Family issues, whats your view point

Quick background, I'll soon be 18 and Im a female.

A man cannot pick and choose when to be a father.

Basically, my father left me before I was even born so I know absolutely nothing about him. How he looks, what his name is... nothing.
Growing up, I never questioned where my father was and I never felt like I should meet him. I was and am happy with just being in a household with only my mum and half sister. So anyway, just the other day my mum informed me that my dad sent a letter through the door saying things like "thanks for looking after my daughter, please give her my number" which I found to be completely rude and cheeky, as if to say to my mum "thanks! you've done the hard bit of the child labour, now its my turn to reap what YOU'VE sewn", from a womans perspective; my mothers, i just can't allow him to try and come into contact with me after all my mums hard work, financially and emotionally with me. That is HER work, not shared with any man or woman. Which is one of the reasons I dont want to call him or have any contact with him. Not only that but to be honest, I have always been happy in my life without a father figure. It's not as if I am deprived of a father figure because I have never met him and had that sort of connection in the first place, so if I was to miss this chance of contact with him I really wouldn't care and I'm not the sort to chase after people.
And another question is why does he all of a sudden want to talk to me just as Im about to turn 18? Why when I'll be going to university the following year? Every part of my success in life is only to be shared with my mother and people that have been in my life to help me. I hope he is not wanting to talk to me to try and worm himself into my life now that I am en route to doing great things. Anyway not only that but he should know Im old enough to know that a man can't decide when its suitable for him to be a dad.

So whats your viewpoint and what do you think i should do?

If I were you, I would use this opportunity to tell him exactly what you think of him.

Out of interest, does your half sister have contact with her dad?

If I was in your position, the first thing I'd do is find out what kind of income and wealth levels he has. Wealthy and off a high income then have a relationship as well as mine him for all he is worth. A poor bastard, then tell him you're not interested. Goodbye.

Lmao this made me laugh . You're thinking in my language.. Well tbh Im not really bothered to start making him a problem of mine, but if I decide to Ill do exactly what you said

Thanks

I can't agree more with you about his way to write the letter. It sounded rude and cheeky.
I would of put it as "our daughter" and not "my daughter".

If I were you I would meet him up and give it a shot to be honest. I'd rather do that than later wonder what he looks like, what his name is and perhaps an answer of why he left. After all he's your father. ;o

Hmm you're right but tbh he's not worth my time and energy at all
and yeah she does although he was always in and out of her life when she was younger. Like any other useless dad he's abit more active with her now. Trying to call the house everyday and even telling her off sometimes lmao, overstepping his boundaries really

Interesting that your sisters dad wants to play a bigger part in her life as she is older, just like your dad.

Clearly, your mum has a type.

That isn't really anything terribly unusual. Plenty of men abandon their kids with their ex-lover and then look for those kids again when they are older. Almost always it happens when they are between relationships.

Interesting that your sisters dad wants to play a bigger part in her life as she is older, just like your dad.

Clearly, your mum has a type.

Thats hardly the case actually. If a man makes himself out to be something he's not, basically decieving my mum its hardly her fault.

If she knew that they'd be non exsistent in our lives do you think she'd really stay?

It happens to lots of women. Some, maybe because thats their type..others, just badluck w. men.

I would like to know their train of thought with this though...is it that they are mentally and emotionally more mature to deal with children? Is it that they regret what they have done? Is it that perhaps the grass was not greener? I know a fair few people who this has happened to as well, bf included.