Condom in bin...freaking out help

I really need some help and I'm too embarrassed to tell anyone I know in real life because well it's embarrassing.

I've been seeing this guy for two months now and it's been going great. We've had a talk that we are exclusive (but not "in a relationship") as he keeps saying how brilliant it's going to America because he's not 'tied down' to a girl. Which hurts me as we spend like 3 days together a week and he's a busy guy. But I thought that was down to him before a boy and not wanting to commit.

Then yesterday after we had sex I went to the bathroom to freshen up and went to throw a tissue away and the bin was full of condoms....used (and some covered in blood so probably with a girl on her period) please note I wasn't looking I just saw some blood in the bin and thought WHAT.

So I didn't want to confront him and instead asked him if he has been sleeping with anyone else and he promised me that he hasn't....but whose condoms would they be? His housemate has been on holiday for ages and no one else is sharing the flat with him. The wrappers were for his brand too...and we haven't had sex in a week so they aren't from us (plus there were loads!)

He's promised me he isn't sleeping around and that I should trust him....but I just can't. should I end it? even now, he's at a friends house and all I can think is he's sleeping with another girl tonight having shagged me a few hours ago.

I love him and the thought of losing him would hurt, but confronting him mught make him dump me?

Help.

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Reply 1

Genocidal

Just imagine all those condoms come from masturbating with discarded watermelons.

Reply 2

Zarek

Save some of your dignity and move on. This isn't going to work out well.

Reply 3

Musie Suzie

For goodness' sake yes, leave him. You're an absolute moron if you don't.

Reply 4

username991125

You should have asked him about the condoms there and then...!

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Reply 5

BullViagra

hes cheating on you

what kind of **** throws used condoms in their bin

filthy

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Thanks, I agree with you all. I would have confronted him but then he might've asked why I was going through his bin/thought I was stupid!

He always throws condpms in the bin!

Reply 7

katiiiiie

I can't see any other explanation to it than he has been sleeping with someone else. Get rid of him!

Reply 8

happysmile

Original post by Anonymous

Clearly he's lying.
You could either ask him about the condoms (to which he might lie again or tell you the truth) or you could just leave him.
If he loved you, he wouldn't have lied about sleeping with someone else, and he definitely would not have cheated, which is most likely what he's doing - sleeping with another girl behind your back while pretending and lying to you that he's at "a friend's house" - or maybe he was, but he's sleeping with said 'friend'.
You might think right now that losing him would hurt because you 'love him', but I can tell you right away that you're much better off without someone who cheats and lies. I would strongly advise you to simply leave him, or if you want an explanation you could also confront him.
Remember: he's not worth your time, and he's probably just using you. You're better off without that kind of person, and you certainly should not trust him.

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Reply 9

DiddyDec01

Unless he is having the worlds most violent poshy, he is cheating on you A LOT. Like 4 times a day.

Reply 10

Treeroy

Original post by BullViagra

what kind of **** throws used condoms in their bin

lol where would you put them then? I think the bin is a good place for used condoms... :confused:

OP: you're not together so you could say it should be expected for him to sleep around. But he's lying to you, and lying this early on isn't a good sign. I would leave him to be honest.
You should have asked him why there why there were used condoms in his bin - you still can ask that, but it won't make a lot of difference.

Reply 11

BullViagra

Original post by Treeroy

lol where would you put them then? I think the bin is a good place for used condoms... :confused:

flush them, if u gna bin them they better be tide tight. plus no one wants to look in someones bin and see their rotting sperm. and if there's a lid then it's even worse as the smell just gets trapped in their and your room smells of medieval brothel as soon as you lift it up.

Reply 12

Gambit92

But he isn't cheating since you're not together, what does "exclusive" but not in a relationship even mean?

Reply 13

Anonymous #2

Maybe he just has lots of posh ****s and uses ketchup as lube?

Reply 14

xDave-

Original post by Anonymous

We've had a talk that we are exclusive (but not "in a relationship") as he keeps saying how brilliant it's going to America because he's not 'tied down' to a girl. Which hurts me as we spend like 3 days together a week and he's a busy guy.

I think you're just selecting the parts you want to be true if he acts like this and you've stayed with him. Do you really believe you're together with this person?

Reply 15

Treeroy

Original post by BullViagra

Pretty sure flushing them could block the pipes.
Though I guess you're right. Never used a condom so never really thought about it haha :L

Reply 16

lilymoran

So which bit of him exactly do you love? The bit that told you how great it is going to be going to America- not tied down to a girl?

Or the bit that takes advantage of you for sex ( but you're not in a relationship...)

Or the bit that is so selfcentred he doesn't even know ( or is it care ?), how much he's upsetting you?

He's walking all over you and you're letting him. ( Of course he's lying to you: if he didn't you might shout or leave)

I don't believe you want to be hurt and upset so this means that you 'love' what you want him to be. Unfortunately he is not that guy. Go out and find the loving, generous man you want. Now : don't wait a year, or 2 or 10.

Reply 17

Old_Simon

Quite apart from anything else the guy has serious hygiene issues in his disgusting domestic arrangements. On those grounds alone he should be avoided.