Why is everyone having kids or settling down?

I ask myself this everyday. I get asked this when I'm back where I'm from all the time:

'Do you have a girlfriend yet'
'Do you have any kids?'

I don't get why people who are 24-26 in 2014 would want to settle down and have kids. I just don't get it. It's like everyone has a flipping pram around here! It's like every girl has moved in with her boyfriend as well.

It's like I'm treat like some sort of weird person round here just because I'm not settling down at 26 with a girlfriend and/or having kids!


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Maybe because you're at an age when people wouldn't see it as abnormal for you to start thinking about settling down and starting a family? Okay sure it might not be your cup of tea, but it's kind of what most people in the world do, hence why the human population hasn't died out yet.
It's not weird that people might think it'd be one of your life goals.

Not in the direct sense, but is ****ing weird that procreation is considered a sensible life goal in an already overly populated world and people who shun the "settling down and having kids" game in order to live for the moment and enjoy life are considered the backwards ones.

I don't think it's weird for your family elders for example to hope for grandchildren...

Not in the direct sense, but is ****ing weird that procreation is considered a sensible life goal in an already overly populated world and people who shun the "settling down and having kids" game in order to live for the moment and enjoy life are considered the backwards ones.

I ask myself this everyday. I get asked this when I'm back where I'm from all the time:

'Do you have a girlfriend yet'
'Do you have any kids?'

I don't get why people who are 24-26 in 2014 would want to settle down and have kids. I just don't get it. It's like everyone has a flipping pram around here! It's like every girl has moved in with her boyfriend as well.

It's like I'm treat like some sort of weird person round here just because I'm not settling down at 26 with a girlfriend and/or having kids!


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We could look at the flip logic and call it weird that an individual in the prime of his life doesn't want to procreate?

This is mainly a social class issue, I'm guessing youre from a fairly working class background where its typical for people to get married and have kids early in life. Among the middle class this generally happens later, usually from late 20s to mid 30.

Yes. It is. If your parents or grandparents expect or hope for you to provide them with grandchildren they are putting there own desires above your own right to decide what happens to your own body

I suppose in a way having children is a way of making sure you are remembered after you have died, this is one of the few ways most people can hope for such a legacy.

Personally kids aren't for me, I don't hate them, I just want my life to be about me, not my offspring, it is rare that a person can juggle being a good parent and do all the activities, hobbys and socialising they did before becoming a parent.


However at a certain point your social circles start becoming populated by married couples and parents, your ability to socialise with them is effected, they start prefering play dates or couples dates over hanging with their friend who in their eyes hasn't got his life together ...because he is enjoying the freedom of not raising a child ...or being married. I dunno, I'm sure it's lovely, but it would do my head it.

Not in the direct sense, but is ****ing weird that procreation is considered a sensible life goal in an already overly populated world and people who shun the "settling down and having kids" game in order to live for the moment and enjoy life are considered the backwards ones.