Dropping out
I'm currently only in my first year of uni but i am not enjoying it at all. It was never what I wanted to do and I was forced to apply and then actually got in. Already I've been skipping lectures and seminars because it doesn't cope well with my anxiety and I am just hating every minute I'm there. It's really isolating, especially since I was never given accommodation. All my friends are having a great time at uni and I'm so happy for them it's just not for me and I'm seriously hating it.
I just wanted to know if anyone knew how you go about dropping out? Can't find anything online that helps at all. I assume I'd have to speak to someone in uni about it, just wondering if anyone who has dropped out knows how it will affect my finance and stuff - do i pay it back gradually as someone who graduated would?
Any replies appreciated!
I just wanted to know if anyone knew how you go about dropping out? Can't find anything online that helps at all. I assume I'd have to speak to someone in uni about it, just wondering if anyone who has dropped out knows how it will affect my finance and stuff - do i pay it back gradually as someone who graduated would?
Any replies appreciated!
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Speak to your tutor before you make any drastic actions. You might be able to change course, because you are still early on into your first year.
Original post by x-Venezia-x
Speak to your tutor before you make any drastic actions. You might be able to change course, because you are still early on into your first year.
it's not so much the course just the whole university experience, it really isn't for me and never wanting to go in the first place just makes it worse. I'm not going to be motivated to do well and that'll just waste mine and everyone else's time. But I will speak to them, thank you!
Original post by jaynexo
it's not so much the course just the whole university experience, it really isn't for me and never wanting to go in the first place just makes it worse. I'm not going to be motivated to do well and that'll just waste mine and everyone else's time. But I will speak to them, thank you!
So is it a case that you just don't want to go to University, or you don't want to be doing the subject you currently are at University?
Original post by mackemforever
So is it a case that you just don't want to go to University, or you don't want to be doing the subject you currently are at University?
I don't want to go to univeristy
Original post by Hydroxy
If you drop out now, you'll have to repay some of the student finance you were given.
If you're going to leave it would be best to do it now whilst it's still early or try and push through until the Christmas break.
If you're really not enjoying it then drop out. It is far from the end of the world. If you then go and get a job for a few years you will have had a taste of University and you can decide in future if you ever want to do it again.
Young people are pushed into University in this country when they are 18 and it doesn't happen elsewhere in Europe. In most other European countries you go in your 20's once you've gotten bored of working 9-5 and want to further your life.
You're entitled to a second chance of student finance so you may aswell drop out and if you end up regretting it or changing your mind in future you can just reapply and go back with a bit more maturity and life experience on your shoulders which will probably make it easier the next time round.
If you're going to leave it would be best to do it now whilst it's still early or try and push through until the Christmas break.
If you're really not enjoying it then drop out. It is far from the end of the world. If you then go and get a job for a few years you will have had a taste of University and you can decide in future if you ever want to do it again.
Young people are pushed into University in this country when they are 18 and it doesn't happen elsewhere in Europe. In most other European countries you go in your 20's once you've gotten bored of working 9-5 and want to further your life.
You're entitled to a second chance of student finance so you may aswell drop out and if you end up regretting it or changing your mind in future you can just reapply and go back with a bit more maturity and life experience on your shoulders which will probably make it easier the next time round.
do you know at all if that would be upfront payment or if they'd just gradually take bits from my bank account?
thank you, that really helps and I totally agree. There's way too much pressure on young people here to go straight to university for 3-4 years like it's the only option we have. Thanks for your time and advice!
Original post by Hydroxy
You'll have to ring student finance to discuss the tuition fee installment. They normally pay the first one to the University in mid-October (so you've got about a week to get it stopped).
As for the first student loan installment, they'll work out how long you've been at the University for and say it's two weeks, will then work out how much you were entitled to for those two weeks. Then they'll remove that amount from the initial installment they gave you and demand the rest of it back immediately. If you're not able to pay it back straight away they can discuss alternative payment schedules but it'll make life a lot easier if you can just get that sorted out straight away.
Like I said though, you're best ringing them on Monday, telling them you want to drop out and ask what will happen financially (ask them to give you figures for what they want). It's completely normal for 100s of students to decide they want to drop out in the first few weeks so they'll have dealt with this loads of times before. But like I said, the earlier you sort all of this out, the less complicated it all becomes.
