Moved to Scotland to do my Masters, kind of lonely?

Put a note under the quiet girls door with your name and number and ask her if she wants to go for a drink or if she is up to anything that evening! Loads of people do this and she will really appreciate it

I've just moved into my flat with 4 other girls I think one has a boyfriend, I feel quite lonely too and also I'm not very well I went out last night though! Every one is up for a laugh so go out even if it's on your own just pretend you lost your friend and get in with a group of other people


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Hey I saw on your profile its Glasgow uni you're at in scotland? There's a pretty huge Facebook group of post graduate "freshers" which i just joined the other day and they seem to be hanging out constantly and just inviting everyone along. I'd check that out, if you haven't found it i can message you a link to it?

Hi guys,

Just wanted some advice really, sorry if this ends up like an essay I'm just typing what comes to mind.

Many people will probably say I need to give it time - I come from the Midlands, and moved up here on Friday just gone. So yeah, I have been here 4 days, but I'm kind of anxious that I won't make any friends? I'm in a postgrad hall, my floor consists of 5 rooms (including myself), one is occupied by a girl who is very quiet, apart from the odd 'hello', and another girl moved on Saturday, to which I helped her with her luggage and had a little chat (not really seen her since). Other 2 rooms, as far as I know, are not occupied yet. I went into uni today for the first time, to go to an informal meeting arranged by my course leader so the group could meet each other etc. It did go well, I had a talk with 2 of the other students, but still quite awkward. I don't know what it is, I generally think I am socially awkward... I always have a thought in the back of my mind that people do not like me and kind of beat myself up about it.

I guess what I wanted some advice on, to those who are in/have been in a similar situation, is it too early to determine where I will stand with people?

I'm lonely in a sense that I have a pre-conception that most people at this stage will have a set of friends, however I haven't. I'm a very insular person, I'm not the kind of person to cry (probably last time was when I watched Fluke at the age of 12), I'm laid back and down to earth, I just have my reservations that's all. I do fully understand that I only have one shot at my Master's so I will be studying hard, I don't mean that I 'should/want' be going out every night and socialise. It's more of a concern that Fresher's is coming up and to be honest I have no one to go with.

Regarding societies, as I'm sure people will mention them as a starting point, I have joined the rock and metal society, and I can see that they have arranged Fresher's events, but I honestly cannot see myself turning up by myself and leaving the night with friends. I'm painfully shy, my undergrad did go really well and I made some life long friends, but I was lucky in the sense that first year I was put with 12 other girls so it's near enough impossible not to find a common interest with one of them (to which I did with a few).

I'm the kind of person to make friends with anyone, but I think people see my image (every item of clothing I own is black lol) and get put off. I'm not a girly girl, and many people may call me down for this but most of the events that are arranged cater for a certain music taste and audience, and I'm not like most young people, I'd be happy going to a bar or something, and I couldn't bring myself to go to a night club and stick out like a sore thumb.

Any advice then, should I just not worry about friends and plod along? I have this massive gap from now until 22nd to which my course starts, with Fresher's falling into that, and I'm not sure what to do.

Thanks

I wouldn't worry about it too much at this stage. I would suggest that you try and make an effort to speak to your flatmates. Catching them at dinner time is a good place to start to get to know people.

As for the rock and metal society, I was a member of one for four years (not in a scottish university, though) and I can safely say that a significant number of the members I encountered are not exactly comfortable with social situations. As a subculture, we seem to attract a high number of shy or introverted people. All you need to do is make an effort and open up a bit. I've generally found that the older students will make more of an effort to meet new people as they know how it feels to have no friends at the start of the course. I really strongly recommend that you do go to this event as the kind of people you actually want to become friends with and will share interests with will be there.

Hey, yeah I caught one at dinner time today, and we had a chat. I know you're right, it's just plucking up the courage. I'm so used to going to such things with my group of friends at home that I'm rather dubious that I will handle it well on my own. I'm not used to this whole social networking thing, so I guess I could post a message in the Facebook group asking if other newbies are going or something. If I pull it off, that is lol. Thanks anyway!


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What're you studying? I'm in Maclay and will be a stranger in a strange land too. Sure some of the Postgraduate Association events il be going to, you're more than welcome to tag along?


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