What does a geek think when he sees a really pretty geek?

you're the inwardly geeky pretty girl in this story, aren't you?

I think the girl would just be treated like everybody else. You're totally overthinking it.

You need to stop assuming that people would judge a book by its cover.

I don't look "stereotypically geeky" but I role-play. Nobody thinks anything of it.


What would the other geeky people think of this newcomer? - they'd be curious about her LARPing background as they would with any other newcomer.

Would they assume that she's not a genuine geek, that's into the same stuff as them? - no.

Would they dismiss anything she said about her geeky interests as being "the obvious answer" when they asked? - And would this be judged on her appearance or actual interests? - appearance is irrelevant

Would they be attracted to her? - maybe, depends if you're their type, and whether or not they're single. Same as anybody else in any other situation.

Would some feel intimidated by her? - not unless they're insecure, same as in any other situation.

Would some feel the need to make sure she stays in the club? - to boost the social standing of the club? - it's really shallow, but I'm only asking out of curiosity. - no

Would they discuss this among their peers when she's (not) around? - no more than they would anyone else

In my experiences (as a female geek), things can get very hostile. I know this one guy that gets very hostile when there's more than one female attending the local wargames club. His cynicism has gotten to the point where he started hating me (and we were pretty much best friends a few years ago, too). These type of people would assume she knows nothing about being a geek, or anything that they know about.

However, some people don't care if there's a geeky girl.

Yeah, I think most people that were there didn't seem to care, but there were these two guys that criticised EVERYTHING that came out of my mouth, and kept saying stuff like "Oh, that's the obvious answer" and making some in-joke about it, knowing I wouldn't get the reference. But I just thought they would be like that to everyone, until this other girl came along, who had the exact same interests as me, and she looked and acted more like the stereotype, and they didn't say a thing about/ to her. It was because of that, ​that got me thinking.

you're the inwardly geeky pretty girl in this story, aren't you?

I think the girl would just be treated like everybody else. You're totally overthinking it.

You need to stop assuming that people would judge a book by its cover.

I don't look "stereotypically geeky" but I role-play. Nobody thinks anything of it.


What would the other geeky people think of this newcomer? - they'd be curious about her LARPing background as they would with any other newcomer.

Would they assume that she's not a genuine geek, that's into the same stuff as them? - no.

Would they dismiss anything she said about her geeky interests as being "the obvious answer" when they asked? - And would this be judged on her appearance or actual interests? - appearance is irrelevant

Would they be attracted to her? - maybe, depends if you're their type, and whether or not they're single. Same as anybody else in any other situation.

Would some feel intimidated by her? - not unless they're insecure, same as in any other situation.

Would some feel the need to make sure she stays in the club? - to boost the social standing of the club? - it's really shallow, but I'm only asking out of curiosity. - no

Would they discuss this among their peers when she's (not) around? - no more than they would anyone else

Yes, you hit the nail on the head - it is me.

You see, I thought the exact same thing as you, that looks don't matter and such, until I went to join this club. The existing members were normal, but it was these other two newcomers that were the problem. They basically made fun of everything I said, and when this other girl came in having the exact same interests as me, they didn't say anything about/ to her, which is what got me thinking.

For all I know, it may not even have anything to do with appearance, and it could be an issue of race (since I am the only black person to join the club, and one of the few ethnic people to live in the area) but I personally think a majority of the UK has moved on from that.

Yes, you hit the nail on the head - it is me.

You see, I thought the exact same thing as you, that looks don't matter and such, until I went to join this club. The existing members were normal, but it was these other two newcomers that were the problem. They basically made fun of everything I said, and when this other girl came in having the exact same interests as me, they didn't say anything about/ to her, which is what got me thinking.

For all I know, it may not even have anything to do with appearance, and it could be an issue of race (since I am the only black person to join the club, and one of the few ethnic people to live in the area) but I personally think a majority of the UK has moved on from that.