It's been 2 weeks since my ex girlfriend dumped me. I moved from the west coast of Wales (Aberystwyth) to London on a Sunday. I saw my girlfriend every day of that week. On the Friday we were both in tears because we weren't going to get to see each other as often and then again on the Saturday we were crying our eyes out. She dumped me on the Tuesday. 3 days after I'd last seen her crying over the fact that we were going to miss each other! She broke it off over the phone by first starting the conversation with "You're too good for me" then saying "I'm sorry". I caught on to what was happening then.
There had been absolutely no signs of our relationship going the way it did. She had been my best friend for 3 years and we spent so much time together. Her parents and I got on incredibly well, so much so that they invited me to go on holiday to Amsterdam/Bruges/Brussels with them, which was great, as well as paying for me and her to go to Sonisphere festival together. So we did quite a lot of cool **** together and I loved it. As stupid as it sounds it really always felt like me and her against the world. Anyway, back to the phone call. She was really cold talking to me, complete lack of empathy. I was blubbering and sobbing ridiculously and she wasn't budging at all. She said "I have stuff that I want to do" and by this she meant getting high and ****faced, something neither of us did or ever expressed any interest in doing. She'd recently moved from her school 6th form to the local college, and obviously in doing so she met new people. She told me on more than one occasion that there were a lot of stoners at college and that her friends knew a lot of dealers. I didn't think too much of it because like I said, it never seemed like anything she wanted to do. After she had said what she did I asked her if by "stuff" she meant getting high and pissed off her tits and she coldly replied "so what If I do?".
How someone can change from crying over the fact that they're going to miss someone so much to telling the same person to basically **** off within the space of 3 days is beyond me. I ended the conversation because the phone signal where I live is awful and I kept having to ring her back in order for her to dump me so I got fed up and said that I was going to hang up because I didn't want to have to phone her back again. Next day I texted her asking if we could talk properly on the phone because we'd been through so much (good and bad) **** together over the course of 3 years and I didn't want everything to end on bad terms. I also felt like I deserved a proper explanation. Long story short she replied saying "Ok", I texted back asking when would be a good time to talk, got no reply for the entire day, tried again, still no reply and then finally a text saying "I have nothing more to say to you" . Tried phoning but she just hung up every time. I don't know how desperate and pathetic all this makes me sound but seriously, after 3 years with hardly any arguments or falling outs and both of us (apparently) fully committed to what was about to become a long distance relationship, I did not see this coming.
On top of all this, not even a week had passed, maybe 4/5 days and I learn she's going out with someone else. And the cherry on top of the cake for me has to be the fact that he looks like Sloth from The Goonies. Honest to God he does. Worst of all is that she was showing me this guy's Facebook profile and talking about how much of a stoner he was a good week before I moved. So I guess in that sense there were minor hints but then still that's nothing major, is it?I thought our relationship was on such good terms that showing me this guy she met in college just meant nothing.
To finish this unfortunately long post, I still have no clear idea as to why she dumped me. Piecing everything together, it seems like a mixture of things. I don't think she felt like she could commit to a long distance relationship, and she's the type of person who doesn't commit to things anyway, like if she's working on something, anything, a book, a piece of artwork, she won't usually finish it. Although she obviously somehow committed to me for over 3 years but like I said, distance might've scared her off. I also think that she'd been seeing or thinking about Sloth from The Goonies for a while, she'd been at college a good month and she has a history of relationships ending badly with other guys involved so that would make painful sense. Then there's also the lifestyle change that she probably thinks she needs in order for her to fit in with new people, and without me there to spend time with, I'm guessing that the drink and drugs are a way for her to spend her time, and that Sloth is a gateway into that.
I just want to know what other people think. All my motivation is gone. My confidence is gone. I have every post break up symptom there is. I honestly can't see what her side of the story would be. If it was the distance, she should've just talked to me about it before I moved. It would still hurt but it would've been better than to end it in such a cold, cryptic stupid way. She was my first love. I had never had a proper girlfriend before her (she'd had about 5 boyfriends) so that also makes it harder for me. So there we go, what do you guys think?