As for the first student loan installment, they'll work out how long you've been at the University for and say it's two weeks, will then work out how much you were entitled to for those two weeks. Then they'll remove that amount from the initial installment they gave you and demand the rest of it back immediately. If you're not able to pay it back straight away they can discuss alternative payment schedules but it'll make life a lot easier if you can just get that sorted out straight away.
Like I said though, you're best ringing them on Monday, telling them you want to drop out and ask what will happen financially (ask them to give you figures for what they want). It's completely normal for 100s of students to decide they want to drop out in the first few weeks so they'll have dealt with this loads of times before. But like I said, the earlier you sort all of this out, the less complicated it all becomes.
Thank you so much, I'll give them a call monday to sort it out
I'm thinking about dropping out too so if it helps your not alone!
like you I don't like the whole uni experience, my halls are disgusting and I don't feel like I'd ever be happy there.
I've also been looking into it and after getting advice from people and my brother who's been through it, they've advised me that if I'm sure of this decision, then it's best to act early so you don't end up losing too much money. This probably didn't help much, but always nice to know of someone else in your situation.
Good luck
like you I don't like the whole uni experience, my halls are disgusting and I don't feel like I'd ever be happy there.
I've also been looking into it and after getting advice from people and my brother who's been through it, they've advised me that if I'm sure of this decision, then it's best to act early so you don't end up losing too much money. This probably didn't help much, but always nice to know of someone else in your situation.
Good luck
Original post by magicalwishes
I'm thinking about dropping out too so if it helps your not alone!
like you I don't like the whole uni experience, my halls are disgusting and I don't feel like I'd ever be happy there.
I've also been looking into it and after getting advice from people and my brother who's been through it, they've advised me that if I'm sure of this decision, then it's best to act early so you don't end up losing too much money. This probably didn't help much, but always nice to know of someone else in your situation.
Good luck
like you I don't like the whole uni experience, my halls are disgusting and I don't feel like I'd ever be happy there.
I've also been looking into it and after getting advice from people and my brother who's been through it, they've advised me that if I'm sure of this decision, then it's best to act early so you don't end up losing too much money. This probably didn't help much, but always nice to know of someone else in your situation.
Good luck
Good luck to you too!
It is definitely nice to hear that I'm not alone in this, have you spoken to your parents about it as well? Think that's the scariest part! Dreading that conversation hahaAre you planning to take a gap year or go into work or do an apprenticeship or?
Original post by jaynexo
Good luck to you too! It is definitely nice to hear that I'm not alone in this, have you spoken to your parents about it as well? Think that's the scariest part! Dreading that conversation haha
Are you planning to take a gap year or go into work or do an apprenticeship or?
It is definitely nice to hear that I'm not alone in this, have you spoken to your parents about it as well? Think that's the scariest part! Dreading that conversation hahaAre you planning to take a gap year or go into work or do an apprenticeship or?
I haven't spoken to my parents directly, but they know something's up (I've come home for abit, so I guess they know I'm not happy). Dreading actually having to tell them though
i think I'm going to have a gap year and work, I still have a job so that's lucky! Then probably reapply for a local uni next year.. That was my plan like 3 months ago, so wish I'd have followed it
Don't drop out until you have some job to fall back on
University has a counselling service that could be worth making use of. Coping with anxiety at uni is hard but coping with anxiety anywhere is hard so no matter what you do it sounds like you could do with some support for the anxiety.
If you've gotta pay so much for the sake of being there for a week it may be useful to give it a bit longer. Dunno not sure how it works.
Nobody feels settled into a week into it. Second year and well into it was the comfortable point for me.
From a fellow ex anxiety sufferer
If you've gotta pay so much for the sake of being there for a week it may be useful to give it a bit longer. Dunno not sure how it works.
Nobody feels settled into a week into it. Second year and well into it was the comfortable point for me.
From a fellow ex anxiety sufferer
Original post by Scott.M
If u are anxious now, u will also be anxious in the world of work. You can't hide forever, and not attending lectures/seminars is only prolonging the problem. If you actually went your anxiety would start to go away
what a load of crap.
Original post by a10
what a load of crap.
Explain?
