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Do girls grow up thinking hitting men is OK?

And that they shouldn't expect the man to hit them back? I mean look at all the movies and shows where women hit men for just about any reason. And not just slapping (which is bad enough), but punching, kicking in the balls, throwing or using objects. It's always seen as hilarious or he deserved it, you go gurrl. Is it any wonder that girls do this irl all the time and most domestic violence is initiated by women?

And when it happens with celebrities, the only issue seems to be ''what did he do?'' (see Jay-Z case). Can you imagine that if the man was the attacker? Or a mainstream show having a lighthearted chat and even laughing about a woman punching several of her ex-bf's as she blames it on ''fiery passion''? Can you imagine them having a pleasant chat like that with a guy who was this ''passionate'' with his female partners?

Women are already more controlling and aggressive than men in relationships , do we really need media to constantly portray men as punching bags and make things even worse? Or maybe guys should hit back once in a while in movies/shows to show girls that :

1.it's not OK
2.there will be a price to pay if you ignore 1.

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Reply 1
blame the feminazis
I'm curious to know why you have these feelings about women. It's a bit sad, and not going to get you anywhere.
Shaming...how novel.
Original post by obidobi
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2.there will be a price to pay if you ignore 1.

I think that is the point: When you hit back ten times stronger, then at the end, you will have to pay the bigger price legally. The thing you ignore, is that most men would never except, that women are able to do harm to them and rather live with the situation, because men believe, that this is the way how it is: Women can be violent, but men allways can be more violent, so there is no problem. => Men who seek legally help are belittled and others(your number b)) would simply beat up the other one, until it is disproportinately. The idea, that men need help is for most men totally ridiculous, so no wonder, no helplines specialised in that exists.

PS.: Although I have never heard, that women are more violent in general.
Reply 5
Original post by TolerantBeing
I'm curious to know why you have these feelings about women. It's a bit sad, and not going to get you anywhere.


What feelings? What does women feeling entitled to hit men at the drop of a hat have to do with it?

Original post by AlphaNick
its not like they can do that much damage


Even though women are less likely to seriously hurt men plenty of men get seriously injured and even require medical attention. Plus the extent of the damage is not the only issue, the principle and the psychological damage are other things to consider. Plus, there would still be outrage if a man hit a woman while using female levels of strength.

Original post by Nathanielle
I think that is the point: When you hit back ten times stronger, then at the end, you will have to pay the bigger price legally. The thing you ignore, is that most men would never except, that women are able to do harm to them and rather live with the situation, because men believe, that this is the way how it is: Women can be violent, but men allways can be more violent, so there is no problem. => Men who seek legally help are belittled and others(your number b)) would simply beat up the other one, until it is disproportinately. The idea, that men need help is for most men totally ridiculous, so no wonder, no helplines specialised in that exists.

PS.: Although I have never heard, that women are more violent in general.


Because men see the same movies and grow up in the same society with the same beliefs and norms. So they learn to put up and shut up, to ''be a man''. And I'm not simply talking about random happy slaps, women injure men all the time especially when using objects. How many articles have there been about ''woman glasses man on night out, gets ridiculous sentence if any at all''? The fact that men are stronger is irrelevant since they are not allowed to fight back anyway. Even if a man hit a woman with less than his full potential (female strength levels) he'd still be crucified. Parents or society never taught me that if I see one of the Klitschko brothers on the street I can take a swing at him cause he shouldn't fight back, being oh so strong. Boys get the ''you never hit a girl'' rule drilled into their heads from the moment they can understand spoken language, how about we do the same for girls?
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Reply 6
This reminds me of another thing : how women are also allowed to use threatening language. I was reading a thread on another forum about how a housewife was called lazy by her husband and many of the reactions were very similar : if he said that to me I would throw a pot at him, chop off his balls, kill him, throw hot coffee on him ... you get the idea. Reverse the sexes now, how acceptable would that be? Angelina Jolie and the UN would show up around the corner faster than you can say feminazi. What struck me even more is how I realized that I had seen/heard this kind of behavior irl, online or in movies so many times that I had become completely desensitized to it. When the entire world tells you you're a man so women can hit you, threaten you, insult you or worse and you should put up with all of it whether you like it or not then you end up believing it's just how things are and that's that.
Original post by AlphaNick
its not like they can do that much damage


You could do enough damage cracking a wine bottle over the top of someone's head
Reply 8
It doesn't matter about what gender you were born - hitting people is wrong.

If I went and hit my boyfriend so hard that it caused damage, he could have me prosecuted with the same laws as it applies to a man.
Also, I would expect him to hit me back in that case too.
Women are not brought up thinking it's OK to hit men. If the women in your life think it's ok, then they need to have their brains re-trained.
Reply 9
i always slap my girlfriend if she hits me.
I slap anyone and everyone if they deserve it.
Women are like spoilt children, so we treat them like that and let them get away with some heinous crimes. This is also why we don't believe their emotion-driven allegations like rape, dv etc.
Original post by whatsaapppp
Women are like spoilt children, so we treat them like that and let them get away with some heinous crimes. This is also why we don't believe their emotion-driven allegations like rape, dv etc.


Not all women, stop generalising.
Original post by TheCynicalChild
Not all women, stop generalising.


85% of women satisfying a particular criteria is good enough to generalize imho
Sorry cant link as I am on my phone, but if you go to Youtube and search for - " I dont hit lassies "
You will see where a couple of generations of girls feeling that they can hit boys with impunity leads to.
Trigger warning though ladies, it is quite sickening to watch.
Original post by whatsaapppp
85% of women satisfying a particular criteria is good enough to generalize imho


Idiocy on your part.
Original post by whatsaapppp
Women are like spoilt children, so we treat them like that and let them get away with some heinous crimes. This is also why we don't believe their emotion-driven allegations like rape, dv etc.


Stop generalising an entire gender, most women are decent creatures as are most men,
I don't know about every point in the OP, but I agree that there's too much woman-on-man violence used in too lighthearted a way in the media. If I see a man beating up a woman in a cartoon (live-action violence tends to put me on edge regardless of gender), it makes me sick, but if I see a woman beating up a man (also in a cartoon), it doesn't. Illogikal! I can only put that down to social conditioning, and strive to let reason define my judgements rather than kneejerk.

At schoo, I remember girls often slapping or punching boys which the boys were basically unable to react to, either by punching back (barbaric) or complaing (wimpy).

Basically another of the evils of sexism and entrenched gender roles (and another great reason to be a feminist (!) or egalitarian if you're afraid of the former word). The bottom line is that nobody should attack anyone, male or female, iss pretty simple.
Whatsap
Rape is nothing to do with this thead.
Assuming all women lie about it ( which sounds like what you are saying) is as bad as all men are rapists slurs.
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Original post by TheCynicalChild
Idiocy on your part.
You continue to prove me right :wink:

Original post by vickidc18
Stop generalising an entire gender, most women are decent creatures as are most men,
I'd love to believe your lies, trust me

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