How do you stop thinking of dating as competition?

right I'm getting the sense people are implying that worrying about losing a girlfriend because of coming 2nd or even 8th in Mario kart, even to a 'hot' guy friend, is melodramatic and paranoid, also maybe insecure

maybe?

-Don't date?

-Don't see it that way?

-Don't ask this question?

well in my world winners survive, losers perish

well in my world winners survive, losers perish

What do you look like aesthetically ?

Is your paranoia why your relationships fail?

c. 13-4% average, rate a 4-6 on facial aesthetics, slim/lean, not very big/strong but try to lift twice a week atm (been lazy the last week lol), could afford to bulk-try not to focus on it too much due to body image issues mind...

yeah probably. I only had one and it was during my ongoing mildly depressed/demotivated/anxious/paranoid phase

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You sound perfect for



You two would get on so well.

Also how tall are you?

To be honest being good at Mario kart just dumps you in the 'sad looser who plays to much video games category' for a lot of people.


I like your version of Mario Kart though. Certainly much more intense.

If the world actually worked liked that I would be a babe magnet what with my insane Mario Kart skillz.

There is always going to be somebody who is better at something than you are. Find your positives and focus on those. Don't worry so much about that kind of thing, I don't think most girls even care.

I don't think anyone who believes they are an awesome catch has these disturbing thoughts. I've literally never looked at another girl around my boyfriends and thought "better watch out for that one".

You need to work on your self-esteem. It's really that simple.

Is this your second account Pancakes? :P

If not, I am proper confused, I think she just likes being leader of the short-lived #granola4riku campaign doesn't have a thing for some random Internet dude

lol ikr

But do you not think that intensity might be a reason why they fail?

Bet you struggle with Rainbow Road doe

Talk to her more.

Perhaps only take your dates on social dates (with friends) where you know you are going to boss the others at whatever it is you're doing if it's competitive, if you're really that insecure. I scoried with a Cali cheer-chick whom was lodging with my family one night after I invited her along bowling with me and my buddies. I dunno if it's linked but I bossed them and I guess smashing those pins can get a girl wet, who knows..

Well in one case, I did that-a date to a local arcade with Laser Quest, bowling, Guitar Hero etc. I thought I would beat her, but she threw me off-guard by maing it at a surprise party with my mates (which was nice) but also invited her guy friend (which wasn't, but it turned out she wanted to cheer him up as he just got dumped and he got me a card/helped with the presents). I already had some major insecurities about this guy before that-see my late 2013 Relationships posts I can't access them

Anyway he beat me at laser quest and it just went downhill from there-almost entirely my fault for being way too serious about the whole thing

Tbh I think this is very possibly just me being paranoid and thinking that girls keep tabs on every move in a relationship, after reading too much PUA/RedPill baloney

Reading RedPhil is the worse thing anyone can do.... Back to the question, Is dating a competition. Yes and no, Yes you're Competing against other guys after the same girl, On the other hand, Fighting him for her isn't going to impress her... Yes he's your competition, But you don't treat dating as a whole as a competition. Girls watch guys like hawks before agreeing to everything, They'll know when you're competing, Yes some of them will enjoy that, But the majority will walk over to another guy just being himself and letting things happen instead of competing for it.

In short, technically yes it is a competition, but should you treat it like one? No. Hope that helped...

So, be scared ****less that you're under pressure to perform at risk of losing her, even when you're a committed couple, but don't show it at any cost or you'll lose her anyway. Have I understood you correctly Ryan?

Hmm yes, unfortunately I have been aware of this since the earliest days of my sibling rivalry, the trouble was dealing with being 'second best'

Working on that-as in I know plenty I had, just got to find the motivation to get off here and get back to them!!

For some reason I believe they did-the whole males proving their dominance, superior provider/protector thing?