Will things get better? Genuinely? Please reply if you can
yeah so im just sick of feeling this way, i’ll try to summarise it btw this isnt a sob story lol i just kinda want advice (i'm 17 now)
1. i have such low self-esteem
2. i get annoyed because my ‘problems’ seem so materialistic and silly
3. when i was younger i had really bad social anxiety (still do a lil) but it made me really withdrawn and i went through many years not really talking and making friends ygm? i think in a way i kinda thought i was better than everyone, i kinda hated being black too.. so i would try to be white
4. anyway when i was 14 its seems ridiculous but something really bad happened at school, i was so insecure and so angry, i did some cyber bullying on formspring (like ask.fm) anyway, it was REALLY bad, i got caught and people hated me forever, some still do.. obviously i don’t blame them and accept consequences etc etc
4. but it ruined me even further, i felt soo isolated and alone and truly hated myself, the effects are still lasting all around me, you know how people talk
5. anyway it made me so scared and anti and really unpopular amongst a lot of people, im thankful a handful of people stuck by me
6. my familys really dysfunctional, i know everyones is but yea, i think a lot of whats happened at home has made me have so many issues
7. my biggest problem is comparison and feeling inadequate basically, i hate admitting it because its so silly
8. i dont have instagram partly because im not confident and not ‘popular’, it seems you only really get validation if youre popular on social networks which im not
9. and its stupid because it upsets me so much, you ever hear people doing things for ‘image’? yeah… well i guess i want that but also for it to be reality
10. i feel really isolated, i really feel like i have no one…like yeah i have friends but i still feel alone
11. this summer, i really tried putting myself out there but i felt so out of place and wrong, it was also so difficult because it honestly seems like, especially at this networking day and age, everyone knows everyone
i would go to events and feel so low, i was always the new girl no one had heard of etc and i tried not to let it bother me but i did/does
12. i think my problem is just the need for acceptance in everyway 😭😭😭
13. i wanna meet new people but i also dont know how to, everyone new i seem to meet is so involved in that image lifestyle, like being bait etc
14. i probably sound like the biggest hypocrite but i dont know how to formulate things in words
15. i even hate using snapchat because of the same reasons again, no confidence and also the fact i feel ignored by people as not worthy because im not bait or anything, or don’t go out, or doesn’t have a typical humour
16. i just care too much and its killing me
17. this isnt a sob story .. im just sick of being sooo depressed
18. im going into year 13.. this year will be extra hard because people around me will be going to motives all the time (18th birthdays), and even if i get invited, i just feel inadequate in everyway i suppose. should i just firm the isolation and wait till uni.. will things even be different then
19. i guess something that really brought all these feelings out was a girl i met, she has twitter and shes soo friendly to everyone else but its almost like when she met me, she completely disregarded me even when i tried to talk to her… probably because shes a social climber i dont even know everything sounds so stupid and ughhh i just had to get this all down and ugh,
20. i just want to be happy
1. i have such low self-esteem
2. i get annoyed because my ‘problems’ seem so materialistic and silly
3. when i was younger i had really bad social anxiety (still do a lil) but it made me really withdrawn and i went through many years not really talking and making friends ygm? i think in a way i kinda thought i was better than everyone, i kinda hated being black too.. so i would try to be white
4. anyway when i was 14 its seems ridiculous but something really bad happened at school, i was so insecure and so angry, i did some cyber bullying on formspring (like ask.fm) anyway, it was REALLY bad, i got caught and people hated me forever, some still do.. obviously i don’t blame them and accept consequences etc etc
4. but it ruined me even further, i felt soo isolated and alone and truly hated myself, the effects are still lasting all around me, you know how people talk
5. anyway it made me so scared and anti and really unpopular amongst a lot of people, im thankful a handful of people stuck by me
6. my familys really dysfunctional, i know everyones is but yea, i think a lot of whats happened at home has made me have so many issues
7. my biggest problem is comparison and feeling inadequate basically, i hate admitting it because its so silly
8. i dont have instagram partly because im not confident and not ‘popular’, it seems you only really get validation if youre popular on social networks which im not
9. and its stupid because it upsets me so much, you ever hear people doing things for ‘image’? yeah… well i guess i want that but also for it to be reality
10. i feel really isolated, i really feel like i have no one…like yeah i have friends but i still feel alone
11. this summer, i really tried putting myself out there but i felt so out of place and wrong, it was also so difficult because it honestly seems like, especially at this networking day and age, everyone knows everyone
i would go to events and feel so low, i was always the new girl no one had heard of etc and i tried not to let it bother me but i did/does
