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How to handle horrible house and course friend.

Half way through my first year at uni I quickly became friends with a girl on my course, I thought she was amazing and I thought I'd found a friend for life. However, now she has become someone that will give me the silent treatment for no reason, try and leave me out, put me down and try and make me feel inferior. She's like a time bomb, I'm constantly worrying about whether something I do or say will get her angry with me. I would cut her out of my life because she makes me feel so upset but the problem is I'm living with her in a house next year with a few other friends and she's in my small group of close course friends.

I really don't know how to deal with it, she'll give me the silent treatment for a week and then will return to normal acting like nothing happened (she was clearly mad to begin with because it had been left on a disagreement.) I don't want to go into too much detail in case she reads this and thinks it's about her but essentially she's awful. I've told a couple of close friends about her behaviour and they think it's appalling but I'm not sure how to deal with it on a day to day basis whilst still being able to remain friends with my course friends and not create atmosphere in the house. I just really don't want her to ruin my second year of uni for me.

Sorry it's a bit long and thanks in advance for your help! :smile:
I feel for you, because I have been in exactly your situation. Had exactly the same type of flatmate.

Imo I think the best way to deal with it is to keep your distance from her. Be civil if you have to be, but don't engage in any dialogue with her.
Also, start looking for somewhere else to live for the next year.
And socialise - make friends through social events.
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I feel for you, because I have been in exactly your situation. Had exactly the same type of flatmate.

Imo I think the best way to deal with it is to keep your distance from her. Be civil if you have to be, but don't engage in any dialogue with her.


Thanks so much for your reply! Living situation next year isn't a problem, I'll be going into third year and will go back into campus accommodation. Theoretically she can get cut out completely next year so that's fine. :smile:

Yeah I would just be civil with her but we're in the same small friendship group which always sits together etc so it would be difficult to avoid her without avoiding them which I wouldn't 100% mind to be honest but it would be nice to avoid. I can't suddenly go into being distant with her because of how close we were before summer but I think it would be a good idea to slowly distance myself.

Thanks for your help!

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