I met this girl at university and we instantly clicked, I see her as my best-friend as does she. During term-time we are as thick as thieves and we have a very strong connection as we share the same ideals and outlook on life. I really care for her and to me, she is probably one of the best people I have met to date.
However, out of term-time she makes no effort whatsoever to contact me, I'm the one doing all the phone-calling and texting and when I confront her about it she just says that she doesn't like to talk that much on the phone (she is quite introverted to be fair). She has a group of friends back home and when I do get round to speaking to her on the phone she tells me that she's been going out with them, hanging out at their houses etc.. and this upsets me because when I ask her to go out she makes excuses like she doesn't enjoy outings that much or she's too tired [please note that we live an hour away from each-other so distance is not a problem]. Now, I'm not constantly bugging her to go out but during the Summer holidays I wanted to meet up after spending 3 weeks away and she still declined.
Contrast this to when we are at university she is always up for going for meals, chilling in my room etc.. I can't help but feel as though I only matter to her at university because she doesn't have many friends there. What has really got to me lately is that I recently found out she went abroad for a week with one of her secondary school friends and did not bother to tell me!
I know I've only known her for a short period of time but we really did hit it off. We have exchanged some emotional periods in our life and supported each-other through quite a tough first year at university.
So I can't help but feel a bit used. I really do care a lot about the people that I befriend so when they upset me I hurt a lot. I haven't told her how I feel because when I do she just tends to brush it off and say that she's not really a sociable person.
What do you guys think? I would really appreciate some advice and guidance on how to progress.
- Thanks in advance