Ex is threatening to share a nude photo of me online

In January my then boyfriend left me after 5 and a half months because of a number of reasons. I haven't been friends with him since then and we had a few arguments in lessons until he moved away from the school and town in March because of family reasons. He knows I've gotten over him and have had another boyfriend since 23rd February but the last couple of days he has kept sending me messages saying that if I don't sleep with him when he comes back into town next week to see some of his friends he will share a nude photo that he took of me when we had sex online and make sure my family and friends see it. I've told my boyfriend this and he's said just ignore him but I am scared because I don't want my friends and family to see the nude picture of me that he took. I don't want to sleep with him because I don't like him and I don't want to cheat on my boyfriend who has been a better boyfriend than him. What should I do?

You should play him at his own game by telling him that if he doesn't stop issuing these threats or follows them through you will report him for the very serious crime of blackmail with a copy of the conversation. Keep the messages.

Isn't this blackmail?

Save the evidence and get the police involved before he has the chance to post anything.

In January my then boyfriend left me after 5 and a half months because of a number of reasons. I haven't been friends with him since then and we had a few arguments in lessons until he moved away from the school and town in March because of family reasons. He knows I've gotten over him and have had another boyfriend since 23rd February but the last couple of days he has kept sending me messages saying that if I don't sleep with him when he comes back into town next week to see some of his friends he will share a nude photo that he took of me when we had sex online and make sure my family and friends see it. I've told my boyfriend this and he's said just ignore him but I am scared because I don't want my friends and family to see the nude picture of me that he took. I don't want to sleep with him because I don't like him and I don't want to cheat on my boyfriend who has been a better boyfriend than him. What should I do?

Please don't sleep with him. He sounds like a disgusting SOB btw.

Tell someone you know you can trust and will keep it confidential (like your GP or a counsellor at school if you don't want to tell someone you know personally) about this.

Also, tell him you'll go to the police (and do so) if he continues to threaten you. What he is doing is downright illegal. As is sharing pictures online without someone's consent.

Tell him you'll reciprocate and share a nude of him.

How old are you?

If you're under 18, those images could constitute child pornography - in fact, I'd argue that they're likely to if they were taken during sex. The last thing he wants is for the police to get involved.

Just something to bear in mind.

Please don't sleep with him. He sounds like a disgusting SOB btw.

Tell someone you know you can trust and will keep it confidential (like your GP or a counsellor at school if you don't want to tell someone you know personally) about this.

Also, tell him you'll go to the police (and do so) if he continues to threaten you. What he is doing is downright illegal. As is sharing pictures online without someone's consent.

I don't want to sleep with him because if I cheat on my boyfriend I wouldn't be able to live with myself because my boyfriend deserves better than someone who would cheat on him.

The only person that knows about my ex threatening to post a nude of me online is my boyfriend and he will be the only person that I know who knows about this.

I will, thanks for the advice.

I would tell him that I'll share a nude of him but when we split up I deleted any nude pictures of him from my phone.

I'm 16.

My pictures were shared on a porn site from my friend without my consent.
I don't think I should make a big issue on this. Is this illegal?

My personal take would be "****ing do it then, it'll make you look like a knob" but then I wouldn't care if people saw it so...

I'd report him!

I don't mind so much that my friends would see the nude because I have a couple on my phone with my current boyfriend that a couple of them would have seen, it's just I got my parents and grandparents and more family on my facebook and I don't want them to see it. I wish I wouldn't care if people saw them but I'm not that type of person.