How can I stop being so boring?

I just can't find anything good to talk about with girls apart from college and work. What are some good topics or opening questions to start a flowing conversation with a girl?

I really can't think of anything to say in these situations, I'm not good in keeping a conversation going and there' usually periods of awkward silences.

How can I improve?

Reply 1

QuantumSuicide

Backbite
Gossip
Alcohol
Drugs
Partying
Clubbing

Or

Philisophy
Physics
Cosmology
Astronomy
Religion
Rap
Life

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Reply 2

Carterj09

Original post by Anonymous

go out and do things! NCS, kayaking, holidays, partys, just do something!

Reply 3

Manager daniel01

Just talk.Girls don't bite.

Reply 4

Felhasacharizard

Original post by Anonymous

Depends on the girl, maybe: music, what degree they want to do, compliment if you like the girl, funny unfortunate event (this guy started telling me about how this bird pooed on his jeans) I know it doesn't seem that great a conversation starter when typed down, but believe me in the moment it was really funny!! :wink:

Reply 5

Ecro

Original post by Manager daniel01

Just talk.Girls don't bite.

You will be surprised of what they can do :colone:

And some of them bite.

Reply 6

Norin

Stip naked like Bieber did, that got peoples attention.

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Reply 7

LavenderBlueSky88

Just ask questions and go from there, so "up to much this weekend?" then whatever she says talk about that.. And maybe what you're doing if your doing anything interesting. Just general take an interest in her if you're stuck, people generally like answering questions about themselves and it'll put her at ease.

Reply 8

Awesome-o

You need a few in-built conversation starters memorised. Obviously these work more in the initial meetings than with established friendships.

- "Go away anywhere this summer?". "Going away anywhere soon?" Stimulates long discussions about where you've both been, where you want to go and lends well to lengthy talks about a county's culture, what it offers, interesting experiences etc.

Can't be arsed thinking about any more but you get the idea.

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

It just happens with girls that I'm interested in dating, other girls I'm fine with though. But I just get all tongue-tied when talking to an attractive girl

Reply 10

ZetaMu

Are you at uni? Join societies, get hobbies! You'll have plenty to talk about then.

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

Original post by ZetaMu

Are you at uni? Join societies, get hobbies! You'll have plenty to talk about then.

My uni societies suck, I joined several in the first year and hardly anything happened. I'm working now as a part of my course so I won't have to go back to uni for another year. What can I do now?

Reply 12

ZetaMu

Original post by Anonymous

My uni societies suck, I joined several in the first year and hardly anything happened. I'm working now as a part of my course so I won't have to go back to uni for another year. What can I do now?

Hmmm. To be fair I don't have any hobbies due to uni workload aside from the gym so don't worry about that too much.

Are you an introvert? It could just be that you need more practice socialising. Social savvy comes with practice. Go out more, talk to your colleagues at work more openly. And be confidence. If you work on your confident and general social presence then the talking to girls thing will improve.

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Reply 13

BlueSheep32

Ask them questions - research has shown that if you ask someone a lot about themselves and let them talk about themselves, they will think you are a really interesting person even if they didn't ask you many questions or find out much about you in return.

A lot of the time it's a confidence thing as well. I was like that when I started uni, but having been put in lots of situations where I don't know the people I'm with at say work for example, I've got used to at least attempting to make small talk. If the person doesn't seem to want to give me anything back I will give up, but I'll always try and say something. Although tbh sometimes two people just aren't really 'compatible' when it comes to making conversation, if that makes sense, and they will always struggle to find things to talk about, whereas other people click conversationally and can talk about seemingly nothing for hours on end.

girls...lol

Why do you have to talk about something she likes? - Talk about something you like and are passionate about - it turns a girl on when a man is so passionate about a subject.

Own yourself and your own interests - she will be lucky to hear you speak.

Confidence my good man - confidence is the best aphrodisiac!!