I personally think Dad is trying to tell me that he wants me to learn to be happy if I'm not horny a lot. Yet no matter how much I explain to him that at 22 very few girlfriends are going to put up with you being unable to get an erection or give good sex, he keeps giving me stupid talks about self-esteem.
The fact is I am scared that I have to be more like him (have the T testosterone levels of a 50 year old man, his higher-pitched voice, balding, putting on a pouch…) but I don't want to be old. Not yet. I want to enjoy my youth, but even my own dad doesn't want me to go through my sexual prime.
I don't know how to explain this to anyone, except perhaps a counsellor, and even they like to dodge the issue.