Why do most women still expect men to initiate everything?

Why do you expect the guy to ask you out, come up with great date ideas, call back after, propose and so on? In a world where women are the de facto leaders of the EU, the person with best odds to be the next US president, the chair of the US federal reserve, the head of the IMF, the president of the largest economy in the latin world, the CEO's of GM, Pepsi, Lockheed Martin, IBM, Hewlett-Packard and Xerox not to mention young women making more money than young men across the UK and the US. And yet so few girls understand that it is not the guy's duty to utter those 6 magic words: ''Will you go out with me?'' What's up with that?

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Reply 1

wikiellie

That is quite a list of women's achievements! I suppose many women prefer/ are used to the mainstream traditional concept of the man initiating courtship first, and in being so are too shy or reserved to approach first themselves.

Both my partner and I had never known anyone romantically prior to meeting each other, and so we were both initially a little unsure as to how to proceed. We generally took turns to initiate contact, even though my partner has always preferred to be the traditional 'gentleman' in paying for dinners, holidays and gifts etc. However, he has become increasingly open to the idea of us 'going Dutch' with things, mainly because we don't have much money, so most costs are shared equally :smile:

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Reply 2

ferinahrt

Women are treasure. Treasure don't do hunting.
Once you own it, she is your treasure.

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Reply 3

happysmile

Original post by ferinahrt

Women are treasure. Treasure don't do hunting.
Once you own it, she is your treasure.

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that's a rather bizarre analogy...

Reply 4

Arkasia

Original post by ferinahrt

Women are treasure. Treasure don't do hunting.
Once you own it, she is your treasure.

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Ignoring the objectification, that statement still makes no sense. Women are treasure?

Reply 5

ferinahrt

Simply, pride.

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Reply 6

ShortGeek

I think it's romantic.

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Reply 7

KittyRe-play

It's nice to do so? Girls are more emotional than guys? :s-smilie:

Reply 8

Autumnsong

Old traditions die hard I suppose, although from my experience it's becoming a less common mentality - I know plenty of girls who have/are actively pursuing guys.

Reply 9

lizlaz350

Original post by obidobi

When I've been direct with guys in the past, they really haven't liked it :confused:

Like, it puts them off you completely because you're questioning their masculinity or something. Or they just think you're too bossy or high maintenance.

Reply 10

tillytots

because I'm shy and fear rejection

Reply 11

vortex_199

If you have enough eligible guys actively pursuing you, why bother risk rejection?

Maybe all men should band together and just refuse to initiate anything, ever. Women will then ache for companionship and motherhood, leaving them no choice but to take up the role.

Reply 12

Wade-

Just another area where women are happy to have old fashioned traditions apply

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Because I can.

Original post by ferinahrt

Women are treasure. Treasure don't do hunting.
Once you own it, she is your treasure.

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And yet they complain on being treated as an object.

Reply 15

tanyapotter

Are you sure it's women in general, or are you just quite unsuccessful with relationships?

Reply 16

buzzybee143

Original post by kkboyk

And yet they complain on being treated as an object.

Why would you even want to objectify any person lol. That's just wrong. Also just because one person says that women are treasure (possibly even a guy said this) doesn't mean you have to generalise hon

Reply 17

kkboyk

Original post by buzzybee143

Who said I'm generalizing and I'm not objectifying a person.

Reply 18

moonriver96

nah sorry, but when it comes to romance i'm old-fashioned. I prefer guys to do the chasing/initiating etc..

Reply 19

obidobi

Original post by moonriver96

nah sorry, but when it comes to romance i'm old-fashioned. I prefer guys to do the chasing/initiating etc..

That's all good if you're old fashioned about a woman's role as well (cooking, cleaning, spreading legs on command and so on). Equality isn't a buffet you can choose your fav bits from. You gotta eat the whole plate, veggies and all.