I've been with my gf for nearly 2 years, but recently I have been on long holidays traveling alone far away. I've never cheated on my gf before, but this time it happend. What I did was wrong, I'm not gonna defend myself but this is how it happened.
I was at a bar with 2 other guy friends and we met a group of nice 3 girls who stayed with us throughout the night chatting. 2 of them soon became closer with my friends, but i had 0 interest in the third one. Anyways it was time to go back to the hotel, then the 3rd girl started crying because she didn't want to be left alone. The two girls changed their minds and thought they'll go back all 3 to their hotel, which of course, was really annoying to my 2 friends.
My friend started telling me I should "take one for the team" and just take the girl to sleep in my room so they can get laid. After considering for a while very drunk I said fine she can come with me, because I know my friend would do the same for me. So the girl came to my room, I tried to just sleep but she started giving me oral and we ended up having sex. The condom broke but I switched to a new one after..
4 days later, I woke up with a weird blister on my penis. Now there is 3 of them: I got ****ing genital herpes! What a great souvenir to bring back home. I'm meeting my girlfriend in just a week. I'm currently on antiviral medication to get rid of the blisters, but I know I'll be stuck with the virus for life.
I don't know what to do.. I can't tell my girlfriend, but I can't not tell her either because she deserves to know that there is a risk of her catching it. I'm wondering what my options are..
1. Tell her the whole truth. - problem is that this would cause us to break up probably, and in the worst possible way. I don't think she would, but she could tell her friends about the disease as a revenge and they coould start spreading rumours.
2. Tell her I got the disease but that I believe I've got it years ago and it's just been asymptomatic. Don't tell her about cheating.. problem is, that herpes still sounds disgusting and it's not a very believable story since I've been away for so long.
3. Not tell her anything, pretend that nothing happened and hope she is one of the 90% who never catch it from their HSV-2 positive partners. Stay on antivirals to even further reduce the risk of transmissioin.. Problem: If she gets the virus it would be an unforgivable thing to do to someone..
Really don't know what to do here :O Condoms aren't an option either because we have never used them during the 2 years with my gf..