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Being a loner at university

So I just started university, & I have no friends. I have tried to socialise with the people on my course, but we just don't click. I have small talk with the students living in my halls, but they're all international students & are always busy running off to lectures. I have been to the SU bar a few times, but the people I meet are solely acquaintances. So I do talk now and again to people; I'm not quiet or shy.

I'm a friendly, polite person; I have loads of friends back home, indeed I have always been 'popular'. But something at university is just not clicking for me. I'm at a pretty intensive institution, & I would honestly prefer writing an essay or going to the library than socialising; it makes me much happier.

I just want to be alone; is this wrong? My friends back home keep telling me that it's weird, that university is supposed to be entertaining, but I did a lot of partying before I came here, & I'm at a point in my life where I'm incredibly jaded by that type of social atmosphere, & just want to concentrate on attaining the best I can in my degree.

Is what I'm doing wrong? Should I make more of an effort to socialise? [Even though I already have?]

Reply 1

TroyAndAbed

There's no point in forcing yourself to socialise if it isn't what you want to do. I'd recommend trying out volunteering/societies if you haven't as it gives you something to do that isn't just related to your course & there will be some like-minded people to talk to even if it is just once a week or whatever. :smile:

Extracurriculars are good to have on your CV too as you need more than just a degree these days.

Reply 2

DeadEnd_96

some people make friends quicker than others. It takes me a really long time to make friends, but i'm definitely sure you will make some friends within a month or two. Just keep talking to different people, if you don't click with them, then move on to another person. Good Luck! :smile:

Reply 3

KJane

It took me a few weeks to fall in with a group of friends at University, before that I just had the small talk with a few others too. Have you gone to any societies?