12. i think my problem is just the need for acceptance in everyway 😭😭😭
13. i wanna meet new people but i also dont know how to, everyone new i seem to meet is so involved in that image lifestyle, like being bait etc
14. i probably sound like the biggest hypocrite but i dont know how to formulate things in words
15. i even hate using snapchat because of the same reasons again, no confidence and also the fact i feel ignored by people as not worthy because im not bait or anything, or don’t go out, or doesn’t have a typical humour
16. i just care too much and its killing me
17. this isnt a sob story .. im just sick of being sooo depressed
18. im going into year 13.. this year will be extra hard because people around me will be going to motives all the time (18th birthdays), and even if i get invited, i just feel inadequate in everyway i suppose. should i just firm the isolation and wait till uni.. will things even be different then
19. i guess something that really brought all these feelings out was a girl i met, she has twitter and shes soo friendly to everyone else but its almost like when she met me, she completely disregarded me even when i tried to talk to her… probably because shes a social climber i dont even know everything sounds so stupid and ughhh i just had to get this all down and ugh,
20. i just want to be happy
Things do get better 
Original post by Anonymous
yeah so im just sick of feeling this way, i’ll try to summarise it btw this isnt a sob story lol i just kinda want advice (i'm 17 now)
1. i have such low self-esteem
2. i get annoyed because my ‘problems’ seem so materialistic and silly
3. when i was younger i had really bad social anxiety (still do a lil) but it made me really withdrawn and i went through many years not really talking and making friends ygm? i think in a way i kinda thought i was better than everyone, i kinda hated being black too.. so i would try to be white
4. anyway when i was 14 its seems ridiculous but something really bad happened at school, i was so insecure and so angry, i did some cyber bullying on formspring (like ask.fm) anyway, it was REALLY bad, i got caught and people hated me forever, some still do.. obviously i don’t blame them and accept consequences etc etc
4. but it ruined me even further, i felt soo isolated and alone and truly hated myself, the effects are still lasting all around me, you know how people talk
5. anyway it made me so scared and anti and really unpopular amongst a lot of people, im thankful a handful of people stuck by me
6. my familys really dysfunctional, i know everyones is but yea, i think a lot of whats happened at home has made me have so many issues
7. my biggest problem is comparison and feeling inadequate basically, i hate admitting it because its so silly
8. i dont have instagram partly because im not confident and not ‘popular’, it seems you only really get validation if youre popular on social networks which im not
9. and its stupid because it upsets me so much, you ever hear people doing things for ‘image’? yeah… well i guess i want that but also for it to be reality
10. i feel really isolated, i really feel like i have no one…like yeah i have friends but i still feel alone
11. this summer, i really tried putting myself out there but i felt so out of place and wrong, it was also so difficult because it honestly seems like, especially at this networking day and age, everyone knows everyone
i would go to events and feel so low, i was always the new girl no one had heard of etc and i tried not to let it bother me but i did/does
12. i think my problem is just the need for acceptance in everyway 😭😭😭
13. i wanna meet new people but i also dont know how to, everyone new i seem to meet is so involved in that image lifestyle, like being bait etc
14. i probably sound like the biggest hypocrite but i dont know how to formulate things in words
15. i even hate using snapchat because of the same reasons again, no confidence and also the fact i feel ignored by people as not worthy because im not bait or anything, or don’t go out, or doesn’t have a typical humour
16. i just care too much and its killing me
17. this isnt a sob story .. im just sick of being sooo depressed
18. im going into year 13.. this year will be extra hard because people around me will be going to motives all the time (18th birthdays), and even if i get invited, i just feel inadequate in everyway i suppose. should i just firm the isolation and wait till uni.. will things even be different then
19. i guess something that really brought all these feelings out was a girl i met, she has twitter and shes soo friendly to everyone else but its almost like when she met me, she completely disregarded me even when i tried to talk to her… probably because shes a social climber i dont even know everything sounds so stupid and ughhh i just had to get this all down and ugh,
20. i just want to be happy
1. i have such low self-esteem
2. i get annoyed because my ‘problems’ seem so materialistic and silly
3. when i was younger i had really bad social anxiety (still do a lil) but it made me really withdrawn and i went through many years not really talking and making friends ygm? i think in a way i kinda thought i was better than everyone, i kinda hated being black too.. so i would try to be white
4. anyway when i was 14 its seems ridiculous but something really bad happened at school, i was so insecure and so angry, i did some cyber bullying on formspring (like ask.fm) anyway, it was REALLY bad, i got caught and people hated me forever, some still do.. obviously i don’t blame them and accept consequences etc etc
