stopped drinking for health reasons.

There really is no need for such a 'I told you so' comment.
There must be some societies or sports clubs that your interested in that you could join at uni, sports clubs in particular usually have very large socials where you could meet loads of people.
Unfortunately you are right in thinking most people have their circles of friends now but that doesn't mean you can't get into these circles, it just means you now have to do more of the approaching.
Unfortunately I agree with "cole-slaw" statement but if you are as social as you claim to be, then meeting people on student nights out or in the library should be sufficient, you don't have to drink to get involved but I agree drinking is a huge part of socials, at the end of the day having a great uni experience depends on how fully involved you get, if I was you I would go and get involved with as many things as possible when you go back.

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