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Regret being In a relationship at Uni / Freshers?

Anonymous #1

Anybody have any regrets about being in a relationship during your time at uni or Freshers?

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Reply 1

AvadaKedavra

lol not a problem I'd ever have
(forever alone)

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

This is my fear :frown:

Reply 3

Anonymous #3

#AnonymousCrew

I'm a tad concerned about it, yes.

Reply 4

Anonymous #4

It's one of the very few reasons why I'm glad my bf left me

Reply 5

katehlouise

Nope. I still went out a few times.

That said, I'm not really into 'clubbing' and I'm also not the kind of person to sleep around or get off with random guys. (Even now that I'm single)

Reply 6

NewlyScared

Yes. I broke up with her about four months later. Spent the rest of the year regretting not being single in Freshers week as that seemed to be the absolute best time to meet people.

I don't think I would break up with someone I loved just for freshers week though, but by the time I started our relationship was already showing cracks and I wish I'd just been bold enough to end it there, new start at Uni etc and would have been able to enjoy Fresher's week properly.

One of my mates ended up taking his girlfriend with him to Uni for Fresher's Week. Poor sod.

Reply 7

katenworb

I had a boyfriend in my first year and it was so frustrating, he would constantly ring and text me when I was trying to get my head down and work

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Reply 8

CJKay

I'm finding it hard to think of reasons why a relationship would have limited my fresher's week.

Reply 9

bittr n swt

I won't be getting a gf in first year. I'm going to be selfish and have a good time by putting me first.

Reply 10

Anonymous #5

Yes. I wasn't with him in freshers because I met him about a month in. In terms of going out and having fun, I probably enjoyed myself more whilst I was in a relationship (when I met him it was still early days - I got closer to my friends, more confident, etc. as the year went on), it didn't limit me. However it ended pretty horrendously and ruined my third term of uni. I didn't miss out on going out and enjoying myself, but I would've been better off meeting new people or just focusing on myself rather than wasting my time on a **** :wink:

Reply 11

Anonymous #6

I feel sorry for your partner...if you feel this way you obviously don't love or care about him or her...the relationship is less important to you than a week of getting off with loads of random people...end your relationship right now so that your partner can go find someone that really cares...

Reply 12

gr8wizard10

Going to be in the library for the duration of that god forsaken week so meh.. break up and start studying.

Reply 13

curlycherry

Original post by bittr n swt

I won't be getting a gf in first year. I'm going to be selfish and have a good time by putting me first.

this is the plan.

Reply 14

LottieDottie_

I'm not gonna regret it at all. I love my guy, so why would I want to be looking for some quick hook-up? Why would I be looking for that even if I weren't with him? I'm going to be living five minutes from the train station and from there it's only a 15 minute train ride to see him, I'm just thankful I'm from Sheffield and we live close, I guess.

Besides, I know he's one of those people that gets on with everybody, so I have a good feeling there'll be no clashes with friends I make and whenever we go out in Sheffield together it always ends up being an awesome night & ending the best way it can, so I can't really complain that he's gonna make things difficult for me in freshers. He's already told me to just go out and enjoy myself.

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 15

Alxndra

Original post by NewlyScared

Yes. I broke up with her about four months later. Spent the rest of the year regretting not being single in Freshers week as that seemed to be the absolute best time to meet people.

This basically, but change 'her' to 'him'

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

Anybody think it affected their ability to socialise or anything?

Avoid if if you can

Not even remotely. I've been in the same relationship since the start of first year, and not only did it not limit my ability to do well and have fun, it made me a better person and gave me a sense of security.

At the end of the day, the extent to which you have fun and are able to do well at Uni depends on you. If you want to be the type of couple who just spends all their time together rather than going out with friends, too, or the kind of couple who are obsessively texting each other to find out where they are rather than working when they should be, then that's the type of experience you'll have. Simple. It's not the relationship in itself that's the problem, it's your own expectations of that relationship and what a relationship should be about.

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 19

LavenderBlueSky88

I went to uni (first time round, at 18) with a boyfriend and we decided to try doing it long distance (he didn't get in to his first choice, which was close to me, so ended up on the other side of the country). He was my first, and I thought it was a proper relationship. I soon realised though that I just wasn't as into it as I had thought. The moment it hit me was when he called me about 5 days in, and I'd forgotten it was his birthday. I ended up meeting him after being at uni 2 weeks to break up with him, because I just knew it wouldn't work.

Ironically I ended up meeting my next boyfriend in freshers week and we got together a few days after I'd broken up with my first boyfriend (bad, I know! I was 18 don't judge me!) and we stayed together for 2 years. It was easier because we were all in the same friendship group and there were a few other couples too. I don't feel like it restricted me too much at all.