4. but it ruined me even further, i felt soo isolated and alone and truly hated myself, the effects are still lasting all around me, you know how people talk
5. anyway it made me so scared and anti and really unpopular amongst a lot of people, im thankful a handful of people stuck by me
6. my familys really dysfunctional, i know everyones is but yea, i think a lot of whats happened at home has made me have so many issues
7. my biggest problem is comparison and feeling inadequate basically, i hate admitting it because its so silly
8. i dont have instagram partly because im not confident and not ‘popular’, it seems you only really get validation if youre popular on social networks which im not
9. and its stupid because it upsets me so much, you ever hear people doing things for ‘image’? yeah… well i guess i want that but also for it to be reality
10. i feel really isolated, i really feel like i have no one…like yeah i have friends but i still feel alone
11. this summer, i really tried putting myself out there but i felt so out of place and wrong, it was also so difficult because it honestly seems like, especially at this networking day and age, everyone knows everyone
i would go to events and feel so low, i was always the new girl no one had heard of etc and i tried not to let it bother me but i did/does
12. i think my problem is just the need for acceptance in everyway 😭😭😭
13. i wanna meet new people but i also dont know how to, everyone new i seem to meet is so involved in that image lifestyle, like being bait etc
14. i probably sound like the biggest hypocrite but i dont know how to formulate things in words
15. i even hate using snapchat because of the same reasons again, no confidence and also the fact i feel ignored by people as not worthy because im not bait or anything, or don’t go out, or doesn’t have a typical humour
16. i just care too much and its killing me
17. this isnt a sob story .. im just sick of being sooo depressed
18. im going into year 13.. this year will be extra hard because people around me will be going to motives all the time (18th birthdays), and even if i get invited, i just feel inadequate in everyway i suppose. should i just firm the isolation and wait till uni.. will things even be different then
19. i guess something that really brought all these feelings out was a girl i met, she has twitter and shes soo friendly to everyone else but its almost like when she met me, she completely disregarded me even when i tried to talk to her… probably because shes a social climber i dont even know everything sounds so stupid and ughhh i just had to get this all down and ugh,
20. i just want to be happy
I was worse at one point - now I'm happier than I could ever have imagined
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Original post by shawn_o1
is it just me or is there no such thing as a girl who is okay with having no friends? Does every girl have to have friends?
Well yeah, humans are a social animal so we've evolved (or if you like, been created) to need others around us to ensure our mental health and chances of survival, and most humans get sad when they're alone for a long time? This is pretty normal and has nothing to do with being a girl, "lonely" isn't a gendered adjective after all. Most men and boys also want friends, and if you don't have any then either you're exceptional or you're sore about it and have come to highlight someone else's insecurity online.
To be honest, your need to come on here and pick at a girl who has asked for help to show how girls are superficial for wanting the validation of human contact and friendship is just sad and sexist, I'm not sure why you commented in the first place.
Original post by Anonymous
4. anyway when i was 14 its seems ridiculous but something really bad happened at school, i was so insecure and so angry, i did some cyber bullying on formspring (like ask.fm) anyway, it was REALLY bad, i got caught and people hated me forever, some still do.. obviously i don’t blame them and accept consequences etc etc
4. but it ruined me even further, i felt soo isolated and alone and truly hated myself, the effects are still lasting all around me, you know how people talk
4. but it ruined me even further, i felt soo isolated and alone and truly hated myself, the effects are still lasting all around me, you know how people talk
Remember, people at university or work etc. (I recommend uni, more opportunities to join clubs and societies etc.) will not know about you screwing up when you were 14. They won't have known you then, they won't remember it, you can arrive with a clean slate and having learnt from what you did back then and moved on from it.
There will also be the opportunity to make more friends there - universities usually have thousands of students, and going to clubs and societies can both help you find people who share your interests and might like to be friends, and also fill up your time and get you socialising even if that takes time. There will also be people on your course who you might get along well with without the stigma of anything you did as a child hanging over you.
^ I never picked on her
(all i'm saying is, instead of arguing with your thoughts/emotions/feelings, accept them. Because the act of fighting those only makes them worse. For me, trying to be a friend only got me into more trouble. So I accept that I can't make any.)
(all i'm saying is, instead of arguing with your thoughts/emotions/feelings, accept them. Because the act of fighting those only makes them worse. For me, trying to be a friend only got me into more trouble. So I accept that I can't make any.)
