Choice of three girls

Option 1. She is attractive, what woman doesnt get angry?, humble and I think she would make someone the happiest.

Class is pretty irrelevant to the situation.

Two, the whole upper class royalty thing... no.

Personally I'd say it can be quite relevant to long term relationships and marriage etc. People from very different backgrounds and socioeconomic classes can feel like they're from totally different worlds or cultures, and each may have a tough time accommodating the other. Especially when it comes to raising a child, if you both have completely different ideas about what is socially acceptable behaviour, sufficiently acceptable aspirations etc. I'd envisage it as being a bit difficult.

Anyway, for me this would probably be a tough choice between 2 and 3. I don't think I would go for 1. I know everybody gets angry from time to time, but there's still a dignified way to do it. I can't stand, for example, people who "take out their anger" on other people, when the thing they're angry about isn't that person's fault. Or people who remain angry just for the sake of it, without listening to explanations or being at all interested in finding a resolution to the problem.

I don't know I presume you are middle class? For me maybe id have trouble discussing things with someone uneducated and not insightful or intelligent but as long as they are, It doesn't really matter which class. I think all parents should have fundamentals that cross class boundaries such as encouraging their kids to get the best education they can and achieve their potentials. And so far as social etiquette goes surely it's just fundamental to treat everyone with kindness and compassion. But then that's just me, class has never been a thing for me - I don't even know what class I am. I also think it could be a richer and useful thing to have people from two supposedly different classes. You could relate to more people, go further in life.

Also I think you're totally right about the anger issue. I mean everyone has the right to get mad sometimes if it is justified but to have the mindset where you literally won't calm down and see things in a more objective way and try to sort them out is just kind of immature and it's also very counter productive to progress. Unless you feel passionately enough about her to disregard such flaws it's probably not worth it because such early problems can manifest themselves as far greater ones later on.

Probably one.



Two, the whole upper class royalty thing... no.
Three, 3/10? I don't know many 3/10s so I can only assume there'd be no physical attraction whatsoever.

Whereas for one, average intelligence and average career is fine with me, she sounds fairly aspirational, and she's hot. Why not? Only downside is she gets mad when she's mad, but so do I probably.

Suppose you were a guy who's in his 20s. And suppose that the following three girls all wanted to be in a relationship with you. Assume that this is intended to be a long term relationship, possibly leading up to marriage.


1] Very pretty, at least 8 or 9 out of 10. You've known her for about a year. Reasonably nice person most of the time, but horrible when she's angry. Usually a bit introverted. From a humble and modest background, but looking to move up in the world. Average intelligence, and average career. About 3 or 4 years older than you.

2] Above average looking, say 6 or 7 out of 10. Seems like a nice person, but you don't know her that well just yet. Extremely educated and intelligent, with realistic aspirations to become a professor. From a very upper-class background, i.e. parents are on speaking terms with members of the Royal Family, have hereditary titles etc. One year older than you.

3] The least good-looking of the three, about 3 out of 10, but can be kind of ok if she makes an effort. She's been your friend for several years, and you both know each other inside out. Currently studies in a foreign country, but not for much longer. Above average intelligence, and looks set for quite a well respected profession. From a middle, or upper-middle class background. 4 or 5 years younger than you.


Which one would you pick, and why?

None of them right now. As long as you still would want to **** her and she comes back to your country then 3. Two sounds awful tbh and one seems like you don't even want to marry her, just ****, not to mention she is older than you and beauty fades.

Out of curiosity, how old exactly are you OP? I'm frankly quite surprised you can't make this decision for yourself, given the fact you say you're an adult. I doubt a student forum (largely) full of teenagers will be able to help much on this.

Suppose you were a guy who's in his 20s. And suppose that the following three girls all wanted to be in a relationship with you. Assume that this is intended to be a long term relationship, possibly leading up to marriage.


1] Very pretty, at least 8 or 9 out of 10. You've known her for about a year. Reasonably nice person most of the time, but horrible when she's angry. Usually a bit introverted. From a humble and modest background, but looking to move up in the world. Average intelligence, and average career. About 3 or 4 years older than you.

2] Above average looking, say 6 or 7 out of 10. Seems like a nice person, but you don't know her that well just yet. Extremely educated and intelligent, with realistic aspirations to become a professor. From a very upper-class background, i.e. parents are on speaking terms with members of the Royal Family, have hereditary titles etc. One year older than you.

3] The least good-looking of the three, about 3 out of 10, but can be kind of ok if she makes an effort. She's been your friend for several years, and you both know each other inside out. Currently studies in a foreign country, but not for much longer. Above average intelligence, and looks set for quite a well respected profession. From a middle, or upper-middle class background. 4 or 5 years younger than you.


Which one would you pick, and why?