Guys - does this happen when you're with your gf?

Happened to me wiv my ex so i stopped bringing her around ppl because i kept getting comment like: 'is that ur ting yeah' 'ra ur banging that' 'mate shes way to hot for you' 'i bet her sex game is banging' n yeah that was really embarrassing especially when shes right next to me


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Lol the few times it did happen with my ex I can tell she didn't even notice it. Inside I was so embarrassed, not cos I had a hot girlfriend, but just the way your mindset changes when you're in a relationship rather than single.

Now I'm single again I'd probably be the objectifying d*** to my mates who have gfs.

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Thanks. So there's just no escaping it? It's come to the point where I won't wear high heels or nice clothes when I'm with my boyfriend even though I usually wear heels 24/7 and take a lot of effort to look elegant and pretty. I'm so afraid of drawing unwanted attention when with him. I've been wolf whistled at while with him too.

hmm it could have to do with what your wearing as well, are you wearing highly revealing clothing?

NO!!!! That's the issue, I really don't!!!!

I'll wear skinny jeans (all girls wear them), a simple blouse, small nude heels. That's my daily look. Simple and elegant. The jeans make it hot, but the top is always casual/formal enough to be worn with black trousers for work so as you can imagine it's never revealing. I put a lot of effort into looking elegant, not "hot".

To be fair I always pretend not to notice. He'll say something like "did that guy just wolf whistle at you?" And I'll play dumb, claiming I didn't hear a thing. Same with the white van honking at us yesterday. My issue is I've started dressing down when I'm around him in public but really don't want to have to do that. I'm just scared my boyfriend will eventually suggest I'm asking for it by dressing up all the time.

That seems okay to me! They are probably just dickhead friends tbh. None of my friend's would say that sorta stuff out loud in front of my gf, in private though maybe but just as a joke lol

Seriously don't try and change yourself. It'll play badly for him. If you do that he'll think you're not as confident in yourself. Dw about it. I'm guessing you're late teens early twenties? If so then you're bound to be in the company of much mature people later in life.

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I want to continue dressing in tight jeans, nice heels, conservative tops. But then I can guarantee I'll get harassed in some way at least once a day (wolf whistle, car honk, sleazy comment from someone walking by). I hate how self conscious I've become. Out of interest, how do you think my boyfriend should be reacting? He's usually very chill about it since there's nothing he can do, but on occasion he'll get really pissed off. He has once blamed it on me, but apologised afterwards when I told him I couldn't stop from being young or attractive, and that I already dressed modestly.

My boyfriend has once complained that I should dress "less provocatively" but I get defensive about it. Seriously, I can't just stop being an attractive, young woman -- after all, isn't that why he's dating me? As I said in my previous post I do make an effort to strike a balance between hot and elegant, but there are certain things I can't do anything about. I get a lot of compliments from my friends about having really nice, long legs and a nice bum -- so dresses/jeans automatically look a lot more "revealing" on me than they would on someone else if that makes sense. For example, if I purchase a dress that's supposed to reach the knee, it will look as though it's ending a lot higher up my leg just because they're longer. I've made that mistake before and so don't even wear dresses anymore. I live in skinny jeans -- they're not a great alternative since they hug my legs and show off their shape, but I'm not willing to do more than I already do to look less attractive. I think showing cleavage is unclassy so my blouses have always been cute but conservative. There are certain steps I can take to avoid unwanted attention, but I can't stop being a woman.

Honestly, my boyfriend loves that sort of thing. It sounds like your experience is worse than mine but I don't mind that much myself - maybe because I've vaguely known the people doing it usually and it's never been to the point where I feel they don't recognise I'm a person or whatever.

It sounds like you have some issues with your boyfriend to be honest. You shouldn't have to lie about noticing the attention! Is that to try to make it seem like nothing? Sounds like you're a bit afraid of him. And his temper doesn't sound great. Nor does his blaming you, although at least he apologised for that. He sounds quite possessive though.

Lol I can tell he probably secretly feels proud inside about the attention you're getting and the fact that you're his gf. I know that's how I felt.

He's acting fine. He just needs to be chill about it. No need to be angry or whatever. If he's a tough guy and really wants to let it out and I wouldn't encourage it but he has the option of confronting the person who did that. But then that could all end badly unnecessarily.

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Tldr- Wants attention but gets offended by it.

I do wonder if people stopped getting offended by the smallest things that one could easily take as a compliment that tsr would be so much less busy.


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