(edited 9 years ago)
Original post by Anonymous
yeah so im just sick of feeling this way, i’ll try to summarise it btw this isnt a sob story lol i just kinda want advice (i'm 17 now)
1. i have such low self-esteem
2. i get annoyed because my ‘problems’ seem so materialistic and silly
3. when i was younger i had really bad social anxiety (still do a lil) but it made me really withdrawn and i went through many years not really talking and making friends ygm? i think in a way i kinda thought i was better than everyone, i kinda hated being black too.. so i would try to be white
4. anyway when i was 14 its seems ridiculous but something really bad happened at school, i was so insecure and so angry, i did some cyber bullying on formspring (like ask.fm) anyway, it was REALLY bad, i got caught and people hated me forever, some still do.. obviously i don’t blame them and accept consequences etc etc
4. but it ruined me even further, i felt soo isolated and alone and truly hated myself, the effects are still lasting all around me, you know how people talk
5. anyway it made me so scared and anti and really unpopular amongst a lot of people, im thankful a handful of people stuck by me
6. my familys really dysfunctional, i know everyones is but yea, i think a lot of whats happened at home has made me have so many issues
7. my biggest problem is comparison and feeling inadequate basically, i hate admitting it because its so silly
8. i dont have instagram partly because im not confident and not ‘popular’, it seems you only really get validation if youre popular on social networks which im not
9. and its stupid because it upsets me so much, you ever hear people doing things for ‘image’? yeah… well i guess i want that but also for it to be reality
10. i feel really isolated, i really feel like i have no one…like yeah i have friends but i still feel alone
11. this summer, i really tried putting myself out there but i felt so out of place and wrong, it was also so difficult because it honestly seems like, especially at this networking day and age, everyone knows everyone
i would go to events and feel so low, i was always the new girl no one had heard of etc and i tried not to let it bother me but i did/does
12. i think my problem is just the need for acceptance in everyway ������������������
13. i wanna meet new people but i also dont know how to, everyone new i seem to meet is so involved in that image lifestyle, like being bait etc
14. i probably sound like the biggest hypocrite but i dont know how to formulate things in words
15. i even hate using snapchat because of the same reasons again, no confidence and also the fact i feel ignored by people as not worthy because im not bait or anything, or don’t go out, or doesn’t have a typical humour
16. i just care too much and its killing me
17. this isnt a sob story .. im just sick of being sooo depressed
18. im going into year 13.. this year will be extra hard because people around me will be going to motives all the time (18th birthdays), and even if i get invited, i just feel inadequate in everyway i suppose. should i just firm the isolation and wait till uni.. will things even be different then
19. i guess something that really brought all these feelings out was a girl i met, she has twitter and shes soo friendly to everyone else but its almost like when she met me, she completely disregarded me even when i tried to talk to her… probably because shes a social climber i dont even know everything sounds so stupid and ughhh i just had to get this all down and ugh,
20. i just want to be happy
1. i have such low self-esteem
2. i get annoyed because my ‘problems’ seem so materialistic and silly
3. when i was younger i had really bad social anxiety (still do a lil) but it made me really withdrawn and i went through many years not really talking and making friends ygm? i think in a way i kinda thought i was better than everyone, i kinda hated being black too.. so i would try to be white
4. anyway when i was 14 its seems ridiculous but something really bad happened at school, i was so insecure and so angry, i did some cyber bullying on formspring (like ask.fm) anyway, it was REALLY bad, i got caught and people hated me forever, some still do.. obviously i don’t blame them and accept consequences etc etc
4. but it ruined me even further, i felt soo isolated and alone and truly hated myself, the effects are still lasting all around me, you know how people talk
5. anyway it made me so scared and anti and really unpopular amongst a lot of people, im thankful a handful of people stuck by me
6. my familys really dysfunctional, i know everyones is but yea, i think a lot of whats happened at home has made me have so many issues
7. my biggest problem is comparison and feeling inadequate basically, i hate admitting it because its so silly
8. i dont have instagram partly because im not confident and not ‘popular’, it seems you only really get validation if youre popular on social networks which im not
9. and its stupid because it upsets me so much, you ever hear people doing things for ‘image’? yeah… well i guess i want that but also for it to be reality
10. i feel really isolated, i really feel like i have no one…like yeah i have friends but i still feel alone
11. this summer, i really tried putting myself out there but i felt so out of place and wrong, it was also so difficult because it honestly seems like, especially at this networking day and age, everyone knows everyone
i would go to events and feel so low, i was always the new girl no one had heard of etc and i tried not to let it bother me but i did/does
12. i think my problem is just the need for acceptance in everyway ������������������
13. i wanna meet new people but i also dont know how to, everyone new i seem to meet is so involved in that image lifestyle, like being bait etc
14. i probably sound like the biggest hypocrite but i dont know how to formulate things in words
15. i even hate using snapchat because of the same reasons again, no confidence and also the fact i feel ignored by people as not worthy because im not bait or anything, or don’t go out, or doesn’t have a typical humour
16. i just care too much and its killing me
17. this isnt a sob story .. im just sick of being sooo depressed
18. im going into year 13.. this year will be extra hard because people around me will be going to motives all the time (18th birthdays), and even if i get invited, i just feel inadequate in everyway i suppose. should i just firm the isolation and wait till uni.. will things even be different then
19. i guess something that really brought all these feelings out was a girl i met, she has twitter and shes soo friendly to everyone else but its almost like when she met me, she completely disregarded me even when i tried to talk to her… probably because shes a social climber i dont even know everything sounds so stupid and ughhh i just had to get this all down and ugh,
20. i just want to be happy
I haven't read your whole post, but I saw a few things about feeling isolated and depressed.
