I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for one year now. He goes to university a few hours away from where I live so we see each other every 2 weeks or so. During holidays we're always together. I'm 21 and he's 24.
Please note that I love him dearly and care about him very much and he loves me very much
-He's been very clingy since the beginning of the relationship. He literally wants to text/phone each other pretty much all day when I'm not at work or he's not in uni. He gets annoyed if I don't reply to his text message within say 10 minutes. So when i'm at home i'm literally glued to my phone and sometimes just want to watch a movie without having to text him every minute. When I confronted him about this he got really annoyed and says things like: "we hardly see each other, how else are we suppose to communicate?", "Who else would you be texting?". He lives on his own and always says how he feels lonely, and me texting etc makes him feel less alone.
-When I finish work he demands I text him as soon as I finish. If I text a little late if I had to catch up with things, he starts accusing me of flirting or doing all sorts with my colleagues. (We are faithful to each other and its both our first relationship, so there's no reason why he shouldn't trust me)
-He doesn't like me having any friends. In fact, I've lost all communication with my friends. He feels us being in a relationship is sufficient enough. I once replied to a guy friend and he totally flipped out and accused me of liking him and wanting to be with him.
-He gets really jealous and doesn't like me wearing 'revealing' clothing, I dress decently though..
-When we're together he literally wants to spend every second together. He got upset once because I was talking to my mum and sister and he started saying it is as if he's not there and I'm just forgetting him.
-When we argue he gets very angry and starts verbally abusing me and calling me really hurting things.
-When we together and arguing sometimes he has got physical.. not hit me. But pinning me down and stopping me from leaving. Holding me face to face him to look at him. Squeezing me.
(The above I've given him an ultimatum, that if he does it again I'm leaving him. However, this has happened quite a few times)
There's loads more. But that's just a few.
Basically I don't want to leave him. I really don't want to. I love him with all my heart. I just want to know how to deal with it and get him to change? What do I say or do? Cos what he is doing is unhealthy right?