Edit: lol nvm, quick look thru your profile reveals
(edited 9 years ago)
Original post by Scott.M
Explain?
Yes because looking at my profile description reveals I'm a troll?
anyway..The environment at university specifically halls and lectures is nothing like a work environment.
Anxiety can be a very difficult thing to overcome and for some people the university type environment can be a living hell and only makes their anxiety even worse i.e. a lot of people will feel very isolated, find it hard to make friends etc.
Hey, I have anxiety and I know how hard uni is when you've got that to deal with as well.
Four years ago I was in your exact position. I dropped out, which was for a mixture of anxiety and general dislike of uni life/hate of course. I decided to reapply for a different course at a different university, a fresh start. The idea of not going to uni was not an option for me, due to pressure from upbringing and society I guess. I got good A-Levels which usually increases the pressure. So anyway, a year later I did go back. First year was tough but I didn't want to drop out this time, I was determined. So I carried on through the tears and the sickness it made me feel. It got more bearable and I enjoyed my subject. Anyway, I graduated in July. I can safely say I don't feel my degree has added anything to my profile. It is pretty much useful for me and is not worth the paper it's written on to be honest. For this reason, I don't think it is worth putting yourself through this. In hindsight, I wish I'd have done an apprenticeship or something.
Having said that, it may depend on your subject. Some will enhance your career prospects more than others, but there are still other options in life than uni. It is not the be all and end all, I assure you. Obviously it seems like that on TSR because it's for students.
Four years ago I was in your exact position. I dropped out, which was for a mixture of anxiety and general dislike of uni life/hate of course. I decided to reapply for a different course at a different university, a fresh start. The idea of not going to uni was not an option for me, due to pressure from upbringing and society I guess. I got good A-Levels which usually increases the pressure. So anyway, a year later I did go back. First year was tough but I didn't want to drop out this time, I was determined. So I carried on through the tears and the sickness it made me feel. It got more bearable and I enjoyed my subject. Anyway, I graduated in July. I can safely say I don't feel my degree has added anything to my profile. It is pretty much useful for me and is not worth the paper it's written on to be honest. For this reason, I don't think it is worth putting yourself through this. In hindsight, I wish I'd have done an apprenticeship or something.
Having said that, it may depend on your subject. Some will enhance your career prospects more than others, but there are still other options in life than uni. It is not the be all and end all, I assure you. Obviously it seems like that on TSR because it's for students.
Original post by a10
Yes because looking at my profile description reveals I'm a troll? anyway..
The environment at university specifically halls and lectures is nothing like a work environment.
Anxiety can be a very difficult thing to overcome and for some people the university type environment can be a living hell and only makes their anxiety even worse i.e. a lot of people will feel very isolated, find it hard to make friends etc.
anyway..The environment at university specifically halls and lectures is nothing like a work environment.
Anxiety can be a very difficult thing to overcome and for some people the university type environment can be a living hell and only makes their anxiety even worse i.e. a lot of people will feel very isolated, find it hard to make friends etc.
If you simply attend lectures, then yes you will be isolated. You have to make the effort and join societies etc.
However I would argue just sitting in a lecture theater is a lot less anxiety-provoking than dealing with colleagues and customers in the world of work. So if you can't face a lecture, you can't face that. Halls fair enough, however after a year you live with flatmates who you will become comfortable around eventually.
I can see why they'd hate it ATM, as the first month or so is where everyone is constantly socialising, partying etc. However it quietens down after that.
Original post by magicalwishes
I haven't spoken to my parents directly, but they know something's up (I've come home for abit, so I guess they know I'm not happy). Dreading actually having to tell them though
i think I'm going to have a gap year and work, I still have a job so that's lucky! Then probably reapply for a local uni next year.. That was my plan like 3 months ago, so wish I'd have followed it
i think I'm going to have a gap year and work, I still have a job so that's lucky! Then probably reapply for a local uni next year.. That was my plan like 3 months ago, so wish I'd have followed it
Yeah that's definitely good that you still have a job, it'll give you time to think things through while still doing something really productive with your time
I hope it goes well for you!
Original post by sunnydespair
Don't drop out until you have some job to fall back on
I've applied for some jobs I'm still waiting to hear back from and I've been looking at apprenticeships that I like the sound of
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