I've been through this earlier in life for a year or so. I felt like life was pointless, ruined my GCSE's pretty badly, and a bunch of other stuff I don't want to openly talk about which is far more serious.
However, down to the bedrock of my response, yes life does get MUCH BETTER Honestly, don't give up. Like I said for a year or so I felt the worst I've ever felt in my life, but now with where I am and what I'm doing I genuinely think I'm the happiest I can be and have ever been.
Life only ever improves as it goes on, you're worth wile and you can do what you want in life, just don't waste it. Things will get better as you get older, I hope this helps, don't give up and feel free to inbox me I like doing what I can to cheer people up
(edited 9 years ago)
Original post by Youssii
Well yeah, humans are a social animal so we've evolved (or if you like, been created) to need others around us to ensure our mental health and chances of survival, and most humans get sad when they're alone for a long time? This is pretty normal and has nothing to do with being a girl, "lonely" isn't a gendered adjective after all. Most men and boys also want friends, and if you don't have any then either you're exceptional or you're sore about it and have come to highlight someone else's insecurity online.
To be honest, your need to come on here and pick at a girl who has asked for help to show how girls are superficial for wanting the validation of human contact and friendship is just sad and sexist, I'm not sure why you commented in the first place.
Remember, people at university or work etc. (I recommend uni, more opportunities to join clubs and societies etc.) will not know about you screwing up when you were 14. They won't have known you then, they won't remember it, you can arrive with a clean slate and having learnt from what you did back then and moved on from it.
There will also be the opportunity to make more friends there - universities usually have thousands of students, and going to clubs and societies can both help you find people who share your interests and might like to be friends, and also fill up your time and get you socialising even if that takes time. There will also be people on your course who you might get along well with without the stigma of anything you did as a child hanging over you.
To be honest, your need to come on here and pick at a girl who has asked for help to show how girls are superficial for wanting the validation of human contact and friendship is just sad and sexist, I'm not sure why you commented in the first place.
Remember, people at university or work etc. (I recommend uni, more opportunities to join clubs and societies etc.) will not know about you screwing up when you were 14. They won't have known you then, they won't remember it, you can arrive with a clean slate and having learnt from what you did back then and moved on from it.
There will also be the opportunity to make more friends there - universities usually have thousands of students, and going to clubs and societies can both help you find people who share your interests and might like to be friends, and also fill up your time and get you socialising even if that takes time. There will also be people on your course who you might get along well with without the stigma of anything you did as a child hanging over you.
This is a late reply but thank you so much
Means a lot honestly
I'm just trying to stay strong
Yes, acceptance can be a good strategy, you just need to find the right tool in order to do that.
Also, try to avoid comparison, you are to be valued as a human being only for who you are, not in comparison to other people.
I suggest you to consider the opportunity of doing some life coaching or counselling, it can be very effective to solve your problems, let go of your concerns and improve your life. I am available to talk to you about possible strategies you could follow if you are interested.
Also, try to avoid comparison, you are to be valued as a human being only for who you are, not in comparison to other people.
I suggest you to consider the opportunity of doing some life coaching or counselling, it can be very effective to solve your problems, let go of your concerns and improve your life. I am available to talk to you about possible strategies you could follow if you are interested.
Original post by shawn_o1
is it just me or is there no such thing as a girl who is okay with having no friends? Does every girl have to have friends?
Nah you get quite a few here where I am.
What you need go think is the places you are normally like fields aren't where they would hang out try libarys art the back in a corner or some quiet part of the school.
That is if you are hunting for them...
