Dumping boyfriend before uni?

Depends on how much you value him... worth the extra effort?

EDIT: You say about finding someone more suited. Are you not very good together?

In some ways we are suited such as both liking anime (him more than me), simalar music and a few other bit but he's quite middle class (from cambridge) and I'm quite lower class so he just doesn't get things sometimes.
Like his family have never struggled for money and has professionals who decorated the house ect.
Also I was heavily physically and mentally abused and it seems like he doesn't get how hard it is for me to do things, he's not douchy about it thou just doesn't relate.

I think you've already made your mind up. Talk to him and make sure you tell him how you feel honestly, your reaction to his reaction on the subject will answer your question

Sorry to hear that you experienced abuse.
Have you tried to explain, or there communication problems?
But yeah, I know what you mean. Then again, opposites can tend to attract
My girlfriend comes from a really educated family background - I do not.

Thanks I think I will, sadly i think he really loves me and I don't want to hurt him. Like he said the L work 2 months into the relationship and i said it back a month later as i felt obligated to.
Yeah I think I may have decided already just didn't want to admit it

Yeah the abuse was bad, but i only have mild PTS disorder.
There are some communication issues but I think thats most to do with how far we are from each other, we can't physically speak often and it's hard to talk about it via text.
Opposites do attract but do they last long term

If you're thinking about how you might miss the opportunity to find someone more suited to you at uni if you stay with him, I think that might mean you don't like (love?) him enough to carry on a relationship with him in the long term. Long distance relationships are ...

Have you tried counselling for the PTSD? It can help.
Yeah, distance can be difficult but can be overcome. Try and make specific dates to see each other as regular as pos.
I think they can/do last, as it depends on lots of other factors... mainly communication I think.

I care for him but it might not be enough or equal to love which he has for me. Also the missed opportunity is a worry about him too as he's moving to a big city and who knows who he'll find.
They are very hard to maintain despite feeling as sometimes you miss big things, like work stopped me seeing him till over a week after his bday and I wanted him there when I collected a-level results ect.

I think I feel quite guilty as we've gone out before, 6 years earlier and I dumped him due to feeling and the long distance thing. I hoped this time would be different with maturity of both of us and possible "fate" bringing us together again on a chance meeting.

Don't worry about things happening at uni. What happens at uni stays at uni! Number one rule!

Do you think you could potentially love him as much as he loves you in the future? If you do, it'd be worth carrying on the relationship for a bit longer to see if that happens & your feelings grow. If you don't, perhaps not.

In my experience, in a relationship you really want to be in, you don't care about missing the opportunity to find someone more suited to you - as far as you're concerned, you've found the person who is the best suited to you that anyone can be. If he loves you enough he won't care. He will meet plenty of people in a big city, but he could meet another girl who he's more suited to anywhere, anytime (within reason ofc) ditto you with another guy. This is something you need to properly talk to him about.

They are, and it's unfortunate that things like that happen, but in many cases there's not much you can do about it and just have to live with it. My birthday was last week and there was a chance my boyfriend might not have been able to see me because he could potentially have been starting a new job. Of course I was upset, but I know that he needs the money too much to pass up on the opportunity so he could be there on my birthday, so I just had to deal with it. It's nice to have your SO there for those big things, but it isn't always possible, even in a relationship that isn't long distance. The question is are you prepared to wait out a few years of not having each other there all the time for things like that for a time when you will be able to be closer together in the future, or do you think you'll find it too hard?

You can't force yourself to feel a certain way about someone, as much as you might want to. Don't beat yourself up about that. It's not his fault or yours that you don't think you feel the same amount of love for him as he does for you, but one thing you shouldn't do is tell him that you love him if you're not sure because that's not being honest with him and relationships need honesty.

Do people know what love is? i hope you don't think like 'oh i love you but look i found someone even more pretty'
You either love someone or you don't instead of holding someone as a reserve until something better comes along.
I just don't like the thought of being used.

As far as I can tell the OP is thinking in terms of personality rather than looks.

But yeah, I agree with this - this was the point I was trying to make in a roundabout way (maybe not the being used bit though) - if the thought that you could find someone better than your partner crosses your mind even for a second, then you should really think about how much you want to be with them. They should already be the best person you could want to be with. I know you care about him OP, but if your feelings don't match his then you're lying to him by staying with him & telling him you love him.