When is the right time for marriage?

For me never, I hate the whole concept of marriage.

For me never, I hate the whole concept of marriage.

Couldn't agree more, i mean it's a human tradition which essentially means nothing. What's marriage, a super relationship?. If u want to be with someone, then u could happily do that but why does putting a name to it make it any different. If u love and cherish someone then fine stick with them until u both feel the same way, but often in unhappy marriages, the singular thought of not geeting DIVORCED keeps the unwilling and unhappy partners together.

I know my views r gonna provoke a lot of debate, and emotional responses, but these r my views

Well, even if all the above reasons apply, even if there are no other reasons on earth why you would ever want to marry, think of the legal benefits. Couples who are married are able to give each other a lot more financial security, particularly if one of them dies. If your partner dies and you're not married, their life assurance and dependant's pension benefits will not go to you. They may go to any children you might have together, but the children will probably not be able to access any lump sum payment until they are either 18 or 21, so while they are still growing up, they might need that money and not be able to get to it. I work in pensions admin at the moment and there's one woman who has been with her partner for 32 years and keeps writing to us to ask whether her death benefits will be granted to her partner, even though he's not her legal spouse. All we can say to her is that it will be at the trustees' discretion, and that there are no guarantees. The only way she can safeguard this man's financial future in the event of her death is by marrying him, and if for whatever reason she doesn't want to, that's her problem. I've seen countless cases of people getting married in hospital, hours before they die of some fatal illness, so that their partner will get that vital extra income. Even gay couples who undertake a civil partnership get more security now than unmarried straight couples..

Also, I think that whatever people might say, being legally married does make couples less likely to split up when things don't go according to plan. Yes, the divorce statistics are pretty bad, but nobody knows how many unmarried couples split up for the same reasons. I bet it's a lot more. Because if you're not married to someone, there is nothing to stop you just walking away. If you're legally tied to someone, you're more likely to try and work things out.
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Furthermore, getting married in the first place demands careful consideration about where the relationship is going and whether both people are prepared to make that emotional and legal commitment. You can just end up in a long term relationship with someone without ever really discussing that, simply because you don't split up. But getting married is an active, rather than a passive commitment, which means that the couple need to think and talk about what they want, and whether they both have the same life plan.