So self conscious about body shape and flat chest

But I'll never be considered hot or attractive... I'm not naive I know guys would never want to be with someone like me. They want girls to at least have medium sized boobs, otherwise they say it's like sleeping with a child or a man. I've considered a boob job but I can't afford one. I just want to look feminine and in proportion

But I'll never be considered hot or attractive... I'm not naive I know guys would never want to be with someone like me. They want girls to at least have medium sized boobs, otherwise they say it's like sleeping with a child or a man. I've considered a boob job but I can't afford one. I just want to look feminine and in proportion

But I'll never be considered hot or attractive... I'm not naive I know guys would never want to be with someone like me. They want girls to at least have medium sized boobs, otherwise they say it's like sleeping with a child or a man. I've considered a boob job but I can't afford one. I just want to look feminine and in proportion

Although the difference isn't drastic between most people, it is true that different people store fat in different places.

Sounds to me as though you have a thin upper body but a fat(ter) lower body, because you have a disproportionate amount of fat on your legs. This is making it seem as though you have smaller boobs than you actually do (relativity speaking).

There is actually quite a few "pear shaped" girls in your position - the fix is simple. Just diet until you lose the fat on your legs, your boob size will not increase but they will appear bigger because you'll be far more proportionate.

I don't have fat legs, I have wide hips and a bit of a big bum, but my legs are muscular and not very fat. I think it's from doing a lot of dance and athletics when I was younger and even though I don't do it now I'm stuck with my figure how it is. If I diet I just loose what boobs I do have and look even worse.

No. your hips are wide(r) and your bum is big big(er) than your upper body because it has more fat on it. It's that easy.

Big "bone structure" and "more muscle" is honestly just media terms to justify unwanted body types. If you x-ray two people, one with a pear shaped body and one without - given they are the same height and race, their hip width (as in the actual bone) will most likely be very similar.

I'm not trying to insult you, or put you down, quite the opposite. You won't lose your boobs if you diet.

Besides, you don't like the way you look now anyways, what do you have to lose?

EDIT: Although I think that people should strive towards self improvement (not necessarily making themselves look better), you should try to be happy with what you have. I can't speak for others but when I see a girl I don't start analyzing her boob size in my head and then deem it good enough or not. I notice their best feature first (which may or may not be their boobs!), so get out of the mindset that all people are doing is a complex boob analysis on first contact.

No really.. I have wide set hip bones, I can feel them poking out the side and I can see my leg muscles. I used to have a BMI of 16 and still had wide hips and chunkier thighs. I can't really get skinnier than that! I was even more flat chested back then.

No. your hips are wide(r) and your bum is big big(er) than your upper body because it has more fat on it. It's that easy.

Big "bone structure" and "more muscle" is honestly just media terms to justify unwanted body types . If you x-ray two people, one with a pear shaped body and one without - given they are the same height and race, their hip width (as in the actual bone) will most likely be very similar.

I'm not trying to insult you, or put you down, quite the opposite. You won't lose your boobs if you diet.

Besides, you don't like the way you look now anyways, what do you have to lose?

EDIT: Although I think that people should strive towards self improvement (not necessarily making themselves look better), you should try to be happy with what you have. I can't speak for others but when I see a girl I don't start analyzing her boob size in my head and then deem it good enough or not. I notice their best feature first (which may or may not be their boobs!), so get out of the mindset that all people are doing is a complex boob analysis on first contact.

Oh man, you wouldn't be saying that if you saw my quads. I assure you they are very real and prominent! Some women do have more muscle in some areas, and bone structure really is a thing. There's even tests that can be done to determine bone structure. It's not as easy as "lose weight and you'll get the body you want". If OP has a tendency to store fat on her lower half then dieting probably will cause her to lose weight off her top half instead... Making her boobs smaller. I'm also not particularly blessed in the boob department and in fact prefer to do the opposite of keeping my lower half curvy so as to not end up looking "like a boy" as lovely people like to point out!

I've lost about 8kg in the past 3 months or so.

Before I lost any weight you could still significantly see my quads, after losing weight you can see my quads, they're just even more defined than they were before.

Being able to see features such as muscles definition does not mean that there isn't excess fat there. Larger than average muscle size does not = low fat (obviously).

Will she lose fat off her boobs? Maybe, but her legs and hips are bigger than her boobs, there will get to a point where more fat is coming off the legs and hips than the boobs and even if her boobs are smaller at the end, her proportions will be so much better that not only will her boobs look better, but she'll feel better about herself overall.

EDIT: of course people can have more muscle mass than others in certain areas, individual differences between most people of the same race are just vastly exaggerated. She said she hasn't done any excersize lately and the only form of exersize she did when younger wouldn't have built any excess significant muscle mass to make her look as disproportionate as she claims she is. Even if it did, it wouldn't exist any more.

My legs were skinny before I started lifting... When I had to stop for 6 weeks they went back to skinny. There's not much fat there (obviously there's a healthy amount, I'm not a skeleton) so their size is determined by muscle. Obviously my case isn't like op because I do weightlifting and she doesn't.

Still, it's possible to have muscly or even just larger legs genetically. I don't think you quite realise how fat is stored on women, she said even at a BMI of 16 (scarily underweight) she still felt disproportionate... What is she supposed to do? Starve to death? Body shape is determined genetically... That's why some skinny girls have massive boobs and some chubby girls have tiny boobs. So any weight she loses will just scale down her body, but it will be of the same proportions as her genetic makeup determines.

Yeah, the BMI of 16 is ridiculous, which is why i asked her age to delve deeper into it, but when you're talking about losing weight and changing body composition, the advice you give is always with a healthy person in mind - a person with a BMI of 16 should be at the doctors instead of on TSR, you will never have a body composition that you like if you are sitting at an extreme value.

Body shape is partially determined genetically (as in where fat is predominantly stored, bone structure hardly effects it at all no matter what the TV might tell you). Doesn't matter though, fat can always be removed, initially the "scaling" might be the same but once a certain point passes the scaling changes (example: at first she might lose fat off her legs, hips and boobs at the same rate but because her legs and hips are so much bigger it cannot possibly go on like that forever).

People who blame their genetics (who do not have legitimately diagnosed health issues) are never going to achieve what they want in life (aesthetics or otherwise). Anyway, this is the last I will mention on the topic, I've given my advice - now it just feels as if I'm talking to the writer of a woman's magazine to be honest.

Meh, you have kind of a defeatist attitude to be fair..

How old were you then and how old now?